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Here's to your left eyebrow! Saturday June 22, 2013

We're not very good at admiring ourselves, are we? Especially not physically. If we faced a question in a survey: "Would you rate yourself as "a) Exceptionally physically attractive, b) Moderately physically attractive or c) Just Plain Ugly?" then I don't think many of us would have the confidence to go for answer a).

In fact, depending upon how we feel on any given day, we might even plump for door c). Yes, plumping for door c might be an appropriate response to the way some of us gain weight as a result of the carbohydrate cravings that is one of the symptoms of depression or one of the side effects of the drugs we take to combat that depression.

Some days it seems like you just can't win.

In my job I see lots of bodies. And you know what? I haven't seen an ugly one yet. We are all far more attractive than we think we are: we just have to believe it ourselves.
But it's a big step. Maybe we should start small.

So I've decided to love my legs. They may not be slim, they may not be long, but they're curvy and look nice in heels. If I bother to put on a skirt and tights (pantyhose to our American friends) and dig out those pretty shoes, then every time I walk past that mirror I can make a point of looking at my legs not my stomach. That way I feel good about myself rather than beating myself up.

Hopefully you have at least one thing about your body you like. So why not pay attention to that bit and feel a bit better about yourself. After all – if, as we're told, most Super-models have negative feelings about bits of their bodies, then surely we can have positive feelings about bits of ours – even if it is only our left eyebrow!

Hey, nice arch to it, you know!

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Julia Sat, Jun 22nd 2013 @ 8:48am
This Dove You Tube clip is quite revealing about how we see ourselves.
Body image is so so complex but I take comfort from how others see us in motion and when we are unaware of ourselves and not how I look at my static reflection often self critically infront of the mirror.
Having lived for many years with an anorexic sister, grown up with her, I told my daughter to love her body as if it was a friend, a precious thing to be looked after and not abused or treated badly in any way. This sounds sentimental but I do think that is how we should regard our bodies. I was so worried she would be anorexic so gave it very careful thought and came up with this when she was very young. It worked. (Of course without this advice, she may well have avoided negative images about her body but I wasn't going to leave anything to chance). Nowadays this isn't just a female thing. (I hope I haven't upset any anorexic moodscopers. I know how devastating this illness is for everyone involved.) Thanks Mary for this blog. It is such an important subject.

Anonymous Sat, Jun 22nd 2013 @ 11:23am

Yes, really good blog. And so true how we see the negative first. I think at nearly every stage of my life I have always wanted to look different. When I was young I was really skinny and felt v self conscious about it - wishing instead to be more curvy. Now that I'm middle aged and a bit thicker round the middle and wider of beam than I'd like, I look back on my younger self and think how nice it would be to be like that again. But that ain't going to happen, so I think it's a question of learning to love and enjoy what you've got when you've got it. My hair used to be dark and long and glossy - of course then I wanted curls! Now it's a mix of grey and black, and short. My hairdresser is always saying "why don't you let me put some colour in it - it would take years off you". But I resist, as I've never had more compliments about it in my life as I do now. My partner loves it, and women have even stopped me in the supermarket and asked me is it natural or do you have it dyed like that! So all hail the silver fox.
So on bad days I just remind myself that I have a head of hair to admire.

Anonymous Sun, Jun 23rd 2013 @ 7:24pm

I think that if I started to wear tights people would look at me strangely. I think the five o'clock shadow might give me away...

Anonymous Mon, Jun 24th 2013 @ 9:05am

Never were truer words spoken I most often feel very negative about myself. I was not aware that those carb cravings were due to feeling low - just shows you the downward spiral we can all fall in to. I am going to try to take some inspiration from this - find a point I like (even remotely) and focus on that - great prompt!

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