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Friends. Friday April 29, 2016

I have been a member of Moodscope for a number of years now and feel very keenly that sense of knowing it is a safe community to be amongst and also to know that there are many members who comment regularly.

When these people don't comment for a while we miss them; I sometimes contact Caroline at Moodscope and ask where is so and so and often the realisation that someone hasn't appeared on the blog page for a while, is commented on by others.

We each of us need time to reflect, time out from regular commitments and the space to deal with crises and just life basically.

So although we all realise this need, we still miss our friends and worry about their welfare.

This morning on my bike ride, I thought of

Bear (please Bear, give us a little growl).

Norman. (Norman I just loved your joke about the Irish guy being offered a drink before the pub was allowed to sell drink notwithstanding Hopeful's daily jokes so no competition here).

Ratg seems back in the fold, albeit a little quieter than before.

Les is still out there thank goodness. You are a survivor Les.

Rupert? How are you?

Lex..I was sorry to hear you are exhausted and not your usual ebullient self. Please bounce back in your own time.

Debs? Well, I have seen your name recently so will try not to worry.

Di, I hope you are well, I miss your calming words.

And Suzy, I hope you'll be coming back soon.

I am sure you can think of others we are missing. I may have forgotten some and I am sorry but rest assured I am thinking of you.

A Moodscope member

Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment below.

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Leah Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 5:17am

What a delightful and caring blog. I think of the wonderful personalities I have 'met' through moodscope.
I suppose when we have not heard from a person for a while we don't know if it is for a happy reason like the person is travelling or that the person is tired or nor up to communicating.
To your list I would add Alice.
I also think of all those people who always read and have never replied and wonder what they are like.
Thanks again for a chance to thinks of the friendly nature of moodscope and the way we can connect to people from all over the globe.

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 3:22pm

Leah! I replied to you first thing and I must not have pressed the reply button. This happened with my reply to Richard too. Thank you for reminding me of Alice our lovely through the looking glass girl. You have made me pause and think about all those who read the blogs and don't reply. I am not sure what the membership numbers are for Moodscope and I was about to say I wonder how many reply on a daily basis or regularly etc etc but then thought No Stop! Don't get all statistical. None of that really matters. I know I speak for many others when I say how we love your blogs and comments Leah. Keep them coming. Julxxx

Sally Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 6:14am

I was just going to say the same thing, Leah! "What a delightful and caring blog" sums it up entirely!
Thanks, Julia , for being there for us all, seen or unseen. Moodscope and Moodscopers DO make a difference to our lives in a positive way. You can always learn, be comforted, or just be entertained on this page!

Sally Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 6:16am

By the jokes and humour I meant, ...just in case someone takes that last bit the wrong way!!

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 9:07am

Hello Sally. Thank you for this. Hopeful One's jokes entertain us and lift our spirits. We are all here for each other and I am hoping you are well Sally. Julxx

Chloé Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 6:50am

Sorry for the "spam"
I would like to make a new post on the blog, but I don't find where I can do it, could you help me?

My question: do you know the calculation used from the 20 questions to get the percentage?

Thanks a lot

Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 7:55am

Hi Chloe, many thanks for your comment. If you would like to write a blog for Moodscope please send it to Regarding the calculation, I know you have emailed me directly asking this question and I will reply later today. Kind regards. Caroline

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 9:08am

It's always great to see new names on the blog page Chloe. Start writing! Julxx

Rupert Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 8:30am

Hi Julia so lovely of you to ask after me!

I am ok thanks. Partly my problem is that I can't access moodscope or my hotmail account on my work computer anymore so I have to find other means which is more complicated and as I am a Luddite I don't always make it onto the blog!

I also find that if my mood is better I don't always feel the need to read the blog. Is that a terrible admission to make?! Maybe it illustrates how useful a "tool" this whole thing is in that you are always there to offer support and comfort. Maybe it is my form of mindfulness which means I sometimes shy away from contact with others if I feel it is the best thing for me. Maybe I am rambling!

It is so nice that there are caring people on here who can empathise and make you laugh too! I was touched by your comments. Rupert

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 9:12am

What a pity you can't access Moodscope on your work computer Rupert as I guess that's where it would be most helpful for you?! It's so good you can access it today though. No you are not rambling. I think I take the most credit for rambling, often off course but I feel safe doing this on Moodscope. I am not going to worry about you any more as you have good technical reasons not to be here at the moment. Caroline may be able to help you with the Hotmail though. Keep going Rupert. Julxx

LillyPet Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 9:28am

Not at all a terrible admission to make Rupert! We are happy for you i can identify with that and it's good to know :) LP x

Mary Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 4:34pm

So lovely to know you are still reading Norman. We do miss you.

