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Finding 'Me' – Is All That's Real. Thursday August 13, 2015

How do we find ourselves,
When we keep asking the same old questions?
To find our way,
We must lose our balance with new actions.

Can you be comfortable,
With discomfort?
Can you step into the unknown,
With the possibility of hurt?
Can you hold your heart,
In the flame of life?
Can your spirit,
Deal with on-going strife?

There is no shortcut,
To anywhere worth going.
You cannot cross a chasm
In two steps, knowing,
What is on the other side.

How much do you want to live?
The more 'life' - the less certainty.
Most are locked into 'do',
Life is all about 'be'.
The only certainty in life,
Is to inscape and find 'me'.

See the dawn from a new place,
Watch a sunset with new eyes .
Talk through the night once more,
A new life could be the prize.

Taste a new way,
Smell that fragrance of joy,
Touch your soul inside,
Emotions you must employ.

And feel.

That's all,
That's all,
That's ever

What did that evoke in you? Notice it...
What are you going to do different(ly) today or how are you going to 'be' different today?

Write it down and revisit it tonight and see if it's true.

A Moodscope member.

Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment below.

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Louise Thu, Aug 13th 2015 @ 6:20am

"Most are locked into 'do',
Life is all about 'be'."

This. I find it incredibly difficult not to always be "doing".
Something to think on today.

Les Thu, Aug 13th 2015 @ 8:03am

Hi Louise

Now......if you really were allowed to 'be' Louise today.....what would that 'be'?

Who is Louise?

Not what does she 'do' and be defined by your work - deeper than that.......

Write down your answer to 'Who is Louise?'.....and explore that today..........?

We get lost in doing - escaping - external
We are found by being - inscaping - internal

Any help................??????

Hopeful One Thu, Aug 13th 2015 @ 8:20am

Hi Les - thought provoking poem. Its all about taking the risk isn't it?

I remember a was a previous Moodscope blog around 1 st May 2014 which covered this. The conclusion was ' but the risks have to be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing. They may avoid suffering or sorrow, but they cannot feel,change,grow love or live ..... only a person who risks is truly free'

Melanie Thu, Aug 13th 2015 @ 8:26am

Dear Les, lovely poem about what is important - I am going to breathe and be in the moment today - and revisit this tonight! Thank you!

Les Thu, Aug 13th 2015 @ 8:33am

Hi Melanie

Cool............sounds good to me

Write in with how it has BEen this evening.......??

Les Thu, Aug 13th 2015 @ 8:34am


To laugh is to risk appearing the fool

To weep is to risk appearing sentimental

To reach out for another is to risk involvement

To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self

To place your ideas, your dreams before the crowd is to risk being called naive

To love is to risk not being loved in return

To live is to risk dying

To hope is to risk despair

To try is to risk failure

But risks must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing

The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing and is nothing

They may avoid suffering and sorrow, but they cannot learn, feel, change, grow, love or live

Chained by their certitudes, they are slaves, they have forfeited their freedom

Only a person who risks is truly free.

Adrian Thu, Aug 13th 2015 @ 10:44am

Great insights Les.

I guess we all take risks in everyday living.

The question is the scale of the risk?

Scaling up can be done no matter whwere you start!
A x

Les Thu, Aug 13th 2015 @ 11:06am

Hi Adrian

Yup - life is risks....crossing road / working FOR someone / showing love / showing affection / showing vulnerability / showing hurt / showing strength / demonstrating belief / ultimately showing who we are - who we 'be'.

The funny thing is....we mostly want other people to be open, authentic and honest 'first'.

Leaders go first - that creates 'trust' which creates followership - which determines who the real leaders are. Leaders are created by followers. No followers = no leaders.

Managers take few risks
Leaders take constant risks to follow their beliefs - which seek to improve society through improving people - but firstly improving the only person they can change - themselves.

Does the scale of risk = the level of authenticity?

Can we risk to show our true self?

Or do we 'fit into' what is around us to stay safe - and thus to risk even more - to 'lose' ourselves?

