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I love Moodscope. Sunday May 15, 2016

I love the daily emails and yet I rarely comment or feedback.

Today, instead of just taking all your help and inspiration I thought I'd drop you a wee note to say I'm out here.

I've made my own 'silent' connections with the regular contributors. I genuinely connect to something every single day. Even if it's just a sense of oooft but for the grace of god I'm not facing that challenge you've shared about, or I remember I felt like that. Or, gosh that's exactly what I'm dealing with. Or sometimes it's a nudge and a reminder to stop or start something to improve my current conditions.

Anyway - I'm sure there thousands of others like me. I'll speak for myself now when I say THANK YOU for being part of my life.

For me, it's about continued recovery. A journey which has seen me make tons of progress. I've learned so much about myself and ways to keep myself well.

You see, I've worked out that there is no coincidence. Doing the right things definitely reaps the rewards. Sometimes it's hard to keep the momentum going but that's only human.

I firmly believe if we honestly and rigorously review things we can see the tools/practices that we have let slip and by putting back in place, with patience, the equilibrium will return.

I have a full and overflowing toolkit which equips me to handle most (if not all) situations life will put in my path. If I use my programme, do my daily readings and meditation and use my other CBT tools I can find my way back.

BUT IMPORTANT...

Sometimes the chemicals get out of balance or there's a blind spot and all of the above just isn't enough to turn it round. And I'm very fortunate to have a support network and a therapist that I'm not afraid to make contact with again to help me find my way.

Sending you all positive hugs for a great day filled with sunshine.

Carol Anne
A Moodscope member.

Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment below.


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Comments

Anghared Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 7:35am

Wow!!!!!!!! Thank you so much for making the start to my Sunday so brilliant and uplifting. This is the first time I have made the effort to find out how to reply to a blog, your words inspired me to make that effort.
I am a mother and grandmother who has a son with bi-polar so my moods are very much dictated by how he is, that unconditional love it's tricky !!!! I have learned so much about myself by taking the daily test and reading the as I put it now "The thought for the Day" people are inspirational.
Shining through on your "Sunday Sermon " was the hard work and finding out what strategies work for you, my son hasn't put his head above the parapet yet, massively in denial. I will share your writing with him, and hope ihe finds inspiration as I did, thank you so so much.
It is beautiful in Wales today and I am going in the garden, word for the day Cwtch, Welsh for cuddle, hope someone will give you one !!!!

the room above the garage Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 9:09am

Great response and lovely to see you Anghared. What age is your son? I was in denial to myself did many years...didn't want to believe it was true. I couldn't say the word 'depression' and if I'm honest I still find it a little tricky. Felt and called myself a freak for a long time...how could I be so nasty to myself??! The reason I guess was that I was scared. Scared that accepting it was true made it true. It did make it true but that was finally the time when things improved. That was when I started to grow and recover. He has a mother who has already accepted his depression and him through it and he is incredibly loved to have that. How he respects himself is step one. He is already a magnificent man with the benefit of understanding more than many do. There is a life through it and although it's another discussion whether any of us would keep it if we had a magic erase button...I suspect many would because it teaches amazing lessons. Thank you for posting and I send my love your way and his way. Love ratg X.

Carol Anne Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 7:51am

Anghared - this must certainly be how it works....because now I'm responding to you, and Its a first. Passing it on and sharing that you are not alone. That's really important for me because v often I feel alone. ...but important to remember that we've got our Moodscope family, I've also got people I know at group and friends at the end of the phone that if I just say 'hi how's your day going'....it helps me shift any 'aloneness' and helps with 'this feels too hard today'. Just by making one connection a day helps greatly.

Enjoy the garden - another hugely helpful thing for me. To see a patch free of weeds, soil turned over or the bird feeders filled - it makes me smile and feel I've achieved something today.

I wish you and your son hugs n sunshine x

Hopeful One Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 7:54am

Hi Carol Anne- charmed and delighted to read about your positive experiences of Moodscope and the Moodscope community and hear from 'the silent majority'.Like you I too make connections with regular contributors and they help me stay on the straight and narrow. I feel Moodscope allows me to share my vulnerabilities , have a rant at a world that seems unjust or give my two penny worth knowing that the community never puts anyone down and accepts us as we are are. They also give valuable insights and ,as you say, sometimes make realise how lucky one is when one reads about the difficulties others face in their lives.

Laughter ,as you might have by now realised is a valuable tool to have in one's 'tool box' for the simple reason that, despite the brain's complexity ,it works like a 24 hour dispensary dispensing neuro chemicals in response to the stimuli it receives without actually knowing the reason why. So in the case of laughter it will dispense' feel good ' chemicals like dopamine, serotonin, and endorphins . Crucially it does not need to know why one laughed!

