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How do we keep going? Monday May 1, 2017

Hope.

The magic word.

When there is little left, there is hope.

Does it matter that each night I fall into bed exhausted? No.

Does it matter that each morning I feel there is a new chance? Yes.

The last minute is now history and the next minute may not arrive, so all we have is now, this very moment. And in that place, there is all manner of hope.

Dare you dream a little?

Dare you imagine what if...?

I think depressed people can stop dreaming and stop imagining since that part of the mind is simply shut down. But we must see if we can, from time to time, peer through, as in there lies the nectar of our growth.

Each holiday time takes me a couple of weeks to unwind and just as I am about to start dreaming and wishing and imagining, life snaps back on at full pelt. But for some moments there has been time to bring back some hopes and wishes. It is enough. For even if I can't action them at present, they are newly brought to the surface. It's not unlike putting out a bowl of carrot sticks in front of a young child. They may believe they can only eat biscuits, but if that bowl is sitting there, and it's in their line of vision, those carrots will be crunched!

There is always hope. There is always possibility. Place your hopes into your line of vision and you will gravitate there. It doesn't matter how long it takes. It is how to keep going.

Go forth, dangle your carrot! (Word of the day: dangle)

Love from

The room above the garage
A Moodscope member.

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Orangeblossom Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 6:24am

Hi RATG. Thanks for your inspiring blog which I found full of hope & encouragement.

the room above the garage Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 2:40pm

:-) and thank you for clocking in, step by step we keep going, together, love ratg x.

Hopeful One Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 7:17am

Hi RATG- I entirely agree with you as my moniker shows. Never ,never,never never never lose Hope that things will get better, things will improve.If there was any one thing that kept me going when I fell over a cliff it was that.I recite this poem in my head if I ever feel my hope flagging.

HOPE by Emily Dickinson

Hope is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul,
And sings the tune without the words,
And never stops at all.

And sweetest in the gales is heard:
And sore must be the storm
That could not abash the little bird
That kept so many warm.

I have heard it in the chilliest land
And on the strangest sea;
Yet, never, in all extremity,
It asked a crumb of me.

Enjoyed The Gardner's post the day before and TOMATS yesterday- just too busy to comment.
To me going into the past or worse living in it, is a total waste of time. Its a spider's web or a prison one visits at one's peril. The past has told you all it knows.Unfortunately it has a powerful pull enticing us to believe that by somehow rearranging the facts will produce a different outcome.

Anddon't forget to have a laugh -its effects are subtle,tangible and profound. To continue with my series

Notice in health food shop window:
CLOSED DUE TO ILLNESS
Spotted in a safari park:(I sure hope so)
ELEPHANTS PLEASE STAY IN YOUR CAR
Seen during a conference:
FOR ANYONE WHO HAS CHILDREN AND DOESN'T KNOW IT, THERE IS A DAY CARE ON THE 1ST FLOOR

the room above the garage Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 2:42pm

Indeed HO, you are the living proof :-) and thank you for today's offerings. Being of the generation not taught grammar I empathise a little with these!

Dragonfly Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 8:04pm

Love the jokes dear HO and the poem is beautiful x

Dragonfly Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 8:04pm

Love the jokes dear HO and the poem is beautiful x

Dragonfly Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 8:04pm

Love the jokes dear HO and the poem is beautiful x

Dragonfly Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 8:33pm

I have no idea why my reply has appeared 3 times!