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 5:30pm

I think you mean Rupert Mary? I know from past comments how you miss Rupert. Jul xx

the room above the garage Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 8:40am

Julia! I feel like you have just opened the door to your warm kitchen, on a cold day, and invited us all in for coffee and a reunion!! What a special blog. A great reminder and reinforcement that friends are friends whether you can see them or not. I've never found friendships easy and with you's easy. Thank you so much for bringing us together, a gift. Much love ratg xxx.

Bearofliddlebrain Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 8:49am

Hi RATG....thank you for the 'missing me' pom yesterday. Waving a liddle Bearpaw at you x x x

Leah Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 8:55am

Bear, so good to see your name. We have all missed you. Waving back at you. When the time is right hope to see more of your kind words and wisdom back on moodscope.xx

LillyPet Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 9:31am

Hey there Honey Bear! Lovely to hear your liddle voice! Am whacking the kettle on for a cuppa! :) warm hugs. LP :) xx

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 10:05am

I would love to have you all in my warm kitchen ratg. I really loved your poem to Bear yesterday which coincidentally fitted in so well with my words today, written only a couple of days ago. Did the poem just come to you or do you write poetry often? I have a few friends which surprises me as I have never found friendships easy either. A good way of putting it. Moodscope friends are very precious and I really value your friendship and comments ratg. I get the feeling you are always there to help when needed. Julxx

Mary Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 4:35pm

Loved the poem yesterday. Love even more that we have our Bear back.

the room above the garage Sat, Apr 30th 2016 @ 12:39pm

It literally just fell out my 'pen' as I was thinking of Bear. To be honest, Pam Ayers put me off poetry as a child but I learned to love again through Roald Dahl, Spike Milligan, Shel Silverstein and Les :-)

the room above the garage Sat, Apr 30th 2016 @ 12:40pm

Jul, this blog has been brilliant, a proper reunion and thank you! xx

Tutti Frutti Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 8:46am

Lovely blog Julia. I've been on Moodscope for 3 years or so now and there are certain bloggers I can now recognise before I get to the bottom of the email. I've started reading the comments more frequently as well now and its nice to be able to think about and sometimes pray for specific people. I have also commented a few times - initially when one of the bloggers (Les I think) challenged us to comment. I've not had a consistent name though - a mix of anonymous and my Christian name (but it's not unusual enough for you to be sure who is commenting). So seeing Julia's comments, I have decided to go back to a nickname I had at school. Apologies for any unfortunate connotations with fruitcake but I assure you it has more to do with an Italian surname and ice cream.
Hugs to all who are feeling rough.

Bearofliddlebrain Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 8:53am

Dear Tutti Frutti...I now see you in ice cream colours and am saying your name with a ve ve poor Italian accent! Bear hugs x

LillyPet Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 9:33am

Love that name TF! :) xx

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 1:32pm

You have made me realise Tutti Frutti that actually people might be commenting but not always using the same name. So big apologies for not referring to this in my blog. I never thought about it! It is always nice for us if people do use the same name consistently; however I felt spooked once when someone used the name "Julia from France" and it wasn't me even though I have a house in France! So I chopped and changed my name for a while and have now settled with "Jul xx" I love your nickname and echo Bear's comment. I hope you are having a good day Tutti Fruiti. Julxx

Mary Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 4:36pm

Hello Tutti Frutti - what a lovely name. I shall look forward to your comments now.

Bearofliddlebrain Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 8:52am

Dear Jul and's been a difficult four months with a death in the family or friends each although I have been here watching, I haven't had the energy or known what to say to any one of you...but I do think of you - and have missed many too.
Waving a liddle Bear paw in warmest greetos...
Bear x x x

Leah Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 8:56am

Bear, we must have been writing at the same time as I only saw this after I posted mine. Sorry it has been a difficult few months for you. Warmest hugs xx

Eva Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 9:09am

glad to see you bear, strength and peace to you at this sad time.

