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Today's blog is for those of you who feel so bad you cannot express just how bad you feel. You want to stay in bed all day, or watch TV and not speak to a soul or if you have no-one to speak to, feel miserable at being alone.

Now I know Moodsope is here to lift our spirits on a daily basis and it does this very well, but I sometimes feel that there may be many people out there for whom the uplifting blogs pass them by. The content of the blog is just too complicated and exhausting to think about, and try as you may, you find it impossible to relate to, let alone think of a post to write in reply.

This blog is for all of you.

There are so many advantages to being a part of Moodscope, without reading the daily blog. (Although, I hope you are reading this one!)

Here are three:

1. You are welcomed here however bad, happy, sad, you feel.

2. You are part of a group of friends who share the same problems, a sort of community who is here to help each other.

3. Doing the cards as often as you can really does help your mood, even if you get a lower score than is usual for you.

Now on scale of one to ten how are you feeling today?

No complicated, deep replies today please. You can even growl or just say "Yuk!" or "one!". Those who are happy, shout "10!"

But if you haven't the energy to get past the robot today, please accept a big hug and a "Hi" from me.

Caroline

The Moodscope Team

A Moodscope member.

Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment below.

Moodscope members seek to support each other by sharing their experiences through this blog. Posts and comments on the blog are the personal views of Moodscope members, they are for informational purposes only and do not constitute medical advice.

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Benjamin

Nov. 25, 2017, 1:18 a.m.

Mostly a kind of lonely.

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Mary Wednesday

Nov. 25, 2017, 11:18 a.m.

Hello Benjamin - I just wrote you a long reply which was eaten by cyberspace because I took too long posting it. Never mind. You are not alone, because we're here too. I just wish I were nearer to pop in for coffee. But consider yourself visited for coffee anyway. Mine's black, no sugar. ;)

Benjamin

Nov. 25, 2017, 12:17 p.m.

Thank you for the willingness to write a long reply. I take my coffee 'Boston regular' (double cream and sugar). I'll try to remember that we had a plan for coffee today, postponed.

Bearofliddlebrain

Nov. 25, 2017, 12:29 p.m.

Benjamin...am not a coffee fan, but I’ll share some time with you and maybe a hot choccit with some delish biscuits....I’ll even let you dunk your biscuits! Sorry your kind of lonely - please feel you can join in here any time....there are lovely peeps here on Moodscope. Beariest Hugs

Mary Wednesday

Nov. 25, 2017, 12:30 p.m.

I'll remember the "Boston" way! Postponed, not cancelled. Seriously, I have had the great fortune to meet up with several moodscopers over the years. We are a lovely crowd. Maybe we could do the coffee for real one day.....a Moodscope coffee morning, how about That? With tea for them as prefers it!

Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope

Nov. 25, 2017, 1:17 p.m.

Sounds good to me Mary!

Lexi

Nov. 25, 2017, 2:43 p.m.

I would love that.

Jane SG

Nov. 26, 2017, 9:48 p.m.

Like the idea of coffee meet up. Benjamin, I'm sorry you are feeling lonely. I feel lonely inside nearly every day although I have no idea why. Take care

Silvia

Nov. 29, 2017, 1:21 a.m.

hi Mary, use Ditto and rememebre to copy a few times. Just type CTRL-C a few times while you are writing the text. Later you just open Ditto and you find what was in the clipboard. http://ditto-cp.sourceforge.net/ Do this often in order to make an habit.

Orangeblossom

Nov. 25, 2017, 6:56 a.m.

Hi on a scale of 1-10 I reckon I am about 8. Thanks for the encouraging blog. I always feel fortified after reading the blog.

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Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope

Nov. 25, 2017, 6:49 p.m.

So pleased the blogs help Orangeblossom. Carolinex

the room above the garage

Nov. 25, 2017, 7:37 a.m.

I’m a 3. But I hope, and expect it will lift as the day goes by. Thank you for writing Caroline, it’s very true, and I appreciate the chance to be honest. Love ratg x.

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Ach UK

Nov. 25, 2017, 11:05 a.m.

