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Get a Life. Friday August 11, 2017

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I think it was Sir Terry Pratchett who said (although it might not be, because I can't find this quote with Google, which must mean it can't exist – right?), when challenged to "get a life", that he felt he was living six lives already.

Those of us who have seen that image of him writing, surrounded by his six monitors; who have read his Disc World Series, or are writers themselves, understand.

But, just recently, I was challenged to "get a life."

Oh, not as bluntly as that: it was posed as a question and addressed it to many of us. A question which is utterly valid, even if it did make me (and others) say "Ouch!" at the time.

That question is, do we spend so much time concentrating on our own symptoms, our own condition, that we fail to live life as fully as we might?

I am deeply ashamed to say that I reacted violently. I promptly retaliated in the comments (see what you miss out on if you don't click through to the comments!) with a full run-down of my life and commitments; because I'm quite a busy girl – most of the time – when I'm not sitting shaking on the sofa in the darkness, that is.

But then I started to think.

Before I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, mental health had no relevance and was of no interest to me. Now it is one of the few areas of health about which I am passionate.

If it were not for Moodscope however, I think I would still feel rather embarrassed about my condition. I would not want to talk about it; I would not want to think about it. I would still take my tablets and be grateful, but I would probably still want to hide my condition under a cloak of "normality." Because I would feel ashamed.

Moodscope has allowed me to see that I am not alone and that I have no reason to be ashamed. Further, it has given me a platform on which to stand, to take understanding forward, to send the light of knowledge and compassion further into the world.

We've all heard the saying, "It is better to light one candle than to curse the darkness." Well, for me, Moodscope is that candle. I am proud to hold that candle high and to be seen by everyone to hold that candle.

It doesn't mean it's the only candle I hold, or even the brightest candle. But – just maybe – it's the most important candle, because I believe Moodscope can give hope to many more people than other areas of my busy life.

So, in answer to the question, should I stop thinking about my condition and get a life? The answer is, by thinking about it, by writing about it, by supporting Moodscope; I hope I am helping many other sufferers with this condition to "get a life".

Which is what it's all about, really.

Mary
A Moodscope member.

Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment below.


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Comments

dancing hippo Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 12:21am

well said. I had to comment straight away for Molly's sake. Now I will listen . However if I was not bed and house bound after a heavy fall for a while now I would have not been able to devote so much time to keeping track of what is going on here and it takes my whole life at the moment which would be a life saver for somebody with depression but all this excitement is quite dangerous for me and my moods. and the question I had been asking myself in the past still remains Shall I do or write about what I have already done ? And I am not a professional writer but reading and writing used to be an enormous parts of my everyday ( moodscope seems to be becoming this addiction now ) the only remedy is to go cold turkey so do not worry when I disappear for long periods.

The Gardener Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 10:43am

dh - I am in despair for various reasons - I phoned old friends (our UK doctor who was a student on our farm as well when training). If I did not have contacts here and in town I could NOT cope - and don't think 'what shall I write?' 'have I heard it all before?' Just write - best therapy, costs nothing - and it's YOURS, don't have to say what you are doing - good luck xx

The Gardener Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 10:43am

dh - I am in despair for various reasons - I phoned old friends (our UK doctor who was a student on our farm as well when training). If I did not have contacts here and in town I could NOT cope - and don't think 'what shall I write?' 'have I heard it all before?' Just write - best therapy, costs nothing - and it's YOURS, don't have to say what you are doing - good luck xx

Carol Anne Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 7:05am

Loved your blog Mary. I don't always comment, but sincerely thank you for your many contributions.
This is what it made me think about - stirred up for me.
Quite simply, for me, and I've discussed this at my (fortnightly) support group previously - once you have that awareness of your 'condition' you can't switch it off.
It's a blessing and a curse in many ways.
I've come to the conclusion that i'm grateful to be aware and by continuing practising mindfulness I can continue to build time of 'being present ' and truly free myself from my thinking.
Like many there's big things happening in life which is mood affecting cancer, redundancy, terminal illness in bf, family dysfunction drama, high pressure job....but coping with all of that is only possible by first and foremost maintaining my own condition on a daily basis.
Moodscope, this community, is a huge positive in helping me do that.
Thank you all. X