LillyPet Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 9:42am

I'm sorry and sending love too Bear. LillyPet XxXx

Lou Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 11:38am

Sending hugs & good thoughts to you Bear x

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 1:39pm

Hello Bear. It's a comfort to me to know you read the blogs and are there waving your paws or paw at us from time to time. That's all we need to know to reassure us you are sort of OK.Energy is something I don't have in large quantities so I know exactly what you mean. I have just had a coffee with a close friend and am exhausted with all the animated conversation. I am not having one of my really good days and therefore am particularly puffed. But I was looking forward while I was listening, forgetting to breathe and talking to getting back in front of my computer screen and connecting with you all in a totally non pressurised way. Julxx

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 1:48pm

Hello Eva. I am so pleased you continue to write. I think about you often after the death of your father which I know you still struggle with. Your comments are always well though out I feel. You express yourself well. julxx

Mary Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 4:37pm

Miss you Bear. Sending lots and lots of love.

Eva Sat, Apr 30th 2016 @ 8:00am

Thanks Jul, it's still very raw so getting some counselling, and thanks for your blog, it produced a lot of comfort today.

the room above the garage Sat, Apr 30th 2016 @ 12:35pm

You and me both Bear. No pressure, but know we can listen and nod and stand beside you. You don't always have to be Mother Bear. Love ratg x.

Debs Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 8:54am

Hi Julia!! What a gorgeous blog!!! I started reading the names and thought 'oh these are all the popular people, the über bloggers, I won't be in there' - ha, such is the automatic nature of the monkey mind eh?! Thank you so much for your thoughtfulness and care - I feel surrounded in your love. Like you, I miss the regular names when they are missing. I reassure myself that people are in the right place for them at that moment. I've been in the depths on the past and those times have taught me everything. I needed to hit the bottom of the pool to come back up and see the world anew. My love goes out to everyone - and a particular bear hug to a certain contributor who always manages to spread tender loving care. Hope you're ok Bear. Xxxxx

Debs Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 8:56am

And with that a bear comment appears!! I'm sorry to hear you've been going through it dearest - am sending the biggest of warm hugs your way xxxx

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 1:45pm

Hello Debs. You made me laugh about the monkey mind. If I left anyone out, it wasn't intentional and I have asked Moodscopers to name anyone I missed. Leah has just emailed me to say what about Soulsmanblue and yes I had totally forgotten to mention you SMB. I am sorry. Where are you? I,too, Debs have been silent at times and feel I have nothing to contribute (although you didn't say that about yourself so I am not sure you feel like that nor should you). I was very glad to see you pop up every now and again and have never felt you would be away for long. Take care and be strong. Julxx

Hopeful One Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 9:09am

Hi Julia - such a warm caring blog and so chuffed to be included in the list. To me my friends including those the cyber friends on Moodscope are priceless as they invariably are in my NOtrobba (no trouble)group.

Our laugh for today.

An architect, an artist, and an engineer were discussing whether it was better to spend time with the wife or a mistress. The architect said he enjoyed time with his wife, building a solid foundation for an enduring relationship. The artist said he enjoyed time with his mistress, because of the passion and mystery he found there. The engineer said, "I like both." "Both?" asked the architect and artist in unison. The engineer replied, "Yeah. If you have a wife and a mistress, they will each assume that you are spending time with the other woman, so you can go to the office and get some work done."

LillyPet Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 9:37am

:)) I started giggling at the first sentence and a proper lol at the end! :) xx

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 1:51pm

Yes Hopeful One, we do not cause anyone grief here. I like the way you write almost every day. It's a kind of comfort to see your name and of course the jokes. Ah the jokes! However, no pressure Hopeful One...BUT (Sorry Hugh) we will notice if your name doesn't appear for a few days. You could of course be away with your paramour. Is this the right word? Julxx

Mary Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 4:43pm

Only an Engineer.... On a slightly serious note, I was reading a book on marriage (many years ago now) and the writer, a marriage guidance therapist, commented that the only women he had experienced complaining of a lack of sexual interest on the part of their husband, were those married to Engineers. Stereotypes are often true! Engineers make wonderful, solid, reliable, good humoured - and unexciting - husbands (apparently). I was married to a scientist and am now married to a teacher, so I'm not commenting.

Hopeful One Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 8:59pm

Hi Guys- thank you my friends for your kind words.One does one's best. Yes Julia - Right now it's nose to the grindstone but once my exams are over on June the 14th I hope to lie in the arms of the one I love on some Greek island for a week. Bliss.