Sally Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 7:17am

RATG, good morning, I loved your blog, with its golden nuggets. " I think depressed people stop imagining" Why yes, I do! ". ( they) stop imagining" ( I do indeed!) " that part of the mind is shut down" I agree with this as well! I tend to say that I feel depleted, when I am depressed, - like that sucked lemon, or the outer skin of an avocado once consumed, there seems to be no residual " food"...to keep me going, no sustenance.
You have it absolutely right about the holiday thing: unwind/ rewind ...in perpetual conflict, since a) we must work/ return to normal duties, but b) life is far more whizzy, chaotic, demanding of speed/ action than it used to be . We "modern machines " are having a hard job simply keeping up on this the conveyor belt of life in the 21st century!
Nice one, RATG, and a good one to start Monday 1st May with! Happy Monday to all you out there. Go well. I hope to pace myself today so that I leave some energy for the rest of the week!!

the room above the garage Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 2:43pm

Yes do, try to adopt a Garfield-like attitude and it should help :-) love ratg x.

Sally Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 7:19am

Sorry..I meant to write " stop dreaming " , not " stop imagining" twice!!
(Note to self : EDIT ! )

Liz Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 7:36am

Thank u for this post, its just what I needed to hear today :)

the room above the garage Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 2:44pm

That is lovely to know, love ratg x.

The Gardener Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 9:51am

HO - you ought to be on prescription - dose to be taken every morning. I am fighting real depression - shut in with a determinedly miserable man except for 2 days a week (I was warned, but, as I expect lots have found already, the actual was unimaginable). Anyway, hope real tonic for today, RATG. I am coming to terms with the fact that I have done all I can for Mr G - so I sit and watch DVD's on lap-top while sitting opposite him - I read to him for 20 minutes, but he soon gets fed up and drags up all his imaginary ailments. My blog was 'Target'. I have one. Grand-daughter wedding invitation arrived - 3 months - I am the only grandparent (Mr G out of the question, others dead). Shall I do an Aunt Ada (Cold Comfort Farm)? Have to get myself to UK, Mr G into respite, and review my wardrobe and my shape. Also, always SO cheering for me, planning garden planting - it has rained, so I do not have to lug water everywhere. 'Hope springs eternal' (Alexander Pope) - Shakespeare 'The tender leaves of hope' - Mr G being pure hell - will book lunch so can get out of house. Thanks RATG - send some cheerfulness my way, please. xx

the room above the garage Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 2:49pm

Ok, on it...may we swap cheerfulness for rain? I am having to water newly laid grass (by hand as sprinkler too violent!) and so you have my full empathy with lugging water. I do have the benefit of a spray on the end of the hose but...oh...its a bit tedious. Mind you, at least I was outside in good air! Yes you must get to that wedding, a proper break for you. Book that respite and run for that plane! Whatever shape you are is PERFECT, you only need an outfit that makes you feel confident. Hair and nails done over here once you have time and space. I'm excited for you! Love ratg xxx

A View from the Far Side Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 10:49am

Hello Room Above the Garage, I wrote this years ago in my early twenties, and the last line has stood me in good stead ever since. (I don't suffer from depression like that any more either). I hope it's okay to share with you all here.

Sylvia Plath

We share a birthday
but nothing else
She died I live
What more to say?

I never had electric shocks to
galvanise and change the
prickling sparks of depressive
thought

I never wrote a book of
breakdown and hurt of
attempted suicide
death

I never kept a journal of
life's short way from
my perspective
pain

I never wrote poems of
her scale and beauty or
married the Laureate
Ted

So we share nothing

Oh yes we DO!
A creeping, seeping,
numbing, weeping
sense of fear of
past and future

But I still live
I will not die like she
That is not my right or
wish

I still have hope

the room above the garage Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 2:50pm

Wow, yes. And powerful! This is worthy of its own blog entry. Thank you for sharing it with us, love ratg x.

The Gardener Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 11:01am

That poem says so much - your pseudonym seems to have some logic - I am looking at the harrowing sight of my husband, sunk in gloom. He wakes up to abuse me and wallow in self-pity. The last verse/couplet is really important - we've both looked into the abyss, when life looked/looks hopeless. One does not have the right - religious or not, to load your friends and family with such as burden is wicked. Fear is an odd emotion - we have a gale - I am afraid because I have a huge roof area with two areas - but it is real and logical. Fear of the future is so intangible, will I cope?