Mary Wednesday Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 8:21am

Thank you, Carol Anne

Orangeblossom Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 7:30am

Thanks for the blog Mary. As always I thoroughly enjoyed reading it.. I usually keep a diary & have done since 16. However that has changed in character as I have changed I hope, and grown. Sometimes, seemingly negative comments can act as a catalyst for change. A friend said that I spent too much time feeling sorry for myself. This acted as a wake up call. If The self-pity switch has flicked on, I soon become aware of it.

Mary Wednesday Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 8:25am

There is another blog on just this subject (self-pity) waiting in the wings. The two blogs together were originally entitled "get a life, parts one and two" but a friend said the second one is a bit off the wall and not so easy to access (actually, he was kinder than that: he said "this is you at your most creative" which meant the same thing, I'm sure!). So its sitting in reserve. Good point though, self pity is toxic!

Another Sally Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 8:23am

Dear Molly, I don't think dancing hippo was trying to be sarcastic, there was a comment a few blogs back where you said yourself that you always seemed to be first, so dh was trying to save you from the "oops I'm the first again" feeling. I think it was a Moodscoper kindness.

Mary Wednesday Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 8:29am

Of course you are right! We are a sensitive lot here, easily hurt (goes with the territory). I would like us all to interpret every comment from each other in the most positive and compassionate light - because that's usually the way it's meant.

Eva Sat, Aug 12th 2017 @ 7:01am

Hi Mary and Another Sally, I think this is so important, I was thinking about the general spikyness of some responses over the last wee while and reflected that of course some of us are ill and sometimes spikyness is the natural response, however the recipients are also ill, so here in particular is a good place to try whenever possible to respond with love, the love you give a sick loved one, and hope to expect in return. Moodscoper kindness is a lovely phrase, and to my mind is a bit of patience, tolerance, reflection and love. I need to store that away to use in future:)

Another Sally Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 8:25am

Dear Mary, a real treat to hear from you twice in a week. I do love to read your contributions. I feel that hearing of other's challenges and successes is a benefit to all of us. Thank you. AS. xx

Mary Wednesday Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 8:32am

Thank you so much.

Another Sally Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 8:26am

Just one more. My have hijacked some of the entries this week with all the kind responses from regulars. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for thinking of me. One day at a time..... Love AS

Mary Wednesday Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 8:31am

I will continue to think of you. I'm sure many of us will. No hi-jacking, just support.

Sally Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 8:58am

Ditto. We are thinking of you, Another Sally. Must be soooooo painful. Virtual hugs. S.

Victoria Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 8:32am

I hadn't read the previous comments so I'm missing the subtext going on here, but in a therapeutic setting, reacting in a violent or angry way usually means that the brain has recognised the truth but doesn't want to admit to or deal with it.

It is often difficult and painful to look into ourselves when there is something we don't want to look at. Whether that is promoted by a comment designed to hurt, one that is thoughtless but not malicious, or one that is phrased carefully by someone who cares who is reaching over the parapet to help us...

It is hard not to focus on symptoms when those symptoms are particularly strong or are a great impact on our lives at this moment in time. However, I appreciate the prompt to step back and look at what else is going on. One simple example would be to raise my face to the sun and smile. It doesn't mean I'm not tired or in pain or stressed about work, but it does mean that for those few seconds my shoulders have eased and I have had a tiny break. Which may actually have a positive impact on the pain, fatigue and stress.

Moodscope is a fantastic resource, but like anything else that we enjoy and find useful, sometimes a break is good for us. It doesn't matter whether you're fixated on the happiest, most positive thing in the world, it doesn't mean you shouldn't stop to smell the roses and look at what else is going on.