Anonymous Sat, Apr 30th 2016 @ 12:41pm

Jealous..... I am. Jul xxxx But good luck with the exams

LillyPet Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 9:33am

Hi Julia,
I'm adding my delight about your blog into the mix! I too wonder about if our friends are ok. It's ok if they aren't feeling ok and it's ok if they want to be quiet or are busy or just like to dip in and out! it's ok if we miss them and want to say hello too! :)

If they are suffering, we hope that they know that they are still being held by our safe and loving community. Having experienced suffering, our hearts go out to those who may be suffering and for them to know that there is hope that it will be ok.

Fear is an interesting subject, a good blog topic. Fear of physical danger in the present is healthy as is anticipating and avoiding it focussing on it too much or allowing it to take over I think just causes more fear. I fear getting things wrong, being judged and I dont do told off period! ;)
It concerns me that I might say something that triggers difficult feelings in someone, even though it may be helpful or a a point that someone else may connect to.

It's ok to be quiet if you want to and we also love to encourage people who may want to comment but perhaps are apprehensive.

If I have good intentions I think it's ok to make mistakes, to take risks, to disagree, to be disagreed with and to stay with uncomfortable feelings knowing that they will pass. For me too a good joke is always welcome even in the dimmest of times so thanks from me too H.O! :)

Time is a factor but ( and I chose "but" cafefully Les ;)) for me. time on Moodscope is time well spent! There are times when I do have to just crack on and get back to feeling on top of things and periods of time when I'm away from my usual routines and just not "around" if that makes sense.In the past I have kept away from joining people because I'm low and dont want to bring others down with me. My friends have told me to come anyway if I was up to it and I would say the same to anyone on here!

I'd like to add Soul Man's Blue to the list to say hi and hope you are ok too.

Thank you Moodscope and Moodscopers for this wonderful place to be and to Julia for a most welcome blog. Love light peace and dare I say sprinklings of happiness to all! :)) xxx

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 1:57pm

Hello dear Lillypet. You and I agree on so many things. I may not aways comment on what you write but you should know I am usually gunning for you and thinking wow! that's exactly how I feel. You too have mentioned SMB. I often worry I have written something that might not sit well with some people and when I re read some of my comments, I think Oh Julia lighten up! But you are all so kind and non judgemental;that's what is so lovely about Moodscope. I feel safe here. julxx

LillyPet Sat, Apr 30th 2016 @ 12:14am

Me too! :) xx

Sarah yellow rose Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 9:39am

Hi Julia, I loved your blog this morning and I completely agree. Sometime ago there were comments from two different Sarah's, so at the suggestion of RATG I added yellow rose. I really enjoy getting to know the members on Moodscope and am always surprised when people mention their age, as often, in their writing I think of them as younger. I also get the impression that people feel they can be completely honest on Moodscope and I have huge respect for the trust they give to us all.
Also the talent ( Les's poems ) effort and commitment of all the people who take the time to blog and comment is appreciated enormously. Sarah x

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 2:02pm

What a lovely reassuring comment Sarah yellow rose. I get the impression there are many older people on Moodscope but also some really young ones. I remember Elizabeth whom I didn't mention but am now.. and also Holly who are both young. Moodscope transcends age, gender, race, income, you name it, Moodscope is all "those things neutral" Where else would you find that? Thank you Yellow Rose for taking the time to write. Julxx

Les Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 9:47am

Hi Julia - You have and will bring joy, warmth and smiles to many today, including me.......FAB.....well done and thank you. //////

"Service which is rendered without joy helps neither the servant nor the served.
But all other pleasures and possessions pale into nothingness before service that is rendered in the spirit of joy."
Mahatma Gandhi

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 2:18pm

Les. Thank you. I would miss you and your helpful ways at looking at life, if you were to disappear for any length of time.. And I love your quotes, you know that.. I will picture you smiling and I'm glad I might bring warmth to you on this bitterly cold day. Onwards and Upwards I say. Julxx

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 10:06am

I am going out now so will reply to your lovely comments later today. Thanks for them all so far. Julx

The Gardener Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 10:24am

Just going to add my pleas for the regurn of the furry one et voila! Get very bitter about communications - quite a list of friends in UK who always seem to be delighted to received my phone calls - talk for hours, and NEVER phone back. They are all computer-phobics, or their husbands won't let them use them. I nearly left Moodscopte in a huff over a blog - but decided I needed Moodscope - and the regulars, plus welcome 'new' faces and those who have gone off the ether