So here goes......( topical in view of recent court judgements )

School Answering Machine "Hello! You have reached the automated answering service of your school. In order to assist you in connecting to the right staff member, please listen to all the options before making a selection: To lie about why your child is absent--Press 1. To make excuses for why your child did not do his work--Press 2. To complain about what we do - press 3 . To ask why you didn't get needed information that was already enclosed in your newsletter and several bulletins mailed to you--Press 4 . If you want us to raise your child--Press 5 . To request another teacher for the third time this year--Press 6 .To complain about bus transport or school lunches --Press 7 .

If you realize this is the real world and your child must be accountable/responsible for his/her own behavior, class work, homework, and that it is NOT the teacher's fault for your children's lack of effort-HANG UP . ( modified from the original contributed by Vicky V - a fellow joker.)

Tutti Frutti Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 9:34am

Hi hopeful one Just to say thank you for some of your comments over the last few days which I have found very insightful. I hadn't realised your situation with your wife having alzheimers until recently. I admire how you (seem to) keep so positive in the face of this but I am glad you find mood scope helpful for rants and vulnerabilities as well. I enjoyed today's joke (and thanked God I gave up teaching 20 years ago). All the best TF

Hopeful One Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 9:57am

Hi Tutti Fruity- thank you for your comment. The way I remain positive in the face of deleterious life events is the realisation that I always have the choice of interpreting an event positively or negatively at its simplest. I have trained myself enough now to deliberately choose the positive.

Carol Anne Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 10:41am

Love the joke and thanks for the reminder about laughter. I'm going to adapt this joke to my work situ (which isn't teaching) but think if I adapt it and share it will help lighten and lift our team spirit as things in work are pretty 'fraught' at the moment. Wish you well Hopeful One and look forward to more jokes as I will defo read the blog replies/comments daily.

Carol Anne Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 10:41am

Love the joke and thanks for the reminder about laughter. I'm going to adapt this joke to my work situ (which isn't teaching) but think if I adapt it and share it will help lighten and lift our team spirit as things in work are pretty 'fraught' at the moment. Wish you well Hopeful One and look forward to more jokes as I will defo read the blog replies/comments daily.

Hopeful One Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 7:28pm

Hi Carol Anne- thank you for your comment and adapt it by all means if it relieves a little of your work place tension. Laughter like money woks best when it is spread around.

Debs Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 7:58am

Lovely blog Carol Anne!! Thank you for bringing some sunshine to my morning. I've been in a brief dip recently and I realised yesterday that I am in control of this and I don't need to listen to the victim voice of depression! There are things I've let slip and it's time to put them back - meditation, exercise, healthy diet and lots of rest. Might even book a massage this week ;-) Great to read your words and hope to hear you again - your writing is beautiful and really resonated with me. Warm wishes for a mindful Sunday xxxx

the room above the garage Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 8:56am

Hello Debs, sorry you hit a bump. If you feel like writing about it, we'll read it. The fact you've identified is the important bit...now it's 'just' slotting the jigsaw bits back together. Yes a massage! Can you tell I'm wagging my finger lol! Love ratg X.

Tutti Frutti Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 9:39am

Debs Sorry you have been in a bad place recently. Glad you now have some ideas and are finding the strength to take things forward again. Remember not to beat yourself up if you can't do everything. Good luck with it all and enjoy the massage. TF

Carol Anne Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 10:47am

Debs - you've spotted it now and that's you half way back... Wishing you well over the coming days. Remember being kind to yourself as you would be with a friend. x

Leah Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 11:23am

Debs Great to see your name but sorry you have not been feeling so well.

LillyPet Mon, May 16th 2016 @ 11:33pm

Am thinking of you too Debs and sending good wishes for you xx

A View from the Far Side Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 8:19am

What a great post. Thanks for sharing. Moodscope is indeed a beautiful thing. xxx

the room above the garage Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 8:52am

Love it Carol Anne! I love when someone gets brave enough to comment and/or blog for the first time, another milestone! Thank you for this today, love ratg X.

Another Sally Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 9:10am

Morning all. Thanks Carol Anne for a good blog. I rarely reply but love to read the comments people make. I also like the jokes ho.
I hope I can add to the rays of sunshine by telling my lovely Moodscope community that my grandson Ben arrived at 7 minutes past midnight this morning and I was fortunate enough to be there to see him being born. Happy days.

Hopeful One Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 9:58am

Congratulations!

Carol Anne Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 10:48am

Hooray!!!! Fabulous news. A very special time for you and Your family. Enjoy. X

Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 11:46am

Congratulations!!! How wonderful. Carolinex

the room above the garage Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 11:56am

Wonderful news Another Sally! Congratulations! A very physical sign of the beauty of life, love ratg X.

Mary Mon, May 16th 2016 @ 11:51am

Congratulations. How wonderful!

Patricia Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 9:12am

Hi Carol Anne, like yourself I have never done this before. But your lovely positive message on this sunny Sunday morning.Just had to be replied too. Thank you and yes I recognise your journey.

Angela Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 9:43am

Congratulations AS on your grandsons safe delivery X

Terence Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 9:46am

Lovely - 'silent' connections, sparkles on the ocean x

Tutti Frutti Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 9:54am

Carol Anne
Thanks for your post. What you said about all the things we can do to help ourselves to stay well and how we can learn to get better at managing our condition with time rang very true for me as well. I also do CBT and I sometimes see a counsellor for REBT (where you go into the attitudes underlying the negative thoughts with the aim of changing these to avoid coming back to the same thought patterns over and over.)