It is going to be really hard for me to do that today. But I shall try, at least once, to think about something other than my symptoms. I'll freely admit that's going to be impossible this morning, I'm too stuck in feeling sorry for myself! But I might manage it after lunch.

Sally Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 9:33am

Thank you for your valued comment, Victoria. I appreciate what you mean about the brain reacting in an angry way when it recognises the truth , and I had asked myself that very question when the "get a life" comment was levelled at Moodscopers. But I can honestly say that my anger was fuelled by the injustice of that dismissive comment because many on here are just passing by, dropping in to do a "mental health check " before resuming work or daily life. And are functioning individuals in other areas of their lives. Who are kind and well- meaning and supportive. Because there are many out there who are not going to take the time to understand this aspect of our lives. That is why this sanctuary is precious.

Victoria Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 9:50am

Thank you Sally i didn't happen to read that post or the comments and I am not subtly trying to get at anyone. I am simply responding to the surface subject of this post and recognising that stuff that hurts is probably something we need to give attention to. Peace x

Mary Wednesday Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 11:41am

Victoria, your view from a therapeutic setting gives food for thought. I suppose, as a regular blogger, I spend more time on this site and supporting it than do others who use it as a helpful resource. I view it as part of my volunteering; in the same light as serving on various charitable committees and my independent custody visiting (now sadly ceased as my local police station no longer has a functioning custody suite). As my own condition appears to now be managed with medication, I suppose I could walk away. But that would be selfish and (to some extent) render my past suffering pointless. So, I'll continue to stay here. And to smell the roses and lift my face to the sunshine which shines brightly today. Thank you again for your comment.

Tutti Frutti Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 12:14pm

Victoria I really like your comment. It makes a lot of sense. Given what you say about how you are feeling this morning I am also dead impressed that you can write like this. Sending hugs and I hope you manage those spots of thinking about something else. Love TF xoxo

Tutti Frutti Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 12:20pm

Mary I totally agree on the being able to give something back to others when we are well enough helps to give a point to what we've been through. Trying hard to remember that I am not well enough right now to give the level of support I would like to a colleague who turns out to be in more of a mess than I had suspected. Love TF x

Mary Wednesday Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 1:08pm

Dear TF. We can only give what we have *to* give.So often we feel that is utterly inadequate. But never underestimate the power of a kind word or a hug. At my lowest, I just appreciated someone saying "I'm thinking of you" (see Keeping Vigil, 23rd September 2015). You cannot help a drowning man by drowning yourself. Your goodwill is itself invaluable.

Victoria Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 1:22pm

Thank you Mary and TF. Mary, I know I appreciate the input you provide here. Your comment to me made me think, and I'm not directing this at you but in case it is useful to others, that recognising the anger and the thing one doesn't want to think about, does not necessarily mean that one is wallowing or behaving negatively. A person may well be angry because their subconscious recognises that they are wallowing in self-pity, for example. But it also might highlight something like a defensive reaction. If you'll forgive me using you as an example and please know I am not judging you, you may not be wallowing at all. But you may for example feel defensive that your family doesn't appreciate the time you spend supporting Moodscope. So the angry reaction is because you are angry with your family but don't feel able to own that emotion. A way to address that may be to save the text of some of the appreciative comments your receive after your blogs and look at them when you are feeling defensive about the time you are spending here. Something that I find difficult to do regularly but have found useful when I commit to it, is to look at the situation, in this case the emotion of anger, and ask why. Then ask why to the answer. Repeat this 5 or 6 times. For example, why am I angry? I feel like people are picking on me. Why do I feel like people are picking on me? They are calling me self-indulgent. Why does thinking that I'm self-indulgent upset me? etc etc. it allows you to get to the actual issue and then address it. Sorry, don't mean to be preachy but thought some of this might help people. It's also good to remind myself of it!