Bearofliddlebrain Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 10:37am

Furriest of Bears here, dear TG...just popping head up over the parapet...often think of you and how you are's just been a difficult six months with one thing and another. Hugs, Bear x

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 2:26pm

Dear Gardener. What is the weather like in your part of France today? It can't possibly be colder than here. We are going to Limousin to our house there in two weeks and I'm hoping we won't need to chop up wood for our wood stoves. Surely it will be warm. That's serious stuff you say about husbands who won't let their wives use a computer. Oh dear. Do such people still exist? I find chatting on the 'phone exhausting and rarely use it these days. I admire you for being computer literate. I was lucky I learnt computer skills at work. I think it must be quite a challenge to learn these if not trained at work. There's something about Bear that draws us all to this furriest of friends. Are you listening Bear? Anyway good to hear from you too Gardener. Keep calm and carry on. Or just carry on. Jul xx

Salt Water Mum Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 11:37am

How thoughtful Julia,

I have been a moodscoper since 2104 only but I am so glad I joined up. And I am not a joiner! I don't have a FB account nor do I twitter (well I do but not officially!).

It is a such a warm community here. I enjoy reading the daily blogs and the comments - when I have time. It's the level of kindness, understanding and intelligence (and humour of course) that truly inspires me.

I'd like to add Soul Mans Blue to your list Julia if that's okay - Stay strong SMB.

Sending a virtual hug to all who need and want one today,


Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 2:30pm

Thank you SWM. And SMB I hope you realise you are missed by many. I am not on FB either but love twitter. " It's the level of kindness, understanding and intelligence (and humour of course) that truly inspires me". I couldn't put it better SWM and send you a virtual hug back. Take care. Julxx

Richard Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 12:50pm

Julia, It looks like you've written some words that have touched a lot of people today.
Peace & Love,

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 2:50pm

Hi Richard. I wrote to you but it's disappeared I see. I said that I had been meaning to say how lovely it has been recently to see my lovely Beatles lyrics man back. Life has thrown some very difficult things at you in the past (assuming you are the "old" peace and love Richard we know and love) and you seem now to be great. How are things? Please know that we are here for you in good and bad times however and All you Need is Love. Julxxx

Mary Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 4:48pm

Jul has said what I've been meaning to for a while. It is indeed great to see you. I think you and I connect on FB occasionally - but that is a very different platform, so it's lovely to both be in this safe zone here.

Richard Sat, Apr 30th 2016 @ 4:16pm

Thankyou, Julia & Mary. I'm doing okay on my second Moodscope journey. No doubt we shall meet in the ether somewhere. Peace & Love, Richard.

Norman Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 12:53pm


many thanks for noticing me missing. It's so nice to feel that there are lots of arms behind me if I fall backwards! I'm sorry I haven't been as voluble as of late. This is due to not having broadband where I now live and having to use my phone instead. It is fine for doing the test but writing longish posts is tiresome so I just read the blogs. Work is pretty hectic so logging on while here doesn't even cross my mind normally. Thanks for guilt-tripping me into action!

At the start of the year I set three targets, change my job, change my accommodation, and be more open to relationships. I am happy to report that I have agreed a settlement to leave my current job; I found a new place and walked out of the old one; and I am two months into a relationship which has gone further and faster than I imagined, (plans to move back to Newcastle are on hold.) My scores still can vary but around half of them have been above 60% lately.

I went to the pub to see Newcastle v Man City and was happy with a point so I treated myself to a pint on top of the n/a beers. (If I limit my drinking to a pint for every point Newcastle win that should be eminently manageable!)

Great to see the responses from all the others "named and shamed."

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 2:40pm

Norman. I feel bad now for pressurising you to write on your difficult small phone screen. I really didn't intend to make you feel guilty or the others whom I mentioned. I feel guilty now Lol! You have evidently been marching on in big strides Norman; well done. What progress. You have conquered the drinking too. What an achiever you are, an example to us all. If you know any short jokes which I will remember and can relate to others , please tell us. I have told that one about the Irishman so often and made people laugh too! It's made me feel good countless times. But Norman..NO PRESSURE! Oh dear I see you have said named and shamed but I know you meant that kindly. It's just that I care!! Jul xxx

the room above the garage Sat, Apr 30th 2016 @ 12:33pm

Glad you are around Norman, I too wondered if you were ok. In awe of your incredible courage to propel forwards, love ratg x.

