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How will you change your day? Saturday May 7, 2016

So having smugly scored 70s for several months, the bubble has burst...

I've shouted at the kids, gorged on Chinese, failed to exercise and burst into floods of tears. So what am I going to do?

Well, on past history I get depressed, but that's old news. What can I do?

I have spent the last few days looking after everyone else... my kids, one with a broken arm, a friend who is building her life after divorce, a cheating husband and my friends who are students who are desperate to be reunited with their daughter aged 5 who is in a refugee camp in Turkey.

What I failed to factor in was PMT. Yes pretty simple and apologies to male readers, as I get older, it gets worse and my moods are monumental.

So what is going to be done differently?

One, let's face it, it won't last long.

Two, it's not been the best weekend, but I have managed to plant a silver foxglove, peony and clematis and enjoyed pottering round the garden when my kids were still asleep in bed. So - I can appreciate the good things I have done.

Three, tomorrow is a new day. It's going to be grim so I will have to rejig my plans. I wanted to climb the local hills (yes, we do have hills in Birmingham), but maybe just a trip to the gym?

So dear reader, how will you change the day if it's not going well?

Did I fail to mention the hour I lay in bed sulking? That was good for me too!

Well, you need to know - it's not all plain sailing but it is doable....

Brum Mum
A Moodscope member.

Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment below.

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Hopeful One Sat, May 7th 2016 @ 7:31am

Hi Brum Mum- may I suggest that you are just having a 'bad hair day' ' ? We all have days when we feel unhappy . Your previous scores show that your mood has been steady . Sometimes there are reasons like yours and sometimes there are none. It's just part of being human. In my opinion you are doing the right thing by reminding yourself of the good things that have happened, the positive things you have done. It is a passing cloud and soon it will be sunshine again. Never lose Hope says Hopeful One.

A laugh helps too . That is what I would do. Try this one - even a smile is good enough!

Tom is applying for a job as a railway signalman .He is told to meet the inspector at the signal box. The inspector decides to quizz Tom about his suitability for the job. He asks : "What would you do if you realized that two trains were heading towards each other on the same track?" Tom says: "I would switch one train to another track." "What if the lever broke?" asks the inspector. "Then I'd run down to the tracks and use the manual lever down there," answers Tom. "What if that had been struck by lightning?" challenges the inspector. "Then," Tom continued, "I'd run back up here and use the phone to call the next signal box." "What if the phone was being used?" "In that case," Tom argued, "I'd run to the street level and use the public phone near the station." "What if that had been vandalized?" "Oh well," said Tom, "in that case I would run into town and get my Uncle Leo." This puzzles the inspector, so he asks "Why would you do that?" "Because he's never seen a train crash"

Anonymous Sat, May 7th 2016 @ 9:05am

A nice easy joke Hopeful One. Dare I say it..gender neutral! I hope you continue to write jokes each day.A sense of humour varies between people so I imagine many will find your jokes great most days depending on the sort of humour that appeals to them. I read them every day and quite often chuckle. Some appeal to my sense of humour more than others but that doesn't mean to say I don't find them all amusing in some wry way. You did ask for some feedback the other day! Keep the jokes coming. Julxx

Hopeful One Sat, May 7th 2016 @ 10:49am

Hi Jul- thanks for the feedback - it's most appreciated. When one rules out gender ,race, religion, profanity , politics, class, disabilities and more it gets a lot tougher to find a suitable joke for a public forum like this one where someone is bound to be offended as they become the butt of a the joke as they see themselves in the categories above . So I reckon I do pretty well most days.... Except blondes . But then I reason they are such a well known stereotype that maybe I can get away with it.?

Anonymous Sat, May 7th 2016 @ 11:42am

You do very well!! I think you did get away with a Blonde joke once. Just keep them coming...(I hope you cut and paste them. Hard work typing them out! Jul xx

Tutti Frutti Sat, May 7th 2016 @ 11:50am

The jokes are cool!

Mary Sat, May 7th 2016 @ 1:29pm

I quite like blonde jokes. Maybe it's because with my degree and post grad qualifications I can be pretty smug about them!