Mary Wednesday Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 1:50pm

Excellent process - thank you. And.... um... you may want to repeat that comment when you read a future blog of mine, "Six Serving Men." I'm afraid "Why" gets rather a bad innings in that one. Your comment illustrates exactly how "Why" can be used positively. And - feel free to use me as an example any time. My family, btw, are supportive; they just wish I could get paid for it! ;)

Brum Mum Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 9:05am

Wow, Mary! I feel that I have got to know you somewhat over the years I have been on Moodscope and I've always thought that you have a very full life, with your family, writing, work, holiday home etc etc! So a call to "Get a life" would certainly rankle me too!! The fact of the matter is that you, I and many others we encounter through Moodscope have faced our illness head on and seek to honestly share our experiences and insights not only to help ourselves but to help others. I value Moodscope immensely although have noticed that over the last few weeks there has been some rather harsh or curmudgeonly comments. Keep blogging, Mary. Your beautiful prose style is a delight and source of comfort x

Brum Mum Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 9:05am

Wow, Mary! I feel that I have got to know you somewhat over the years I have been on Moodscope and I've always thought that you have a very full life, with your family, writing, work, holiday home etc etc! So a call to "Get a life" would certainly rankle me too!! The fact of the matter is that you, I and many others we encounter through Moodscope have faced our illness head on and seek to honestly share our experiences and insights not only to help ourselves but to help others. I value Moodscope immensely although have noticed that over the last few weeks there has been some rather harsh or curmudgeonly comments. Keep blogging, Mary. Your beautiful prose style is a delight and source of comfort x

Mary Wednesday Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 11:46am

Thank you so much, Brum Mum. I think that maybe, some of our commenters have been going through rough patches themselves. We all know how difficult it is to be positive and how easy it is to react rather than to respond when we are in pain. I am always fearful that my comments will be taken as patronising when they are never meant to be. Thank you enormously for your kind comments.

Tutti Frutti Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 12:31pm

Brum Mum I think it was you who has professional experience of HR issues and office restructuring. Your reply on the swans and plastic bags blog a few months ago was really helpful to me when I was upset about stuff at work. (As part of a general restructure I had to apply for my own job or risk a demotion). Assuming that I am remembering correctly and it was you I just wanted to say thank you. It was still all very stressful and took ages but I did get confirmed in post. Thanks again love TF x

Brum Mum Sun, Aug 13th 2017 @ 5:18pm

TF, yes it was me! Thank you for the lovely feedback. I am so pleased for you x

Sally Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 9:07am

Well said, Mary. I was cheering as I read your blog because it is exactly how I would've liked to have phrased it . I was incensed at the challenge to " get a life" recently directed at Moodscopers because this is our sanctuary, and if on here of all places, we are to be offered that line, it pricks our balloon of trust in being heard non judgementally.
I have a life and am mostly proud of what I have achieved. Obviously there are areas that are hemmed in due to mental health episodes, but that is not of my choosing!
We are all doing the best that we can, under at times trying circumstances. Moodscope offers a warm cloak of reassurance that we are ok. Best wishes to all out there.

Mary Wednesday Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 11:49am

Cheering you right back, Sally! It's so important that we recognise we all do the best we can with what we have. Sometimes that best is just keeping our head above the raging torrent and swimming as hard as we can to stand still... um - not that we'd be standing if we are swimming out of our depth, but you know what I mean! Hugs to you!

Valerie Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 10:20am

This says it all Mary.As with all your writing,compassion for others,and not a jot of self-pity.

You were certainly not the only one to bristle at the suggestion that we all spend our time wallowing in our problems.Reading about the lives of some of the contributors is very humbling,God knows how they face each day.
If one would feel sorry for a friend going through a miserable time,it is not unreasonable for any person to sometimes feel hard-done-by,indulge in a bit of self-pity,just as long as this does not become a way of life.

