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How are the four rooms in your life? Thursday December 5, 2013

"There is an Indian proverb or axiom that says that everyone is a house of four rooms: A physical, a mental, an emotional and a spiritual. Most of us tend to live in one room most of the time but, unless we go into every room everyday, even if only to keep it aired, we are not a complete person." Rumer Godden

I work with what I call the four quotients in both my life and work.

• PQ - physical - To Live
• IQ - mental - To Learn
• EQ - emotional - To Love
• SQ - spiritual - To Leave a Legacy

In my diary I write an activity for each of these each day to which I commit myself to.

As Stephen Covey often said - "The most important thing, is to decide what is important" and then to put that in FIRST into your daily life.

For example some say that their children are the most important thing in their life and then spend most of their working life and their children's growing up stage, attempting to earn money which they say will make their kids 'safe'. Ask any child what makes them feel most's called time!

We need to spend time in each 'room' each day to ensure there is a healthy balance that enables continual growth and development.

How many of us are:

Too busy to exercise? (PQ & IQ)
Too busy to 'eat well'? (PQ)
Too busy to 'relax'? (EQ& SQ)
Too busy to spend time with their family? (EQ & SQ)
Too busy to read new material? (IQ)
Too busy to contact friends? (EQ & SQ)
Too busy to meditate (PQ& IQ & EQ & SQ)
Too busy to go on a retreat? (PQ & IQ & EQ & SQ)
Too busy to live? (PQ - IQ - EQ & SQ)

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Anonymous Thu, Dec 5th 2013 @ 8:33am

Wow Les. I'll incorporate this thinking in my life for the rest of my life! Thank you.
To Live - To Learn - To Love - To Leave a Legacy

I have a task since a few weeks back to figure out what is important in my life. I feel the too busy exercise is a very good one.

A beautiful diary exercise too - I'll see what it inspires me to do

What a way to mark my three year aniversary of daily reiki-meditations!

The Entertrainer Thu, Dec 5th 2013 @ 9:35am

Oh Les, you MUST be a trainer or a coach. I am grateful that you are sharing these gems, beloved by workshop trainers, with the the family at Moodscope. Imagine a four legged chair with each leg being these four dimensions! Mine would be a very, very wobbly chair... and I teach this stuff!!!! Thank you SO MUCH for reminding me.

Are you UK based or over one of our World's lovely ponds?

The Entertrainer Thu, Dec 5th 2013 @ 10:25am

I wanted to add that the BIG lesson I'm learning this late in life is that NONE of this needs to be done alone. Other people can help you spiritually, emotionally, physically, and intellectually. As an almost off-the-scale introvert (whose life-ambition as a child was to become a recluse) this is one of the hardest lessons I am having to learn!

Anonymous Thu, Dec 5th 2013 @ 10:33am

A great and timely reminder of what is important in life and I love the wobbly chair analogy.


Roger Chapman Cattawade Thu, Dec 5th 2013 @ 11:00am

As valuable as the daily Moodscope postings are I find one a day - too many.
Can a way be found to lower the number of postings then I may not be at risk of missing some `gems`.

jimpark007 Thu, Dec 5th 2013 @ 11:17am

Three years ago before I retired I, and several other colleagues, would consistently be awake with work problems at 2am. I was too tired and stressed to enjoy any social life or hobbies and was constantly low on energy with health problems. We were all worrying about missing our targets added to this there were intractable problems with IT and computer information always hindering job performance. Modern working style just simply doesn't allow the luxury of attending to our own well being.

Anonymous Thu, Dec 5th 2013 @ 12:27pm

An excellent concept and you explain the what, the why and the how as well. Thank you, Les.

Anonymous Thu, Dec 5th 2013 @ 12:28pm

So true, and so helpful
Thank-you Les

Rons Thoughts Thu, Dec 5th 2013 @ 12:56pm

One of the best daily posts. Simple, direct, easy to manage and remember.

Les Thu, Dec 5th 2013 @ 3:39pm

Hi Mr E

I'm based in Moray in the North of Scotland and work with this 'stuff' in schools, universities, charities and abroad - as I simply seek to serve.

I used to be a Chief Executive of a Scottish Local Authority (Moray) and then lost the will to live and went into the private sector (Cap Gemini) and the same thing happened and then the Third sector at The Leadership Trust (where I learned much - and then once again found somewhere that did not walk the talk for me) - then set up QFOUR in 2004......its been a VERY interesting ride :-()

I have also used the work Entertrainer in the past - Fab

I now go under the title Provocateur and deal with a three legged stool of Leadership / Values & Trust + of course the Four Quotients (PQ - Human-Living / IQ - Human-Doing / EQ - Human-Being / SQ - Being-Human

Mary Blackhurst Hill Thu, Dec 5th 2013 @ 8:52pm

A timely reminder. The four rooms - the four legs of a table - and yes - still too busy to exercise..... thank you.

Anonymous Fri, Dec 6th 2013 @ 5:48pm

Thanks v much for this post - looks like an useful/constructive way to live. The only thing for me, as an atheist/humanist ... not sure what 'spirituality' means ... although 'leaving a legacy' is an interesting way to think of it ... If love is contributing to others, maybe 'leaving a legacy' is what the Americans call 'making a difference' in a longterm way - doing something for the environment springs to mind, or perhaps putting my action where my mouth is politically.

Again, thank you very much for this. I enjoy/need structure as a way of managing my moods and this method really appeals.


Daren Mon, Dec 9th 2013 @ 1:57am

This interpretation of the post reminds me a bit of Bobby V's speech...

For many, the line from his speech is "Don't give up, don't ever give up..."

For me, having listened to it again earlier in the year, the big takeaway was to make sure to do three things every day:

Think, Laugh, and Be Moved Emotionally to Tears (Cry).


Anonymous Sun, Dec 22nd 2013 @ 1:55pm

I've added "4 rooms" to my daily calendar at 8 am. I review it every night. This has helped me so much in feeling more balanced and proactive and much less stressed. It is simple and effective.

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