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 2:46pm

Others have mentioned in no particular order (now which TV programme does that come from?).. that we haven't seen

Otir Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 3:16pm

Julia, this was a truly lovely blog post indeed.

I share your feeling entirely that I can become so attached to groups in a community that I need to always know how everyone is doing, as soon as I have the feeling they have gone AWOL (absent without leave).

I know that we all need times when we have to go quiet, but in a community dealing with mood disorders, it truly is indicative too.

This is also one of the reasons I tend to "skip" the comment section of the blog, that I read in my email every day, and I have very seldom posted a comment, although I often want to. I am very afraid of becoming too attached to people and grow the number of those I want to care about and humanly can't because I know already so many communities.

Overwhelmed is how I feel right now. There is such a lonely feeling attached to depression and at the same time, it feels like there are million people I know and love, and care and the idea that I can't communicate with them is overwhelming.

Thank God for social media because it allows me to "keep tabs" on my friends and check on them from time to time.

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 3:37pm

Dear Otir. Thank you. I remember your very thoughtful comments from not too long ago and I haven't forgotten you. You don't often write and it would be nice to hear from you again soon.You don't have to write much you know. Just one sentence to show you are there is enough so why not consider trying this out? Then you won't commit yourself too much. Yet we will still value your comment as much as a long one. For me it's important "just to connect" even with really good friends so a little email or SMS every now and again or frequently seems to me to be an easier way to say Hi I'm here than a lengthy paragraph once in a blue moon.. You sound a very loyal person and that in itself can be exhausting for you. You are kid and caring, exhausting again. So give yourself a rest and a break. Thanks for commenting today. As I said hope to hear from you again very soon. Julxxx

Otir Sat, Apr 30th 2016 @ 2:43pm

This is so nice of you, Julia! and to take all the time to reply to all your commenters, I am really touched. I certainly would like to heed your suggestion and connect from time to time event for short comments. I have been very faithful to Moodscope (the application itself) although did not really build a personal community through it. I probably should have and will - thanks to you! - probably give it more thoughts now, because I have to recognize that I find the posts and insights that everyone share here extremely genuine and useful.

Skyblue Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 3:55pm

Hi Julia, I've said it before and will say it now: you really are the sweetest person! Thank you for your blog today. btw I'm wondering where Penny is.... xx

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 5:15pm

Yes I love what you say about me. Who wouldn't! Thank you Skyblue. Penny does ring a bell but has she commented frequently? Anyway that doesn't matter. Her name will be added to the list of those missed. Have a nice evening Skyblue. I think you live in the UK or Europe? Jul xx

Skyblue Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 8:04pm

Yes, I live in London, Julia. Just a hop, skip and jump..... Big hug. xx

Mary Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 4:53pm

This blog really needed to be written - and you were the perfect person to do it, Julia. Thank you soooooo much. I know that I am incredibly lucky that the words rarely desert me, no matter where I am in my cycle, but I know that for many more creativity dries up when the scores go down. And yes - we do notice the absence of friends. And - yes again - we do worry. What a fantastic response. Love you all! I adore Moodscope - one of the most precious things in my life: it's a community, not a mere app or platform.

Lex Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 5:12pm

Beautifully put, lovely Mary! xx

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 5:21pm

Thank you Mary. You are very kind! I notice you are able to write creatively Mary even when down and I really envy that and admire you for this. I don't know how you are able to. I can't. I find creativity very elusive when I'm down but I have long periods of feeling down and the occasional high. I should be used to feeling not quite on par most days but strangely I'm not and still aim for good days to be the norm. But as you so often say Mary, that's the subject of a future blog! I love Moodscope too. Thank you for your nice comment. Jul xx

Lex Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 5:12pm

Ah, Julia, what an adorable, beautiful, compassionate and delightful blog. When it comes to the Alphabet of Delights, I'm so glad to have you as my J for Julia xx

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 5:24pm

Alphabet of Delights. What a nice thought that I should be one of them, thank you Lex. And what a nice idea to have an Alphabet of Delights. I shall think of this when trying to sleep tonight. I hope I fall asleep before I get to "L" but if not, no prizes for guessing what delight that letter will conjure up. Thanks Lex for your support. Jul xxx

