How full is your tank?

29 Jun 2019
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I'm not the most mechanically minded but having just been on holiday I have had to ensure the car was full of petrol, tyres pumped and water topped up.

Surely this is what we do when we complete the Moodscope cards? We are assessing our mood. After leaving it a week or so I have been feeling a bit blue this weekend and couldn't work out why so decided to re-take the test.

Depending on our personality we gain our energy from being on our own or being with others. So on reflection it's not surprising that my fuel tank is low.

I've had a busy and sociable week immediately after a week away with the kids. And anyone who has been 'on holiday' as a single parent knows it ain't much of a break.

I have had the kids all weekend and have spent a huge amount of time chivvying, nagging and exhorting the eldest to do her homework.

My fuel tank feels low. So how am I going to top it up?

This afternoon I have read and slept in bed. A funny book which made me laugh. I have a double billing of great TV: one recorded from last night to watch. I have a nice dinner to cook and Pilates tomorrow to challenge and relax the body.

The week still has its work challenges but I know these days what I need to regain my strength.

How full is your tank? And what can you do today and in the coming week to top it up? '

BrumMum

A Moodscope member.

A Moodscope member.

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Bearofliddlebrain

June 30, 2019, 5:04 a.m.

Goodly morning, BrumMum, I’m so glad you found time for you, watching tv, reading and Pilates, at different points in your busy life. It can’t be easy being a single parent - but I’m sure they appreciate all you do, even if they don’t always show it. Hope the holiday was good even though it was exhausting. Have done my exercises, warm up walk and have run for 25 mins, come home and watered the garden, eaten a banana for more energy and had a glass of water....it’s 6.56 am and I’d say my cup runneth over and the tank is full this morning. Am halfway through week 7 of Couch to 5k so the runs are longer! I have red cheeks and am a reastie beastie so I’m off for a shower. It’s a beautiful morning here in Cambridgeshire. The endorphins are probably chasing around in my brain so I feel good. Am trying to run every other day and it’s strange how on the day in between I’m not quite as chipper! Exercise is key. Bear hugs x x x

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The Gardener

June 30, 2019, 8:58 a.m.

Bear, you and Oli have inspired me, and catching sight of my side view in a mirror (I try not to) has scared me, so, must try harder. xx

Bearofliddlebrain

June 30, 2019, 9:24 a.m.

Oh wow, TG...take things in small steps and have a go at whatever exercise takes your fancy! Love Bear x x x

Orangeblossom

June 30, 2019, 6:22 a.m.

Thanks for your very inspiring blog BrumMum. Am away on a mini break but return home tomorrow, in time for our son’s birthday on Tuesday.

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Oli

June 30, 2019, 6:31 a.m.

Thanks Brum Mum, I'm guessing that if you're thinking "fuel tank" then your test scores for Alert and Active were lower than expected. For those I generally make sure I'm getting enough sleep, doing enough exercise, and eating properly. The last few months I've scored higher levels of Distress and lower levels of Enthusiasm than I'd expect. Attentiveness just gets the one score but for me it's been high in the personal domain for someone I'm quite into :-) but definitely lower for the work I've been grinding through. Sure, the general "fuel" behaviours of eat, sleep, and exercise are useful but for me distress responds best with making sure I don't ruminate or worry excessively (i.e. regular throughout the day mindfulness-type practices). And at the beginning of June I noticed I'd put on weight so I've reduced just over 4kg and that's worth a bonus point on the proud score :-)

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The Gardener

June 30, 2019, 8:01 a.m.

Oli, help! I have two weddings in UK, clothes don't fit - how did you manage to lose 4 kg in less than a month? Nothing short of a miracle :-)

Oli

June 30, 2019, 8:10 a.m.

Hi Gardener, just by adhering to an eating plan. Some increase in exercise but not significantly as I tend to keep to a light-moderate activity level. For me the weight gain comes with the "little and often" extra snacks. So I reigned all of those back to zero and basically it's nothing more complicated than adherence.

Bearofliddlebrain

June 30, 2019, 9:29 a.m.

Congratulations Oli, you are truly inspiring. I just need to knock the delicious rosé, or sparkling bubbles, or fruity reds on the head then maybe I’d lose the weight too! I’m trying 'Dry July' from today until 25th July (as we have a lovely celebration party to go to). I like reading your replies to everyone, especially when you include nuggets of information about your work that we can take onboard too, so thank you Oli. Bear hugs x

Valerie

June 30, 2019, 12:11 p.m.

