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In the End, There Is Only Room for Love. Saturday June 27, 2015

This is the title of a very beautiful, touching letter I read last night. It was a letter published online, written by Poorna Bell, Executive Editor of The Huffington Post to her husband who took his own life in May 2015.

Have a read. I think you might find it insightful, interesting and extremely touching:

Let's all help Poorna 'bang that big drum' to raise awareness around depression by passing this link on to everyone you know who may be feeling down or may have been affected by a similar situation - or, in fact, everyone you know as sometimes we don't know if people are affected or not.

Thank you.

Kind regards.

Caroline Ashcroft
The Moodscope team.

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Anonymous Sat, Jun 27th 2015 @ 7:45am

Dear Caroline,
Thank you for posting this link. I've stopped crying now, and have written to Poorna. What a brave and courageous woman she is, to share this raw grief and an understanding of it - especially when it has only just happened. I shall be sending the link on. Karen :/

Anonymous Sat, Jun 27th 2015 @ 8:39am

As with Karen above I cried a lot reading this incredible letter earlier today. A lot to think about. I also noted the reminders below it to organisations like Samaritans where people can find someone outside of their immediate circle of support who would simply listen. Hopefully helping towards breaking through these potentially lethal internal and dark cycles of conversation that are characteristic of a depressed mind. Thankyou for putting this on today Caroline. Jen x

Julia Sat, Jun 27th 2015 @ 8:48am

Oh so many issues raised from this moving piece of writing, I can't begin to comment except to say that my immediate thought was of Philip Larkin's poem, An Arundel Tomb and the last line (which is the only one I can remember) "What will survive of us is love"

Mary Blackhurst Hill Sat, Jun 27th 2015 @ 10:52am

I read these words this morning, just two days after my uncle (brother to the previous uncle you know about) took his last struggling, laboured breath and, at last, after three years of fighting right up to the line, died and is at rest. He did not suffer from depression and studied to understand how it could have taken his younger brother, my father, and how it threatens my siblings and me. Vasculitis took him five days before his 72nd birthday. Depression took my father at 32. I love the words Poona writes "mental illness is exactly the same as cancer. It is exactly the same as a cardiac arrest. No amount of love, medical care or money can help prevent it if it's terminal." What a wonderful, understanding woman.

Leah Sat, Jun 27th 2015 @ 11:33am

Thanks for sharing the link.
I echo what the 4 wise women have said before me,
"We must make it easier for people to reach out when the blackness threatens to swallow them whole. We must give men the space, voice and understanding to be scared and vulnerable and not see it as weakness"
To me that says it all. She is a strong compassionate woman.

Anonymous Sat, Jun 27th 2015 @ 12:59pm

Sending you love, hugs and prayers Mary.
What a wise woman Poorna is - thank-you for sharing this Caroline.

Anonymous Sat, Jun 27th 2015 @ 1:32pm

Deepest, heartfelt sympathies are with you from me, Karen x

Mary Blackhurst Hill Sat, Jun 27th 2015 @ 3:19pm

I love that poem: (this might not be accurate, as I haven't looked it up, but this is the start of it)

Side by side, their faces blurred
The Earl and Countess lie in stone.
Their proper habits vaguely shown
As jointed armour, stiffened pleat
And, that faint hint of the absurd
The little dog under their feet.

Such plainness of the pre-baroque
Hardly involves the eye until
It meets his left hand gauntlet, still
Clasped empty in the other
And one sees, with a sharp tender shock
His hand withdrawn, holding her hand.

Julia Sat, Jun 27th 2015 @ 3:46pm

Yes this is it. You know this off by heart then Mary. Well done. I did look it up to make sure I had the right title.
I was very sorry to read that your father took his own life at 32. I am not sure if you have mentioned this before? I know your uncle was a father to you from your blogs. xx

Anonymous Sat, Jun 27th 2015 @ 5:13pm

Just exactly this. Quite speechless right now. Much love from the room above the garage x.

Anonymous Sun, Jun 28th 2015 @ 12:21am

The link does not seem to work, it only takes me to this blog...:(

Anonymous Sun, Jun 28th 2015 @ 11:02am

Wonderful. This has touched me even more than this letter by Poorna Bell. I did not know this poem before. Love is essential, but it may not always be enough to hold one back from that abyss of blackness. Sometimes you just cannot give someone the amount of love they need. Sometimes you just cannot right all the wrongs life has bestowed on someone. Then you just have to let them go, don't you? I hope this never happens to me. Neither way. JohnWalker

Karen Sun, Jun 28th 2015 @ 11:16am

Anon, It's on the Huffington Post blog, if that helps?

Anonymous Sun, Jun 28th 2015 @ 12:22pm

Hi there, cut and paste this URL:

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