The Gardener Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 5:12pm

Anonymous 2.26 - weather foul - temper ditto - no gardening, Mr G gets more and more 'naught child' in the evenings - won't settle to a decent meal, wants tp gp tp bed in the middle - if he does, won't stay. Losing touch - look at us all panicking over Bear ! lots friends only do crimby cards - some have died - presumme do not leave lists to inform of their deaths - 6 people died recently, wasn't told - can be embarrassing

The Gardener Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 5:16pm

Computer literate people are becoming my sole contacts - writing does not happen, many people my age shudder at thought of a computer in the house - the non-phoners are, I presume, of the generation who still think phoning costs a fortune. I have five children, 6 g-children, 1 g-g child - only two sons contact - yet always texting their friends - think have to use awful phrase 'in denial' Alzheimers scares people stiff - just don't want to get involved.

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 5:28pm

Life is not easy Gardener. I suppose we should embrace it when it isn't so bad instead of gloomily reacting to small life events. When the real big ones hit us we will really know what sadness means asyou are learning now. But you cope in your own way G. You cope well. It may not seem like it to you most days and nights but you are still here. I am glad Moodscope helps you as much as it does me. Jul xxx

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 5:35pm

PENNY!. Your name should be added to my list. Skyblue kindly pointed out that we hadn't heard from you for a while. Hope you are doing Ok and we look forward to seeing you here again soon. Jul xx

Lexi Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 6:35pm

Hi Julia, thank you for the great post. I haven't been on in awhile; have been going through some "stuff". But your post today was a reminder to keep checking in. Thank you. Lexi

Anonymous Sat, Apr 30th 2016 @ 8:28am

Hi Lexi. I am so glad you checked in today. I didn't mention you as I have read your comments I'm pretty sure recently. I do know you though and you won't be forgotten. I hope you are managing to deal with life right now and the "stuff" Jul xx

Suzy Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 7:32pm

Argh! Julia, thank you OODLES! So lovely to be missed. And apologies to Carolind for my lack of posts these days. It's funny, it really is true that when we stop practising something we lose it. Whenever I come to write now, I'm simply not as fluent as I was a couple of years ago.
Although I fell behind for a while on the ole daily posts, I'm back to reading them regularly and although I may not always comment (I, like Norman, only possess a phone to do everything on), there are often thoughts and inspirations that I find incredibly helpful. Thank you one and all! And thanks again Julia. xxxxx

Anonymous Sat, Apr 30th 2016 @ 8:31am

Aaargh ! Suzy! You are missed. Your funny use of words and made up ones too. We love that as well as you. I am sorry I have lost touch with you too. But life just gets in the way which is totally not as it should be. It doesn't matter to us of you feel your words don't flow as they used toMeanwhile, keep talking..Julxxx

The Gardener Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 8:17pm

Anonymous 5.28. You may have notice (if papers have room) France is having violent demos against a new labour law. the dossiers which should be organising more help for me are all caught up in the turmoil. Ascension day next week, a Thursday, a dey respite gone. Even the blackbirds are subdued. Need a big bear hug - the cat is doing her best.

Anonymous Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 9:35pm

I have posted from time to time under my real name but seems I go unnoticed so will stick to Anon from now on, less painful that way.

Frankie Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 9:59pm

Really sorry to hear this Anon 9.35pm. Why not post under a nickname (as I do) so we can identify the "Moodscope You"? There are so many who read the daily blog and posts that I am sure you are not unnoticed ... Perhaps post and ask for a reply? There is usually someone who is keeping a close eye and replying where possible ... Frankie

Anonymous Sat, Apr 30th 2016 @ 7:59am

Hi Anonymous. Do you feel able to tell us your real name? I am so sorry i missed you off the list. Perhaps you haven't posted for a while. I was aware of the risk of forgetting temporarily some regulars. Please tell us who you are and we will make amends. Everyone is important here. Julxx

the room above the garage Sat, Apr 30th 2016 @ 12:31pm

Anon, ditto the girls above. A name for us to know you by, although I too was anonymous for some ratg x.

Frankie Fri, Apr 29th 2016 @ 10:01pm

Lovely, lovely, lovely Jul - Thank-you! Frankie xxx

Anonymous Sat, Apr 30th 2016 @ 8:25am

Thank you Frankie xx I hope you are surviving your trip xxJulxx

Anonymous Sat, Apr 30th 2016 @ 12:36pm

Just remembered DAWN! Dawn Ritchie. How are you Dawn? How are your cupcakes? Love Julxxx

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