I'm here for you.

28 Oct 2017
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I know words won't take away your pain.

But I'm here for you.

When you feel like no one cares, I do.

I'm here for you.

When others judge, or criticize, or roll their eyes, I won't.

I'm here for you.

If it's 3 am and you don't want to burden anyone, call me.

I'm here for you.

If it seems so dark and the walls are closing in, I'll be your light and guide you.

I'm here for you.

If you feel like no one understands, I do. I've been there.

And I'm here for you.

When you can think of nothing good to say about yourself, I have a long list of good I see in you, right here for you.

When you can think of no reason to go on, I will be your reason.

I need to be here for you.

When you are upset for no reason, you don't need to give me a reason to be here for you.

When you don't want advice or a lecture, and you just need someone to sit with you,

I'll sit here with you.

When you feel like you have failed, you haven't.

You were here for me.

Now I'm here for you.

I just love this poem which was published by Amie Merz, a counselor based in the US who writes a blog on healthyplace.com.

I hope you all have someone who would be there if you needed them. And if not, the Moodscope community are always here for you.

Caroline

The Moodscope team.

A Moodscope member.

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Molly

Oct. 29, 2017, 1:08 a.m.

This is lovely - made me feel a bit choked up - thank you Caroline xx

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Lucas

Oct. 29, 2017, 5:23 a.m.

This is timely for me, but I'm not even sure if I feel like I can talk about what's troubling me right now.

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NellyGrace

Oct. 29, 2017, 6:35 a.m.

Hi Lucas, Sorry to hear that you are finding it hard to talk about how you are feeling. I try and write down how I feel , even if I just tear it up afterwards. Writing on the Moodscope graph and going back periodically to re-read helps me too. I find doing this clarifies things enough that on some occasions I can put into words a little more easily how I am feeling to someone I trust, although it is never easy there is some relief in saying it out loud. Hope your day today is a better one.

Sally

Oct. 29, 2017, 7:25 a.m.

That’s very good advice, NellyGrace.

LP

Oct. 29, 2017, 8:30 a.m.

Hi Lucas, I'm glad you posted. Just what you said was enough. As the poem says, you don't have to explain or find words for us. We are here for you. LP xx

Lucas

Oct. 29, 2017, 4:27 p.m.

I've done a little bit of writing so far, trying to collect my thoughts. It's showing me where I've attached extra importance to one thing or another that's making it more complicated for myself. The short of things, which I managed to start texting a friend this much, is that a "hope" for my future has pretty much been cut off, so I'm not feeling good about where things are going or myself. I've gone into detail with another friend, but I guess it's not enough for me yet. I've been feeling anxiety with this, which is unusual for me. Normally it's just varying degrees of depression. I'll probably see about moving up my next therapist appointment.

NellyGrace

Oct. 29, 2017, 5:06 p.m.

Sounds like you are taking some good first steps and good idea re therapist appointment. Wishing you all the best.

Ach UK

Oct. 29, 2017, 6:08 a.m.

Thank you Caroline a wonderful poem indeed, I can't stop crying. Tears of sorrow for the child who did not understand, Grief for the child who felt abandoned, Pain for the hurt done to all, And joy that someone understands.

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Sally

Oct. 29, 2017, 7:27 a.m.

Beautifully put, Ach UK

Ach UK

Oct. 29, 2017, 9:31 a.m.

Thanks Sally. So glad I came across Moodscope, the similarities and differences of Moodscopers' experiences and their generous honesty in the blogs is a great anchor when I feel anxious, alone and insecure. And the humour herein is a real tonic. Perhaps the difficulty is to be in a place where one can be be strong enough to allow oneself to see. Thank you to the Moodscope Team for all their support, and their continuing willingness to keep going.

The Gardener

Oct. 29, 2017, 10:40 a.m.

Agree utterly Ach UK. Know quite a few people with problems (most fetch up round my kitchen table) have suggested Moodscope - so far no takers - can't be a good salesman. But I think their lives are spent on Face Book, no exaggeration - but there you're only communicating with one person - here you have a pool of people from different countries, views -real thing in common, articulate (unless having a rant late at night!) Thanks Caroline, lovely

roberta

Oct. 29, 2017, 6:27 a.m.

Thank you Caroline, the poem is beautiful. Mostly I'm the only one to be there for me but I'm learning that could be ok. Also I'm learning that to get help I need to trust someone and ask for it.

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Orangeblossom

Oct. 29, 2017, 6:33 a.m.

Thanks for the blog Caroline. I love the poem & find the Moodscope blogs irresistible. Thanks also for your support & encouragement which is much valued & appreciated.

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Hopeful One

Oct. 29, 2017, 6:41 a.m.