3 sounds a bit rough ratg so I'm sending a "push" (warm positive thought) and hug just so you know I are out here today thinking about you. It occurred to me . . . Do you have to climb a ladder to get up to your garage room? Is it a warm cosy hayloft sort? XX Ach.

Mary Wednesday

Nov. 25, 2017, 11:19 a.m.

Ach has asked the question which always occurs to me. I imagine your space as open and light, with the dappled shadows of a tree flickering on the wooden floor and modern comfortable white furniture....

Benjamin

Nov. 25, 2017, 12:09 p.m.

I do wonder what sort of garage. I know some folks who have owned service stations and lived above them, from the times when cars were not so common and travel was more difficult. Then I know people who have lofts in barns; and perhaps it could be a garage like that? But when I was growing up, I was in a split level and two of the bedrooms were above the garage, including my own.

Bearofliddlebrain

Nov. 25, 2017, 12:22 p.m.

Coming late to the party in the RATG...and sorry I missed yesterday’s blog, Ratty.....do hope you can lean your ladder against the right wall today...maybe just a step ladder so you don’t take on too much. Wishing you a warm cosy day with your lovely children surrounded with soft blankies, warm or hot choccit and love, Bear x

Lexi

Nov. 25, 2017, 2:44 p.m.

Bearofliddlebrain, you remind me so much of a dear friend of mine. She always has such lovely things to say to everyone. Wishing you a cozy day as well!

Lexi

Nov. 25, 2017, 2:45 p.m.

And I do hope your day gets better RATGxoLexi

Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope

Nov. 25, 2017, 6:50 p.m.

So sorry to hear you're only a 3 today RATG. I do hope the day has lifted your score. Carolinex

Krysanne

Nov. 25, 2017, 8:22 a.m.

Hi Caroline thanks for writing such supportive thoughts, with no judgement, but which just acknowledge how different people may be feeling today. Moodscope monitoring continues to help me manage myself as it has done for years. Thank you to you and the team. Christine

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Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope

Nov. 25, 2017, 6:51 p.m.

I'm pleased to hear the Moodscope monitoring helps Christine. Carolinex

Sally

Nov. 25, 2017, 8:54 a.m.

8 today for me after a good week. Caroline , that was very good. I often think of the fact that some are unable to comment ( because I’ve been there myself !) for the reasons you outline. It’s only in recovery that we have the energy and confidence to comment, but we are there all the same. And yes, some days, nothing makes sense, a blog is too hard to read, let alone digest. Warm wishes to all of you out there. You are not alone.

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Molly

Nov. 25, 2017, 4:30 p.m.

I never used to have the time to comment, now I have too much time ! I always enjoyed reading the blogs though via the email, and would make it part of my day. But yes when things are really bad, interest in everything goes and commenting is too much of an effort. I am glad you are having a good week Sally xx

Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope

Nov. 25, 2017, 6:52 p.m.

Nice score Sally - so pleased you've had a good week. Carolinex

Dolphin

Nov. 25, 2017, 9:18 a.m.

Frazzled and shaky. However, I am moving out of my lovely flat on Monday and then continents and this gives me an opportunity to explain my infrequent appearances in the recent past and future. Thank you Caroline and team and all members. ***

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Mary Wednesday

Nov. 25, 2017, 11:20 a.m.

Hello Dolphin. Wishing you strength and fortitude for your move. We love to see you, no matter how infrequently.

Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope

Nov. 25, 2017, 6:54 p.m.

Sorry to hear you're feeling frazzled and shaky but moving house/flat is very stressful, but I hope it's a good move for you. Carolinex

Terence

Nov. 25, 2017, 9:32 a.m.

8 and thank you x

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Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope

Nov. 25, 2017, 7:52 p.m.

Good score Terence. Pleased you are feeling OK today. Carolinex

Jul

Nov. 25, 2017, 10:24 a.m.

When I first read the blog, I felt a 4 at best but been on my bike and feel better, say a 6 or 7? I can draw a conclusion from this! But maybe going back to bed would have produced an 8 or more! We are all different which is what you said in your lovely caring blog Caroline. Thank you. Julxx

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Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope

Nov. 25, 2017, 7:55 p.m.