Personally I also need my mood stabilizers. I suspect that will be a controversial statement and some people will be very anti medication. (Sorry I am really not meaning to upset anyone.) I know some people do manage their conditions successfully without meds but I definitely find they help me and am lucky not to get side effects. That said I think meds only get you so far and the work we put in on self management is absolutely vital. I too have found mood scope really helpful both for the mood tracking and for the blogs and connections.

Hugs to all TF

Carol Anne Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 10:53am

TF - I need meds too and I don't subscribe to anyone else's opinion on whether that's right or wrong. If I had diabetes or some other medical condition I would take what the doc prescribed. I know through experience of trying to do it without medication that it doesn't work for me. Thanks for sharing and I concur. Medication alone will not keep me well. It's the combination of meds and all the 'keeping me well" stuff I do that is the combination that works for. Have a great day.

Leah Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 11:21am

Tutti Frutti I have been on medication for over 26 years and will probably need to be for rest of my life. I think it is personal I respect people's right not to take medication. I know it works for me. I agree that you need to use other strategies in conjunction with medication, like exercise, diet, humour, mindfulness, massage, support, friends and lots more.

Tutti Frutti Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 1:04pm

Leah and Carol Anne Thanks for responding. Good to know I haven't alienated everyone! TF

Leah Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 10:53am

Carol Anne
What an inspiring blog.
Also great minds think alike, I had actually written but not sent, a blog about the wonderful stories I read in people's comments and also thanking all those people who read the blogs but never comment. I wanted to encourage people to share their stories.
Your blog has done this in a much better way so the blog sill stay in my file.
I can sense all those people reading and nodding at blogs, sometimes disagreeing sometimes smiling. It is so great that you wrote about that connection.
I am sure we will be reading more of your blogs.

Thanks again for writing an informative blog.
Leah

Brum Mum Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 12:27pm

What a fab blog to start your blogging adventure! Thank you-it's put a smile on my face.

Richard Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 12:43pm

Thank you, Carol Anne. Your fine blog seems to have inspired several other people to contribute for the first time.
Peace & Love,
Richard.

Lexi Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 1:15pm

Thank you Carol Anne. This community is indeed one of the tools I use to get back to my center. I have just begun a 30 day commit to change (my beliefs about myself) plan. Meditation, exercise, eating healthy, seeing my therapist, taking my meds, limiting alcohol, and this blog are all in my plan. Glad you are here!

Carol Anne Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 2:18pm

Good luck with 30 day commit Lexi. Sounds like a sound plan and I wish you health and happiness.

Alice Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 3:12pm

Loved your blog Carol Ann. Thank for contributing. It helps us all out there to grow this wonderful supportive community. Xx.

Alice Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 3:12pm

Loved your blog Carol Ann. Thank for contributing. It helps us all out there to grow this wonderful supportive community. Xx.

Zareen Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 5:15pm

Thanks for your encouragement & good wishes Carol Ann

The Gardener Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 8:35pm

Anghared - what a reminder - had a history exhibition - lots family trees - French equivalent very popular in 16th-17th centuries. Awful week-end, felt like kid not invited to the party. Major medieaval fete going on all round us - super weather - Mr G so awful could not go further than 20 metres from house. Feeling sour and aggrieved - 'have a life' say the pundits, cannot, even whe it comes up to my door. Alzheimers - feel being punished for a life-time of sins.

The Gardener Sun, May 15th 2016 @ 8:39pm

Will just echo blog of the day - Moodscope a friend in need, a post to rub against like animals do - and to hit ones head against - the angst lodged in years of postings - and a lifebelt - feel less lonely and desolate reading posts from 'friends' old and new

Still picking figs Mon, May 16th 2016 @ 8:30am

Gardener, that's beautiful!

Mary Mon, May 16th 2016 @ 11:57am

Oh Gardener, I am now imaging the Moodscope post and you coming each day to rub against us and find comfort. You know we deeply appreciate you here. I know things are tough for you, but when you write I can see and feel and taste and smell provincial France. You are a treasure.

Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope Mon, May 16th 2016 @ 11:53pm

A great description of what Moodscope can be. Thanks TG. Cx

Mary Mon, May 16th 2016 @ 11:55am

So sorry I didn't read and reply yesterday - but thank for you this. Truly, thank you. As a regular contributor to Moodscope I find that the writing helps me enormously - I am able to process emotions in the words. Knowing that those words do reach out and help others, even if they do not always comment, is deeply gratifying (and humbling). This is written on Monday when I have just read Lex's blog on gratitude. Your words have added greatly to mine. Thank you so much.

LillyPet Mon, May 16th 2016 @ 11:40pm

I love Moodscope too C-A. ! :) xx

Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope Mon, May 16th 2016 @ 11:52pm

Thank you LillyPet. x

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