Hi Caroline- thank you for a such a lovely poem- and if one does find such a person do not let them go!It so happens that I find myself in the position of'such a person' for a friend who is in the depth of a depression so bad that he made an attempt at self harm recently.Your poem gave me a check list to refer to if I am unsure what I should do. I suggested Moodscope to him but with no success- he is too depressed to do anything. I haven't tried a laugh in case he feels I am somehow trivialising his condition .What do fellow Moodscopers think? Attending a wedding for the first time, a little girl whispered to her mother, "Why is the bride dressed in white?" "Because white is the colour of happiness and today is the happiest day of her life," her mother explained, keeping it simple. The child thought about this for a moment, and then asked, "So,in that case why's the groom wearing black?"

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LP

Oct. 29, 2017, 8:41 a.m.

Lol! Nice one :)) I'd say that face to face you're able to judge when a laugh might lighten the mood. What's great about your written jokes is that there is space. No reaction necessary and even a choice about whether to read it. Maybe little slips of paper in a gift of a box of Vitamin Ls would be nice if you have the time. One to be taken each morning and nice and during the day as required! Thank you for raising a smile for us. I feel like there's always room for one. LPxx

Hopeful One

Oct. 29, 2017, 5:49 p.m.

Hi LP - thank you for your suggestion. I am glad to see that you enjoy my little jokes. Vitamin L as you say,

Sally

Oct. 29, 2017, 7:24 a.m.

This is lovely, Caroline. Wish I’d had it for poor friend who took her own life mid May...it says it all. I only hope I can be that person who is there for others, any time... I hope you are in a good place today, Caroline, and best wishes to all Moodscopers out there.

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Ach UK

Oct. 29, 2017, 9:35 a.m.

Big hugs Sally ( if you don't mind hugs :)).

Sally

Oct. 30, 2017, 8:51 p.m.

Thanks Ach UK. I certainly do accept hugs! ;)).

DAVE

Oct. 29, 2017, 7:59 a.m.

When, all alone in thought, where the world is crowding in, no one can feel so alone and so lonely, there's no energy, there's no light, because there's no tunnel, we're lost for a season, wrapped in Cotton wool, so delicate are we. Unable to reach out, to hold a hand, as our hands are down. Even so difficult sometimes to express our innermost feelings of internal pain and confusion. We must strive to feel and see that pain between the lines of moodscopers, like myself, who this year suffered 5 months, loosing the 'Tiller' unable to steer through the very simplest of tasks. We need oneanother more when in 'Down tims', and we need to be there when the tunnel returns, and the light so brightly shines, for it is in these times we lift our own self esteem, we are of use, worthy and able to lift the hands of others who time has come once again in that dark place. These episodes are a blessing in disguise, understanding how powerful and effective compassion really is, and all your kind efforts Caroline are so worthwhile to so many. Thank you for sharing such and expressive poem. *** bless you. Dave.

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LP

Oct. 29, 2017, 8:44 a.m.

That's a lovely reply Dave, thank you. LP xx

Sarah yellow rose

Oct. 29, 2017, 8:12 a.m.

Thank you Caroline, I really needed those words today. Moodscope feels such a safe community it's a great comfort.

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LP

Oct. 29, 2017, 8:50 a.m.

Hi Caroline, That's a wonderful poem. To be held in a safe secure and understanding place with no pressure or expectations is such a comfort. Thank you and the team so much. Big hugs to you and all. LP xx

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Lexi

Oct. 29, 2017, 9:35 a.m.

Hi Caroline, thank you so much for sharing this poem. It's beautiful. I am so thankful for Moodscope and the support I've received over the years. It's kept me going xo Lexi

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waterfall

Oct. 29, 2017, 10:02 a.m.

Hello Caroline What an incredible poem, I do admire people who can write poetry, when in hospital I met people who wrote when they were very down, but were not able when up? If it's 3am really resonated with me as I wake at 3am and cannot get back to sleep again, though this morning it was 2am if only the blinking clocks hadn't gone back. We have a lot of apples this year so I'm going to make chutney this morning, that will hopefully keep my mind busy. Thanks again Caroline and the team, you are a great help to lots of Moodscopers. The sun has got it's hat on at this "Moment" Bye for now.

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Benjamin

Oct. 29, 2017, 10:59 a.m.

It's an interesting poem. It is, in essence, an offer. The question I raise: will it be accepted? I hope, for the sake of the person who tendered it, that it will; because, in a very real sense, the poem is a cry to be loved.

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Linda

Oct. 29, 2017, 11:58 a.m.

Thank you Caroline, Today is a bad one for me..my son, daughter in Law and one month old grandson are going to my ex husbands 70th birthday party with all him, his new wife and his family who were my family too for 33 years. I am so very alone and can't seem to find my way to a 'happy' place. Your poem was good to read and helped me to cope today. I hope you have a good day.

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Jul

Oct. 29, 2017, 12:33 p.m.