LillyPet Sat, May 7th 2016 @ 8:11am

Morning Brum Mum!
I can SO identify with your blog, PMS has been a huge struggle for me too.
I liked your finding three positive things and something to do differently.
Yesterday I woke the young folk up and excitedly suggested a quick brekkie on the dekkie! :) (decking) as it was a warm and sunny morning. They loved it and my daughter later said that doing it "puts you in a good mood for the rest of the day".
Thanks for the reminder that just the novelty of doing something differently lifts the mood.
Having said that it's brekkie on the dekkie again now! :)) LP xx

Anonymous Sat, May 7th 2016 @ 9:01am

Hi Brum Mum. It sounds as though you are helping so many people in very difficult situations which will be exhausting in itself;however you have the solution at this time and it seems as if you can change your plans to accommodate your low mood. It's more difficult when people like us have to let friends etc down because we feel grim, when we can't get out of a commitment without causing a lot of anguish on our part and rejection on others. If my day is not going well or if I am convinced it won't go well the following day, it usually doesn't so I sometimes put my bravest face on it and just get on with it or I have been known to cancel everything but that's rare these days. If I do have a free day, it doeesn't matter how i feel so don't need to change anything. I might get outside more and sit down and read the things which will help. Thanks for writing Brum Mum. I hope you get back to your normal scores soon. I think you will. Julxx

Ella Sat, May 7th 2016 @ 9:17am

Dear Brum Mum,

Each to their own, you know yourself best of course.....but may I respectfully suggest that an outdoor walk will reach your body AND soul in a way the gym probably won't? If you don't feel like climbing the hills, maybe a gentler walk in nature? Especially since it's summer for a few days!

I like to visualise life like a walk or cycle ride round our beautiful island.....there are plenty of uphill struggles, congested times and going round the bend! - but also lots of panoramic views, open spaces to breathe, freewheeling downhill, and glorious encounters along the way, favourite spots as well as countless opportunities for a new view, a different route.

Best wishes,

Vivien Sat, May 7th 2016 @ 9:32am

If or should I say 'when' my day goes wrong, I retreat to my bedroom and see what has gone wrong and why. Now this doesn't always happen but I try not to panic. I am a great lists person so will re-list and re-organise. Above all I BREATHE! Also have a read and eat a MARS BAR! Have a good day all. Viv

Richard Sat, May 7th 2016 @ 10:26am

Dear Brum Mum,
Thankyou for your honest blog.
Listening to rock music can sometimes help.
Peace & Love,

Tutti Frutti Sat, May 7th 2016 @ 11:46am

Morning Brum Mum
You seem to have worked out what has got to you and have some good ideas what to do next so hopefully this will just be a blip. Try not to beat yourself up about not being able to help everyone else all of the time and having shouted at your kids. You sound like you are trying to support loads of people right now so it's not surprising it gets a bit much when you also have PMT. As for shouting at our kids for reasons which are as much to do with us as them I am afraid we all do it at times. Being a parent is hard work with no time off and we don't always do it as well as we'd like. I have a teenage daughter and if I've got ratty with her because of other things which are going on for me, I try to apologise to her later. Don't know if that would work for you.
Hope you get out into your hills soon. I grew up near Birmingham and there's some lovely countryside around.
Best wishes to all.

Brum Mum Sat, May 7th 2016 @ 12:26pm

HO, you made me laugh. Thanks for all the comments. Going for a gentle stroll around a bog where Tolkein played as a kid.

Mary Sat, May 7th 2016 @ 1:31pm

Hey - your kid has a broken arm too! What you're going through with your friends sounds rough. Even when the problems are not our problems - because we care, we always hurt for them. Yes - the gym always helps, doesn't it!

Silly Sally Sat, May 7th 2016 @ 3:18pm

Hi Brum Mum I don't want to undo any of your glow after planting in the garden but thought you should know that Digitalis (Foxglove) is highly poisonous and toxic to humans and animals! We've become grandparents in the last year and I'm suddenly clued into this topic.

Brum Mum Sun, May 8th 2016 @ 3:06pm

Thanks, SS. My kids are old enough to know better. Congrats on the grandchild.

Tilda Sat, May 7th 2016 @ 5:24pm

Please tell me - what is PMT? Did I miss something?

The Gardener Sat, May 7th 2016 @ 5:34pm

If Tilda does not know about PMT lucky old her. Changing things? All I am changing is rushing at things and doing them instead of a despairing look. Am going out to dinner - nothing fancy - easiest access for |Mr G - last time we went there he was such hell swore never go out for a meal again unlees family back-up. Going to take a chance - otherwise cook, and can't face that either. Violent attack on dandelions has helped.

the room above the garage Sun, May 8th 2016 @ 10:01am

Thank you Brum Mum, I hope it's just a little bump and you are restored very soon, love ratg X.

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