Hi Jul, Just shows how exercise and fresh air can improve things. Bed may have produced an 8, but you wouldn't be able to feel pleased with yourself for doing the exercise. Cold today though isn't it?! Carolinex

DAVE

Nov. 25, 2017, 10:31 a.m.

Good morning Caroline, I must agree that some of the blogs are quite in depth and for some not easy to comprehend, likewise some of mine are too. However we all go at a different pace, and sometime some may find it a bit over their heads. Perhaps they have yet to reach the level of life's experiences that older generations have accumulated in their lives, I fall into this category, but try to be empathic and to appeal to the younger bloggers. I feel 10 every day, but aware and ready for a fall, and am prepared for this as order is priority in my life. Thank you for you considerate blog, which helps keep the 'troops in line.' Love to you Dave X

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Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope

Nov. 25, 2017, 7:59 p.m.

You are very lucky feeling 10 every day, although I know it's not down to luck, you organise your life very well. I think it really depends how the recipient is feeling as to how well the blogs are received and as you say, we all go at a different pace. Carolinex

The Gardener

Nov. 25, 2017, 10:35 a.m.

6, would be more but everything I do is painful, the fact that it's my own fault is no help at all. Thank you Caroline, often felt I was an 'intruder' looking at the 'aims' of Moodscope for depressed people. My blogs have often brought out names have not noted before, my problems are their problems, and they have felt moved to reply. All power to the Moodscope team elbow. xx

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Mary Wednesday

Nov. 25, 2017, 11:22 a.m.

You are a gift to us all here (in fact I wrote a short story yesterday in which a character inspired by you appears). All power to your (aching?) elbows too. :)

The Gardener

Nov. 25, 2017, 11:35 a.m.

How delightful Mary, thank you. One of my greatest inspirations is my ex lecturer on English and European history. He looks like John Cleese, was a brilliant lecturer, and taught me to poke my nose into things and ask endless questions. He now has prostate cancer, but coping. We have a copious correspondence of 25 years, I have kept it all. We are hoping one of us becomes famous or notorious, so we can sell our scurrilous memoires for a great sum. I'd love to be a famous letter writer, like Madame de Sevigne (17th c epistoliere) or like Nancy Mitford and Evelyn Waugh. Have a good day y'all xx

The Gardener

Nov. 25, 2017, 11:37 a.m.

Should be 'economic' history - that, and social history my passion

Lexi

Nov. 25, 2017, 2:48 p.m.

TG, I would buy those memoires! Put me down for a copy. And it's funny that you feel like an intruder. I always look for your name in the comments. It makes me feel at home. xo Lexi

Molly

Nov. 25, 2017, 4:42 p.m.

Lexi, that is a lovely thing to say. I agree that we get used to the regulars on here and miss them if they don't pop up xx Gardener, I have been thinking about this guilt thing and have been chanting to myself 'I'm only human after all'. You might have heard of the song. I did a blog about fault. Is anyone really at fault? We can only do our best and we are only human after all xx

Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope

Nov. 25, 2017, 8:06 p.m.

An intruder?! You're part of the Moodscope furniture as are many others. Each and every one of you make it a very warm and reassuring place to be. Carolinex

Another Sally

Nov. 25, 2017, 8:52 p.m.

Dear Gardener, if I don't have much time to read all the comments, I always scroll down to see if you have posted anything. Your strength in adversity is a true inspiration and your descriptions of life in France are wonderful. We are going for a day trip on Tuesday, for lunch in Marquise and a visit to the supermarché for treats to bring home. Bon courage. Another Sally x

The Gardener

Nov. 25, 2017, 9:32 p.m.

Caroline, the 'intruder' was used because ever since Charles introduced me to Moodscope I had the idea that it was designed to help with depression, and that my very specific problem might belong on other web-sites, but I could not have dreamed of anything so supportive as Moodscope.

Molly

Nov. 25, 2017, 10:29 p.m.