TG,a few of Spock's science journals have recently published research into exercise.The current belief seems to be that we do not need the large amounts that have been advised for some years. I know it sounds positively quaint to say it,but I still think it comes down mainly to calorie restriction. Good Luck! ***

The Gardener

June 30, 2019, 3:32 p.m.

Thanks Valerie, I have discovered my metabolism intake is 1,700 calories max maintenance, difficult to get an energy rich diet on that, and the eternal problem of lactose intolerance. But I'm not enormous, and function - it's just weddings! And mirrors!

Valerie

June 30, 2019, 6:51 p.m.

My old G.P.told me that in her experience the fittest and longest living people tended to be those who were carrying an extra few pounds.She said "love handles" gave them some reserves against illness.Unless you are a narcissist,mirrors are the work of the devil.xx

The Gardener

June 30, 2019, 7:59 a.m.

Thanks Brum Mum. Like Oli, Distress levels high, surprisingly Alert and Active high (circumstances demand). But I can't get 'enthusiasm' above '2', Loads ideas, then fall at first hurdle for implementation. Absolutely flattened by heat, used to cope. I find for the first time in my life that the things I MUST do take 2 hours a day. Even my gardens are only 6 hours a week. I read, knit, watch old DVD's (Eastbourne tennis a godsend last week) but, like so many of my age, the days are very long. One should be grateful, feel an old sourpuss at 'what shall I do with today?'

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Bearofliddlebrain

June 30, 2019, 9:31 a.m.

Dear Favourite SourPuss TG!! The weather is so unbelievably hot for you, you don’t have to 'do' anything...just take these moments to watch tv in the coolness of your lovely house and perhaps plan things to do when the weather changes. Bear hugs x

Molly

June 30, 2019, 3:39 p.m.

Oh Gardener, felt a bit sad reading this. All the days roll into one for us, but for some reason the time flies. I’ve no idea why. We don’t do anything. It seems the more one does the more time there is, I know that won’t make any sense. I suppose it’s about having some sort of structure in life. Just relating to myself and how much I used to get done when working. Weather, it’s hot here too (although cooler today). I’ve got the fan out which doesn’t get much use. But I read that it’s the hottest it’s ever been in France at some 44 degrees? It does drain you doesn’t it. Rather than say “keep warm” I will say “keep cool” xx

The Gardener

June 30, 2019, 10:15 a.m.

Thanks Bear, have done 'priorities' all watering. House tidy in case a potential buyer wants to view on spur of moment. Have taken to bare feet as I so often did, means hoovering, as I drop pins, needles and tacks (not to mention drawing pins) everywhere. Now, puzzles in sun on terrace still too hot. The last five years and the sadness at family matters have induced an inertia which is a real 'Slough of Despond'. To revert to the actual blog, see if my tank has reserves. x

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Valerie

June 30, 2019, 12:18 p.m.

Hello Yummy Brummie Mummy! Like you,some time alone,pottering,reading etc.are what I need.The biggest drain for me is too much contact and conversation with other people.This includes the company of those I really like.It's great to be with them,then I need to withdraw to adjust my brain.My idea of **** would be to go on a group holiday,I would implode.***

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Bearofliddlebrain

June 30, 2019, 1:32 p.m.

Lol Valerie - I agree about group hols...It’s not a great break unless you can just meet up in the evenings and don’t see each other all day! There will usually be arguments about who wants to go where etc. And I feel the same when we have visitors - not just for a day, but staying. They need to go off and do things for themselves (and let me have some peace) otherwise it’s one round of cooking after another, and constant chat. Very draining. Bear x

Molly

June 30, 2019, 2:34 p.m.

Group holiday, my idea of ****. Even a night out with a group is too much for me. I much prefer one to one, or I tend to withdraw into myself xx

Molly

June 30, 2019, 2:38 p.m.

Oh also on the phone, we have said before we don’t like the phone ringing but my mother for instance will want to chat about rubbish for an hour and after about half an hour I’m completely worn out xx

The Gardener

June 30, 2019, 3:27 p.m.

In certain circs group holiday brilliant. With my b-in-law and his wife we bored each other silly cooped up in same house. So we took 2 week Rambler holidays, about 20 people, glorious country, and our foursome was 'thinned down' by people with other interests. xx

Molly

June 30, 2019, 4:15 p.m.

