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Involvement = Commitment. Monday July 11, 2016

One of my favourite scenes in movie history is 56 seconds from the film, "The Full Monty."

In it, you see an articulation of the magic of what happens when a fragmented group commit to a common cause. This seems rather relevant to the challenges facing the UK's political parties at the time of writing! The leader of the group, who has some relevant dancing experience, is seeking to choreograph the team to make a coordinated set of moves. It just doesn't happen!

He loses his temper and swears at the team. All he wants them to do is come forward in a straight line and lift their right hands as one.

Something beautiful happens when the group takes ownership of the problem. One of them has an Aha! moment where he understands the solution in his own terms. In a flash of insight, he perceives the dance move to be like, "The Arsenal Offside Trap"! He says, "Lumper, here, is Tony Adams..." and he continues. "If any ******* looks like scoring, we all come forward in a straight line and wave our hands around like a fairy!"

Politically correct, he is not. Functionally correct and effective, he is!

The clip is the best articulation I know of what Harvard's Professor Howard Gardner calls, 'Multiple Intelligence'. Building on the initial moment of insight (Reflective Intelligence), the team then engage to put the concept in their own words (Linguistic Intelligence), work out the sequences of moves (Physical and Mathematical/Logical Intelligence), work in solidarity (Social Intelligence), arrange themselves at the right distance from one another (Visual/Spatial Intelligence), and all in time to the music (Musical Intelligence). They get involved, intelligently... and as a result, show commitment and remain committed to the result.

I wish I was more mature than I am at times, but the truth is I am an emotional being! On three occasions recently I have not been involved in decisions that directly affect my well-being. The result (immaturely) is that I am in no-way committed to the outcomes. In fact, if there is any way I can throw a spanner in the works, I will! I realise that this is my inner-chimp, but he needs respect or at least a banana!

With a little bit of detachment, I can see my emotional reaction as typical of many of the issues I encounter in organisational and family conflicts around the World. The lack of respect shown in a corresponding lack of involvement leads at best to passive aggression and a will to revolt!

So if you need commitment from your team (or family), be prepared to involve them in the decisions that are made. They may not have the right, the power, or the authority, but they do have a will... and it would be far better for you if their will was in your favour! Even if you finally make a decision they don't agree with, you may be surprised by how supportive they will remain if, and only if, you involve them intelligently and respectfully.

Lex
A Moodscope member.

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LillyPet Mon, Jul 11th 2016 @ 7:41am

Morning Lex,
I loved your full monty example about getting everyone involved towards a common goal.
Much more motivating for everyone to be able to tap into their own experience and creativity, than try to understand a personal point of view. This will help me come up with a small team building task for the autumn!
Family issues can run deep and are often either not addressed or flare up as old negative patterns are repeated. So maybe there's another way forward! Lots of food for thought. Thanks Lex. Hugs to all LPxx

Lex Mon, Jul 11th 2016 @ 7:53am

Hi LillyPet, isn't this one of the wonderful reasons Moodscope works? The fact that anyone can write and share a blogpost? I love this involvement - thank you Caroline and Adrian. L'x

S Mon, Jul 11th 2016 @ 8:25am

Thank you Lex, this is so very apt at the moment on a wider scale and also on a personal level. Yesterday, a negative family pattern played out- not disastrous though painful. My chimp got involved like yours- thank you for sharing this and helping me feel less alone. We have a situation at work where we were not kept in the loop and as a result a group of us do not feel committed to a project- I feel like showing your blog to the managers. They think we are bothered by the result but it is the way it has been handled. So having been on different 'sides' of this situation, I will think of better ways forward and more importantly start to put them in place. Sx PS love the fact you said that you chimp at least needs a banana!

Lex Mon, Jul 11th 2016 @ 4:42pm

Hi S, I actually 'love' my chimp! I think it's OK to let him play occasionally, after all, he's part of me and part of my history and family tree! Would be great to hear how you get on. Inclusion is the solution! L'x

Orangeblossom Mon, Jul 11th 2016 @ 8:26am

Hi Lex, thanks very much for your blog, which, as ever was helpful, thought-provoking & stimulating. A good read!

Lex Mon, Jul 11th 2016 @ 4:43pm

Thanks, Orangeblossom... I hope you're having a great day. L'x

Mary Wednesday Mon, Jul 11th 2016 @ 12:45pm

Memo to me: buy more bananas to feed my family when I don't involve them in decisions!

Lex Mon, Jul 11th 2016 @ 4:45pm

It could become a code, Dear Mary... "Dear Family, have a banana." "Why Mum?" "'cos you've no say in what's gonna happen next!" lol. What a coup! L'x [Then you could get them to wear their bananas like a smile!]

the room above the garage Mon, Jul 11th 2016 @ 5:05pm

Thank you Lex, I can't stand being told what to do, so i'd be the chimp next to you! Love ratg x.

The Gardener Mon, Jul 11th 2016 @ 5:10pm

I was in UK last week, and, like everyone, waiting with bated (fairly) breath to see what the clowns who run the country will do next. We may be French residents, but all our revenue stems from UK, so we have a vested interest in the running of the country - not to mention children and grand-children trying to make a living (and no hope of ever buying a house, the young generation). Bit of an aside, but a background to 'commitment'. In the 70's I worked as a temp, some secretarial but mostly on statistics. How the country runs is still a mystery. One of the biggest UK companies had a 'side shoot' in the South. Nine major directors flew down for a finance meeting - I prepared everything, and the dozy manageress did not print them! Three temps turned up on Monday morning at a multi-national (always near London Airport) to find only two typewriters and the one giving instructions did a sicky. Best was an export firm - dealing world-wide you did not have 'hours'. I was put on the telex (never used one) because the telex operator was spending lunchtime with one of the typists. The manager could not say anything because his lunch hour (hours) was spent in bed with someone else's wife - blackmail hovered over the whole office. Departments were often in competition with each other instead of with another company. During the whole of that decade (you've never had it so good) rank inefficiency was swallowed up in price rises. No different here - Brittany and Normandy have traditionally been at war for centuries. The Mairie here, Normandy, hired a secretary from Brittany - she had an awful record, but the Bretons did not let on. Within a very short time she was slanging her new bosses on Social Media - took months to get rid of her. I have a rather smug credo, I will not join an organisation unless I can commit myself to it. Life horrendous here, which often leads to digging into the past - future scary - so, sorry for the lecture!

Mary Wednesday Mon, Jul 11th 2016 @ 9:04pm

I still remember starting work as an auditor in the 80s/ We audited a brewery. I was the only sober one for a week - because I was teetotal - what a shame!

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