I do sometimes say to myself "Get a life Val" when I go to check my emails,and half an hour later I am giggling at dog surfing competitions,or Wallmart people.And don't get me started on anti-ageing blogs.We don't need to justify ourselves,spend every moment being productive.It is just a snapshot of life,not the whole picture. xx


Mary Wednesday Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 11:54am

A well timed comment, Valerie. I do always feel I must use every moment productively. Yet Jesus said " Consider the lilies of the field. They toil not, neither do they spin, yet I tell you that Solomon in all his glory was not clothed as one of these." And sorry - that's not me being religious, just using it as a useful quote. I shall practise being a Lily.. .. very hard though!

The Gardener Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 10:48am

Seriously, and probably 'screwily' working at plans to get a life. After the euphoria induced by UK visit life is at a very low ebb - weather grim, my 'bug' won't shift - Mr G can't take it in that I've lost my voice - yells, then yells louder, this time in my ear and provoked neuralgia. No sleep since he came out of respite - mad idea arrived - this morning I felt I never wanted to see him in my life again, the possessiveness is driving me mad. So, I thought if I could let both houses, then the income from that plus our pensions would get Mr G into a home and me into a Catholic commune. I must go gardening, have a rest, and root out these crazy ideas before they take root. I am, basically, at a major road junction with no signposts.

Tutti Frutti Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 12:09pm

Gardener I think some of your family have visited fairly recently. In which case why don't you speak to one of them about your idea before you dismiss it as completely crazy and root it out. You cannot go on looking after Mr G forever if it is affecting your health (and it seems to me that it is). If you discuss it you might be able to improve on your idea? Eg Are you sure that a Catholic commune will really be your scene and are there other options? Love TF x NB Not enough sleep myself recently so I cannot promise that I am at my most level headed. Do discuss with someone else!

Mary Wednesday Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 1:15pm

Totally sympathise with your desire for the contemplative life! (Echoes of "Get thee to a nunnery") As TF says, don't just dismiss this as a harebrained scheme. Explore it. You may still dismiss in the end, but see my comment above about drowning. In the meantime, blessings on you, and I shall say a special prayer for you tonight. (Apologies to all of you who are not religious - please do not be offended by the comments of those of us to whom religion brings great comfort).

The Gardener Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 2:31pm

Thanks both - the idea could not be acted on unilateraly - too much involved. And Mary Wednesday - go to church, find it a comfort - and whether one believes in prayer or not I find it a huge comfort that people are thinking of me, and asking for help. The chaos of the last two years (external forces acting on an already difficult situation) look like being added to by even more troubled waters - whatever the awful Trump does international incidents add to the general incertitude in to world - I've been used to making decisions and acting upon them - now caught in a veritable spider's web. Thanks, both

Bearofliddlebrain Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 1:16pm

Another Sally....thinking about you and hoping things went as well as they could have gone on Wednesday. So much for ythis u and your family to bear - it puts life into perspective.
Big Bear hugs xx

Mary, Mary....I think many of us felt an 'Ouch'. Let's hope this is the end of it with your fine blog.
Beariest hugsx

Mary Wednesday Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 1:44pm

Yes. This was supposed to be "the final word" and provide closure.

Geoff Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 2:43pm

Dear Mary, Reading your blog, and all the comments it's generated, I think we can safely say that most of us on Moodscope are there to support each other. We lay our souls bare and raw, knowing that it's (usually) a safe place to do so. I've not written a blog myself yet, but I do find help and solace in the words of many who do. For you and the other contributors, I thank you.

Kelly Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 4:38pm

I talk about my condition (which is the same as yours) to help other people feel less ashamed about it and more like it's just as ok to say I have bipolar as I have diabetes or I have a broken leg.

Sal Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 5:24pm

Hi Mary, I couldn't resist reading your piece, having seen the title, and having some left-over feelings from the exchange involving David a while back. I agree with you that I see Moodscope as 'lighting a candle in the darkness'. Still, I wanted to defend David a bit (my 'rescuer' coming into play I guess!). I took David's comments to be an indication that he was not feeling very OK himself at this time, and so I didn't feel angry myself. It's so self-evident to me that what we do on Moodscope is helping us all to manage our mental health that I didn't think it was necessary to defend it against David's remarks. I am sorry if he has taken the reactions to mean that he should stay silent, or stop using Moodscope. I'd like it to be a tool for all of us, and for contributions to be received with a pretty wide tolerance and leeway.