Gardener, we met a lovely group of people on holiday, it was so relaxing though, that no one thought anything of it if you wondered off back to the apartment or for a walk, or even if you went and sat on another table and then you could join them again when you felt sociable. No one questioned it and the chats were mainly banter and a few laughs xx

Ach UK

June 30, 2019, 8:54 p.m.

@Molly, that sounds ideal. :)))

Molly

June 30, 2019, 9:31 p.m.

It was Ach, we loved that place but sadly cannot go anymore, one day, we tell ourselves, hope as Hope says xx

Valerie

June 30, 2019, 2:04 p.m.

Visitors? You have visitors? xx

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Molly

June 30, 2019, 2:35 p.m.

Don’t you have visitors then Val? Xx

Valerie

June 30, 2019, 6:43 p.m.

Not unless they are total dog nuts.I'd have you round any day Molly ***

Molly

June 30, 2019, 7:39 p.m.

Oh thank you Val, you might have picked up that I like dogs then lol. One of mine has just returned after going home for the weekend. She’s had a trim and looks half the size, I hardly recognise her! Love from one dog nut to another xx

Molly

June 30, 2019, 2:22 p.m.

Hi Brum, a paramedic once said to my husband “you wouldn’t think twice about putting your car in for an MOT so why not do it for yourself”. He doesn’t help himself, in fact he’s useless at it. Without wanting to feel like a complete nag, I try and leave him to it. It’s his body (although I have to pick up the pieces). Anyway the car is going on Wednesday, this will be a sad day. I’m off the subject. My life isn’t busy so I guess I don’t really have to recharge my batteries. Although I do feel overloaded sometimes, like Val and Bear, with visitors, especially if they are talking a lot. Not that we have many visitors but when we do. I do like my own company but don’t really get it so my plan is to sit out in the garden whilst the weather is so lovely and hope husband doesn’t follow me! There’s plenty of sport on the telly to keep him occupied. It’s good you got some me time Brum. Love Molly xx

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Nicco

June 30, 2019, 3:20 p.m.

Hi BrumMum - The saying is, "a break is aa good as a rest" but i'm not sure about that! At least it's cooler today. My batteries are always fairly low, but particularly low atm - probavby due to the trip to London & then a very busy week. I couldnt stand the heat yesterday & spent most of it in bed til late afternoon. In bed again today but aware that too much lazing around trying to get energy back can have the opposite effecr & make one feel even more inertia. It's a fine line i find, & there's that word 'balance' again. Ps: I am in awe of you, Bear!

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Molly

June 30, 2019, 4:10 p.m.

Hi Nicco, I thought it was ‘a change is as good as a rest’ :-) the heat was unbearable yesterday wasn’t it. Quite a nice temperature today with a light breeze. Sorry you had to take to your bed. Hope you are feeling better today xx

Bearofliddlebrain

June 30, 2019, 7:06 p.m.

Nicco...such a sweet thing to say....I don’t think I’ve had anyone in awe of me! Is it because of the running? Thank you anyway...I know you probably don’t feel like it but go for a walk this evening in the late sun with the breeze, it might give you more energy. I can’t go to bed during the day very often as I end up with bad headaches. But when you are feeling low you have to do what is best for you. I spent most of yesterday indoors out of the sun...reading newspapers and trying to do crosswords! Bear hugs dear Nicco x x

Nicco

July 4, 2019, 8:14 a.m.

Molly, you're right. I was sooo tired when i wrote it! I seem to spend time in bed ill, & when i'm feeling better i tend to spend time catching up on what got left undone when being ill - a viscious circle can easily occur.

Nicco

July 4, 2019, 8:33 a.m.

Bear, it's because you achieve so much so early in the day! I'm hopeless before at least 10am & then struggle to do a few stretching exercises, & drag myself to the bathroom, all the while tryng not to think of the mountain of work ahead that i won't achieve as that makes me sink lower into inertia.I did go for a walk the next day but was then in pain all night so couldn't sleep too well. I must also stay off the diet coke as it has caffeine & sweeteners in it which seem to affect me - weird but true. Getting myself into a sensible routine seems to help - i'm a night owl so tend to do more in the evenings as i have more energy then but yhat can result in very late bedtimes &, while it's easy to fall into the trap of taking aadvantage of that, sensible bedtimes seems to help me break out of the viscious circle by being more productive (& therefore feeling more fullfilled) the following day. I'm the only one with the power to control that - no one's going to do it for me - so i have to bite the bullet & get on with it! Thanks for being an inspiration & encouragement! Thanks also for kind hugs - sending some back to you in friendship. X

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