I think it might be the other way round gardener as I think the depressed people (like me) might need to go elsewhere ! Only I find other sites far too depressing and there seems to be a good balance on here xx

Ach UK

Nov. 25, 2017, 10:52 a.m.

When I read today's blog my heart gave a little hop and now there's a grin on my face . . . .? Why ? . . . The blog's from Caroline . . . Moodscope actually has its own staff doing the "out of hours" supporting, that's so unusual . . A friendly familiar face. ( I was feeling a bit isolated, weekends and bank holidays when you want or need support from NHS Carers or Groups so often it's strangers or no service ). Short blog answer a patient 5 to 6. Hug enthusiastically accepted Caroline. Thank You. And wishing you and all Moodscopers well. Ach

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Mary Wednesday

Nov. 25, 2017, 11:23 a.m.

And hugs back to you, Caroline! Great blog! ;)

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Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope

Nov. 25, 2017, 8:07 p.m.

Thanks Mary. Carolinex

Marmaladegirl

Nov. 25, 2017, 11:31 a.m.

Hi Caroline - It felt as if your blog was speaking directly to me, so although I haven't said anything on here for a long time, I am digging deep to find the strength to reply (be rude not to!) I don't usually do the test (too complicated and having ME/CFS skews the result) but I did it today and got 10. However, how I am feeling out of ten is more like one and a half. I have crashed back into having really bad ME again so can't do much at the moment apart from cling on (and stay calm - staying calm very important, even if life is falling to pieces around me cos I can't do anything). I do try to read the Moodscope blogs every day because although often I fall into the category of people you describe who find it too complicated and exhausting to process, sometimes I will find inspiration... Plus it reminds me that at least the Moodscope folk are still there. Thank you very much for your blog. MG

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Molly

Nov. 25, 2017, 4:51 p.m.

Oh Marmalade, you must get so frustrated. I have no energy or motivation and often get annoyed that I cannot just 'carry on'. So much to do, as in chores. No social life. Husband cannot walk which makes me feel guilty as my issues are mental not physical. Feel for you xx

Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope

Nov. 25, 2017, 8:14 p.m.

Soooo sorry to hear you are below par marmalade girl and I'm pleased that the blog did speak to you and you had enough energy to post your comment. The Moodscope folk are still here, so use us all to help you get out of the mire. Hope your girls are looking after you. Carolinexx

Leah

Nov. 26, 2017, 7:14 a.m.

Marmalade girl, I have been wondering and worrying why I haven't seen your name. I was going to say hello on my next blog to you. I am sorry you are not in a good place and ME is so debilitating and am glad you you posted on this blog.Thinking of you, Leah xx

Marmaladegirl

Nov. 26, 2017, 1:06 p.m.

Thank you for your kind comments and support Caroline and Leah. My two daughters are as much help as you might expect from a 17 and 18 year old (ie not much!) but they are my reason for being and their existence makes every day better. I may be quiet for quite a while - it took me over a year to get to a nearly normal level last time I had a big ME blip like this, but never fear, I'll be here, plodding along and dipping into Moodscope for inspiration and to see what people are up to... Lots of love ***

Lyn

Nov. 25, 2017, 12:02 p.m.

Have too much to do this morning but I have stopped and read your blog which has made me reflect and calm down. So much pressure from Black Friday emails and life in general. I realise that I can let the pressure go if I think about it sensibly. Am about 6 today. Thank you for your message, very helpful.

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Molly

Nov. 25, 2017, 4:54 p.m.

Arlyn, the Black Friday emails, drove me up the wall. Delete Delete Delete !! M xx

Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope

Nov. 25, 2017, 8:15 p.m.

Excellent, reflecting and calming down - good move. 6 isn't too bad. Bin the Black Friday emails and relax. Carolinex

Bearofliddlebrain

Nov. 25, 2017, 12:25 p.m.

Hi Caroline, I’m an eight and a half! I was a ten, then Mr. Bear had an attack of the grumps and shoutings and pulled me down a smidge but am hopeful to be back up in the dizzy heights of ten later on. Great idea for the blog today. Bear hugs to all whether they comment or not xx

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Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope

Nov. 25, 2017, 8:20 p.m.