A View from the Far Side Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 11:48am

You are coping Gardener and I think you do so with great grace and fortitude. You are pretty awesome, you know. XX

the room above the garage Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 2:53pm

I'll ditto that ^^ Yes you have coped and you will continue to, because you have so much to draw from. Even in your hardest times you use your photographs and memories from the life you had with Mr TG to pull you on. You are the embodiment of coping my lovely girl. Love ratg x.

The Gardener Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 11:02am

Areas should be 'houses'

The Gardener Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 2:12pm

Taking over, again - thanks for the flattery. This is for the bored, francophiles or both. Out to lunch, only restaurant open, crowded, good-natured scramble to get Mr G's wheel-chair in and out. Julien was there. I am his heroine. For 20 of our 25 years here he has been one of the local drunks. He's had a stroke, and laid off the booze. I am a genealogist, and he has illusions of grandeur - hence the heroine bit. Some idiot local reporter said a noted botanist, and noble, had same name and place of birth as Julien. Incorrect. He went round waving the cutting like a talisman. I got fed up, did his family tree, and charged him, to prove he was NOT noble. Also, local kill-joy there. 50's, divorced, she's not a happy bunny. Has a B & B right in middle of town. It's not a very lively town - but we ARE doing things for the tourists in August, including a little circus - complete with drum rolls etc - fills town square. The kill-joy tried to get it stopped, might keep her clients awake! We are so near the church bells virtually ring in guests bedrooms. In the morning, we enquire if the bells kept them awake. Response either 'what bells?' or 'we love church bells'.

the room above the garage Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 2:57pm

You're not taking over...this is a bench in the park and we take turns at sitting on it chatting to the one who arrived before. Kill-joy could use the event to promote her business. Some people will not look for a silver lining even when its stitched to their sleeve... I adore the sound of it and I can imagine the town square on a summer's evening.

Dragonfly Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 8:13pm

Lovely blog dear Ratg and I love the idea that we all shuffle up on a bench for a chat! X

Anonymous Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 5:50pm

Thank you for your blog full of hope. Having waited years and years to study for my current degree and being just 13 weeks away from completion, I did feel all hope was lost on Friday, when I removed myself from the course. In truth I plan to go back and this is just a slight hiatus in my journey. I hope to go back in 6 months and meanwhile my cousellor will help me reach that goal. So hope for having the career of my dreams is still alive and taking a little longer to get there does not mean all hope is lost.

Dragonfly Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 8:23pm

Dear Anonymous I really hope you get the help and support you need to complete your studies - such an amazing achievement to have got so far x

Anonymous Tue, May 2nd 2017 @ 11:25am

Thank you. I am sure I will get past this and my counsellor is extremely helpful. It is important to me to reach a stage whereby I can specialise in mental health and provide essential help to those that need it.

LP Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 6:07pm

Dear ratg,

You have made the idea of daring just to dip into a sweet dream, tantalisingly delicious!

Many of us will know what it is to have stopped feeling enjoyment. Not know what if anything we want, not to have any passion or enthusiasm. Yet things do change, gradually, they really do.

For me, it is no longer impossible that I may one day start to shake myself free and be released from fear guilt, duty and responsibility and do some of the things that I have loved to do. I can think a bit about what I might like now.

So perhaps, as you suggest, I might dare to take a peek between my fingers to dream of so many possibilities, it'd be a case of where to begin!

Thank you as always for a beautiful and inspiring blog from up in the room above the garage! :)
Love and light to you and all LPxx

The Gardener Mon, May 1st 2017 @ 8:34pm

I LOVE the bench in the park - my last visit! Evening difficult, Mr G odd going on scary. But, the blackbird outside my bedroom window thinks he's Fred Astaire - singing his head off in the pouring rain, and it's nearly dark. Fortitude seems a need for many of us here - sleep well xxx

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