I have heard it said that when receiving feedback (as David gave us), it's helpful to remember that sometimes the feedback says more about the person giving it than about the person it's directed to. I think that's what happened in this case. So while I agree with all the good things you say about Moodscope, I still think it's OK for people to say critical things on here - though I would like them to be gentle when they do it :)

Mary Wednesday Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 9:50pm

Sal, you are absolutely right. I hope I made clear that I felt David's question was absolutely valid and valued. Sometimes we need hard questions. I agree too, with the rest of your comment. I would hate anyone to feel unwelcome here. At the same time, we need to recognise that we are all sensitive souls, easily hurt. I hope not easily offended, but our feelings are close to the surface and tender.

dancing hippo Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 10:47pm

Moodscope is broken . And if it is not broken then it is censored without explanation. I do not know if I will feel free and comfortable to post again . It happened just when I was going to praise how great it is now to be getting emails about new posts and clicking on read more we are taken to the exact spot so no more scrolling through everything . But it did not work like that at all . I was keen to read the posts after receiving an email but I was not taken to a particular spot but to the beginning of the blog. I tried a few times and at the end did scroll carefully but both posts were not amongst other comments . There were some comments referring to them but not those comments. If there was an explanation I would probably not feel as bad as I feel now. One of the comments was addressed to me so I was extra curious to read it and explain because by now I am used to the fact of being misunderstood - sometimes in a very positive way - still .... misunderstood . I did get the gist and my imagination went into overdrive.

Molly misunderstood my first post and somebody actually said that it happened and maybe lost her cool and posted something offensive which was removed or she got offended by replies in my favour and somehow removed her original posts - is it at all possible ? - or asked Caroline to remove them. Spooky .

Sal's post made me think again about the title of the blog as it could be many other things and I remembered how the whole get a life incident ended.

Caroline made a specific request to close the subject and stop posting about it and when David continued she asked him publicly to seize and he reacted by quitting.

It did leave a sour taste.

Posting this blog Caroline broke the rule that she imposed herself - no more on the subject.

When I wrote about my dilemma of living or writing about living rather then living some more and time was basically my issue as how do I use it and diary as a form of writing which I thought was obvious as any other writing has a different purpose and diary is for me although many people make their living nowadays by living on show
Lovely The Gardener tried to encourage me to write but this is not my problem - thank you for your concern.

Going to live with the nuns seems such a romantic escape . The reality of it is completely different. It is good to have an unrealistic dream as a mind game but do be careful what you pray for because you may get it.

I will not be surprised if this comment does not appear or will disappear soon after but then I will know for sure that it is not a gremlin's work and for this purpose I think that I will save it.

Lexi Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 11:06pm

Hi Mary, love this post. I do believe you help me get on with my life. I feel less alone and more "normal' since joining Moodscope and having you and others share the intimate ups and downs of your life. I do think I have a life - a vibrant life with lots of layers and colors - and what this is about is accepting the life (and lot) we have and embracing it, all of it. xo Lexi

dancing hippo Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 11:09pm

After posting the last long comment I got notification of new posts and the same thing happened . I was taken to the spot of two comments but not the third one from Molly and when I scroll I cannot see any posts from Molly . Is it just me or everybody ?

Another Sally thank you so much for being so caring and open to others in this difficult time for you . You are absolutely right as I did mean exactly What you and Mary saw me do to post first and I was not being sarcastic in the slightest . I used to be a long time ago and I succumb occasionally to this vice and only for a valid reason , that I despise nowadays with a passion as I feel it is unnecessary , unhelpful and a waste of time .