I was about to comment on Caroline's poem and saw your post Linda. I feel so sorry for you. Does your son actually want to go to his father's 70th without you? Or does he feel duty bound to go? When will you next see your one month old grandson? I would feel like you do in these circumstances. Are you still in touch with your ex husband's family? I am sure you will be missed and I can't see how the party can go with a bang without you there. So cruel to leave you alone on this day and not invite you. Julxx

Linda

Oct. 29, 2017, 12:57 p.m.

Hi Jul, Thanks for your kindness. My son obviously loves his father and he must accept what his father did. It is a difficult situation for him and he was torn for years but just as my husbands family, he must accept what the situation is now and get on with it. The family are still in contact with me but on these special occasions I am not asked and neither could I cope with being there with the new wife who has taken my place. I have been to a couple of gatherings to make life easier for my son but it is so bad for me and my well being. I see my grandson each week and he is adorable but my anticipated family life with us as grandparents was shattered and its just pieces I am trying to keep together. I am grateful for your understanding and wish you a wonderful weekend. Linda

Jul

Oct. 29, 2017, 1:16 p.m.

I am glad you see your Grandson each week! I totally agree it would be awful to be in the same company as the new wife. It sounds as if she is quite a recent acquisition. I always say to people on their own who feel lonely on Christmas day (it could be me one day) that it's just one day which will soon be over. I do appreciate that you have this struggle every day and sadness but your grandson won't care who you are with. He will demand your attention and love you no matter what. But I do feel for you alot. We are getting packed up ready to go back to the UK tomorrow. Been in France for two weeks and may not come to the French house over the winter save for a couple of days in November/ December to sign some papers as it's SO cold with our only heat source being wood burning stoves.. So I am trying to tidy and clean. It's turned very cold here today. Take care and look after Number One today at least. It's ten past two here so the day is getting on. Soon be over:)Jul ***

Jul

Oct. 29, 2017, 1:18 p.m.

Just one more thing I meant to say it must be much worse to be left for someone else later on in life. Very hard to cope with. Jul ***

Linda

Oct. 29, 2017, 3:37 p.m.

Hi Jul, Thanks and have a safe trip home. I was actually left when I was 65 after 33 years of marriage...so you are right! its very difficult to start out alone when you are older. Just got to get on with it as best I can..prepare for it to be cold here too as temperatures dropped today. Kind regards xx

Jul

Oct. 29, 2017, 12:35 p.m.

Hello Caroline. I don't know this poem but it is very comforting. Thank you for letting us see it and for the link to the Amie Merz's blogs. I hope you are having a good Sunday and making the most of the extra hour. Jul ***

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Valerie

Oct. 29, 2017, 3:37 p.m.

Writing this with blurred vision-lovely poem.Moodscope is such a simple but quite wonderful thing to be part of.Such compassionate,non-judgemental comment and support,available to all.Many thanks to Caroline and all who make this possible.

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Linda

Oct. 29, 2017, 3:57 p.m.

Caroline, Thanks for the posting...it made a rough day much better..Linda

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Nicco

Oct. 29, 2017, 4:22 p.m.

Thank you so much for that lovely poem, Caroline. I really needed to hear that today. It must be wonderful to have someone to turn to no matter what or when. We all do the best we can with the cards we have been dealt in life, and to be there for others helps, too. x Nicco x

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Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope

Oct. 29, 2017, 11:23 p.m.

Thanks everyone for your lovely comments. You can all thank yourselves as well as you are the ones that provide support for each other. Carolinex

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Salt Water Mum

Oct. 30, 2017, 12:20 a.m.

Thank you Caroline for sharing this poem and Linda, I wanted to say I was thinking of you today - even though today is over now. I'm separated too, younger, and my kids are with me but it is those dreams we have of sharing special events together and it's hard when they no longer exist. My exh is with a new partner too so there are no dinners / Xmas/ birthdays together as a family. And I often think that will continue when it comes to the kids significant birthdays/ graduations/ holy moly marriages and births... it will be hard for the kids too, being torn between loyalties... Anyway my mind is racing now! But I wanted to say I am thinking of you and yes, it is hard. But sounds like you have a good relationship with your son and grandchild so enjoy that and try and spend some Linda time with friends or do something you'd like to do when there are those other celebrations going on. I do think our kids - at whatever age - know that it's tough for us and admire our strength to get on with it and make the most of it. This wasn't our plan and we feel disappointed at the way life has taken this turn but we are strong amazing women and we will cope!! ... take care x

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Linda

Oct. 30, 2017, 10:10 a.m.

Dear Salt Water Mum, Thank you so much for your response to me and your understanding too. We are in the same boat and I will attempt to be the strong woman I once was...the marriage of my son was a hard day as it is a day you anticipate will be one you will share with the father and joyous... these times will never be as we wanted...I wish my husband had walked out when I was younger and maybe a new partner could have come into my life...All the men my age want younger women (as my husband did!) but I am lucky to have wonderful friends and the joy to look forward to of my grandson and my caring son and daughter in law. Thank you again and here's to a happy and better future. xx

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