Lovely, so pleased to hear you are an eight and a half. Shame about the missing one and a half that hubby bear stole. I do hope you nicked it back later in the day! Carolinexx

Peter

Nov. 25, 2017, 12:30 p.m.

Hi Caroline - thank you for your simple and easy-to-digest blog. It was spot on for me and encouraged me to do the test for the first time in a while. As a result I'm now much better at 7/10 :)

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Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope

Nov. 25, 2017, 8:20 p.m.

Hi Peter, great, so pleased you did the test. It really does help but I know it's hard to make yourself do it. 7/10 - good score. Carolinex

David

Nov. 25, 2017, 2:32 p.m.

Hi Caroline - yes, I'm guilty of complicated blogs as well! 34% today - 3ish out of 10. Overwhelmed with things that need doing and underwhelmed with enthusiasm.

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Molly

Nov. 25, 2017, 5 p.m.

Tomorrow never comes does it David. Every day I plan to achieve, then I just have no motivation so I sit and worry about it instead. Today it has turned so cold, it makes it even harder. Some jobs would only take 5 minutes but I have to wait for a rare energetic day and then try and do the lot!

Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope

Nov. 25, 2017, 8:24 p.m.

Hi David, 3 isn't great is it David. Sorry you're feeling down and lacking enthusiasm. Write them all down and try and get them in to small doable chunks so you can slowly gnaw away at the list and feel a little bit better. Also, you must question whether they really need to be done or not. Carolinex

Lexi

Nov. 25, 2017, 2:57 p.m.

Hello Caroline, it was nice to see your name today! I am a 6.5 today, much better than my 3.5 yesterday. Thanksgiving and so many people to see and off my diet and drinking all caused depression and shame to creep in. Today I am determined to get back to my routine. Hugs to all, xo Lexi

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Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope

Nov. 25, 2017, 8:26 p.m.

Hi Lexi, nice rise in score today. It can be too much can't it - celebrating at Thanksgiving/Xmas. Everyone's rushing around and wearing themselves out. Sounds like you're getting straight quite quickly though. Good for you. Carolinex

Molly

Nov. 25, 2017, 4:24 p.m.

Hi Caroline and everyone. I too did the test today after quite a while. (I used to do it every day but never commented) I only scored 15% but it didn't surprise me. I'm trying desperately to be more positive but it doesn't come easy to me! After yesterday's blog I am thinking today I must keep climbing the ladder and not slide down the slippery snake. The blogs and comments on here help me enormously, whether it be support or just something I can relate to so much, that makes me feel less alone. I agree that sometimes they are complicated or deep, but there is a wide range so 'something for all'. Thank you Caroline for keeping it going xx

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Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope

Nov. 25, 2017, 8:31 p.m.

Hi Molly, so pleased that the blogs and comments are helping you and I'm pleased you have done the test. I know the result isn't great, but it is still good to keep track of things. It must be so difficult looking after your husband. I'm sure things will change in the future and your positivity will return. Hang on in there and thank you for being a great support to others. Carolinex

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Molly

Nov. 25, 2017, 10:30 p.m.

Thanks Caroline xx

Another Sally

Nov. 25, 2017, 8:58 p.m.

Hi Caroline, thank you for a blog that produced so many good comments. Not sure how I feel today, been feeling a bit run down. I did go back to bed this morning and then felt I had lost out on a sunny day. I'm possibly about a 5. I love being part of the Moodscope community. Hugs and waves to all from, Another Sally

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Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope

Nov. 25, 2017, 9:07 p.m.

Thanks Sally. I'm pleased it has generated so many good comments. Sorry you're not great at the moment. Although it was sunny today, it was extremely cold standing on the side of a rugby pitch all afternoon!! A warm bed sounds like a good choice. Carolinex

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Jane SG

Nov. 26, 2017, 9:47 p.m.

Hi Caroline, I'm a day late but tonight I'm a 5. X

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