Molly Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 11:56pm

Dancing Hippo, my posts were deleted by the Moodscope Team as they were seen to be inappropriate. I didn't ask for them to be removed. Hope this explains why you cannot see them.

Caroline the Moodscope Team Fri, Aug 11th 2017 @ 11:10pm

Hi DH, Moodscope isn't broken! You're absolutely right, I did say nothing more on the subject after the issue on Monday, but I felt Mary's blog wasn't in any way a dig at David and more about Mary and her life so I thought it wouldn't be a problem. Caroline

David Sat, Aug 12th 2017 @ 5:57am

Hello Moodscopers,

I had to return after seeing the heading ( Get A Life) and with all the comments.

Now very satisfied most of you have a life other than Moodscope.

I find sometimes mental problems become so overwhelming that another life becomes very difficult.

Now to return to writing my book on a Desert Island namely Australia.

Simply the Best and the Best is Yet to Come.

Good luck and Good Health, to you all.

Sal Sat, Aug 12th 2017 @ 9:23am

Hello David and Dancing Hippo and everyone. I just looked in again to see if anything had been added, as I felt that this particular blog raised issues that I still have feelings about (getting excluded from groups is a big trigger for me ... at least I notice it now!).

I am so glad to see you here again David, I really didn't want you to have been driven away. And good luck and good health to you too.

I agree with you Dancing Hippo, I am a bit disturbed that Molly's posts were removed and nothing said to indicate that they had been. I don't remember them in detail but I don't recall seeing anything offensive or 'over the line' in the comments on Mary's blog. (Perhaps they had been removed already when I looked at the comments, though.) Overall however I think Moodscope still feels a pretty safe place to say what I think and to be visible. I'm grateful for that.

It is really tempting to stay here commenting though - and I'm already late for this morning's flower walk! I shall take 'Get a Life' as one of my inner mottos, to remind myself to get away from the computer when I am starting to get hooked on venting my opinions here :)

Love to you all, Sal x

Molly Sat, Aug 12th 2017 @ 4:41pm

Thank you Sal, I don't think I went 'over the line' either and apologise to Mary if she felt I did. Several members have said they like honesty on here but I guess things are interpreted differently by each person. I admit I was in a bad mood and perhaps should have worded my comments differently as I can come across a bit blunt sometimes. I did tell Mary I enjoyed her blog but as mentioned above, a line had been put under the subject so I was surprised to see a blog about it. I cannot say anymore or this comment will be removed as well. Love Molly xx

Another Sally Sat, Aug 12th 2017 @ 5:44pm

Dear Molly, I'm glad to see you're still checking in. I must admit I may have found your comments to be rather blunt. However, none of us really knows what is going on in people's lives. I think you have mentioned several things, and these together make an incremental stress that can manifest itself in different ways - often maybe feeling put upon or snappy. I feel we should all give each other the benefit of the doubt and be gentle with one another, which we generally are. Feel safe to stay with us Molly and keep the comments coming. I think we have all taken a lesson from this episode. With a smile and best wishes. Another Sally x

Molly Sat, Aug 12th 2017 @ 6:49pm

Hi Another Sally, thanks for your honesty. I did reply briefly to your last comment to me but that got removed as well! That one really did throw me, like it was some vendetta against me as other people say things that don't get removed, but enough said! I don't know how I feel about commenting now but I expect I will get over it. I hope that you are coping with things, you pop up in my head quite often as I realise that my issues are nothing compared to yours. Much love, Molly xx

Vivienne Wed, Aug 30th 2017 @ 1:35pm

Dear Mary. I've often read your blogs ... .and always admired your ability to express yourself so well. This particular blog was wonderful. Thank you. xx

Mary Wednesday Wed, Aug 30th 2017 @ 1:54pm

Thank you Vivienne. It still doesn't work sometimes - when all I have are words and words are not the answer. But I'm glad I can write. Words are a great comfort to me.

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