"Life is risky. But there is only one risk you should avoid at all costs, and that is the risk of doing nothing"

Lynne Thu, Aug 13th 2015 @ 2:37pm

Thank you, Les, for writing and posting your "Finding Me" insights. Your message this morning touched me much more deeply than most of the MoodScope emails. Just want you to know how much you are appreciated!

Les Thu, Aug 13th 2015 @ 2:58pm

Hi Lynne

Many thanks for taking the time for that.....

Each 'posting' will I'm sure 'reach' different people in different ways.....

Mental and emotional 'stuff' is SO individual....which is why the NHS route more often than not, I would say, does not work - no matter how well meant! It made my own situation far far worse!

Physical health works well through IQ Processes, Procedures, Policies and Programmes......and the NHS is fab at this.
Mental health 'solutions' are as unique as the human beings themselves and the NHS cannot get near coping with this both in finance and 'feeling'.

We must all strive to be our own GP....Good Practitioner...when we explore our own mental health, usually after it has kinda become dis-eased often through our own 'habits' of doing more than being ourselves, often through work or relationship related stress.

Moodscope is a great place to explore this 'stuff'......

Good luck on your own journey Lynne.

“Never apologize for being sensitive or emotional. It’s a sign that you have a big heart, and that you aren’t afraid to let others see it. Showing your emotions openly and constructively, is a sign of strength.” Brigitte Nicole

Louise Thu, Aug 13th 2015 @ 3:04pm

Hi Les. Thanks for your thoughts. These are pretty big questions; Who does tend to be defined by What (as in what you do), 'who' without the 'what' is something for me to ponder. Thought provoking stuff!:)

Les Thu, Aug 13th 2015 @ 3:15pm

Hi Louise

Go 'be'
Go 'do'

....and explore 'who' you are.


There is only the road to Nirvana. Nirvana itself does not exist and yet many many travel on its endless road knowing that each day, they are enriched by its journey.

"It is not where we stand that matters - but the direction in which we are travelling."

Bearofliddlebraincom Thu, Aug 13th 2015 @ 4:27pm

I'm trying to know that I am being me at the moment. I do wonder if I've always just been defined by being someone's daughter, sister, wife, mother, friend, or by the jobs I have done at particular times in my life.
It is very hard to just be me! And I think that's because the Me growing up, has been altered by so many outside factors as we all are: schooling, friendships, religion.
Most days I wake up and I am a wife and mother and the day revolves around being those two people...and being a friend to my friends.
In your thought-provoking blogs and replies, Les, you ask if we can take risks and I think I do most days:
I love: often knowing that the love isn't reciprocal in that moment, but by risking giving and showing a bit more love, I get a more positive response...a bit more love in return.
I laugh a lot and don't always worry that I am being laughed at (and not with!)
Sometimes I cry, risking being thought sentimental but I hope I'm also showing the soft underbelly of compassion. Some things really do move me to tears.
I have risked 'trust' many times and it is nearly always worth taking that risk: not every 'trustee' sells you out and comes back to bite you on the btm!!!

Today I am trying, ve ve hard to understand if I am 'being'. I think so.
Karen :)

Les Thu, Aug 13th 2015 @ 4:36pm

Hi Karen

I would say you now should be required to drop the moniker of Bearofliddlebraincom and only use the first two letters 'Be'....

All sounds good to me - as long as you are happy both being and doing these many things..... :-)

If your main motivation is from inside ......job 'bone' pronounced 'bun' instead of 'done'

It reads to me of a pretty good human being ;-)

Louise Thu, Aug 13th 2015 @ 6:37pm


"Nirvana itself does not exist and yet many many travel on its endless road knowing that each day, they are enriched by its journey."

I found this really struck a chord with me. Thank you.

elizabeth Thu, Aug 13th 2015 @ 7:28pm

Les, I always know when you have written a piece before I have finished reading it by your style of writing. I found your poem to be very seductive, I felt drawn into it like you were taking me on a journey. May I ask you something, and that is you talk about be -ing but thent alk about risk. One has to 'do' in order to action risk. So am a tad confused by you.

elizabeth Thu, Aug 13th 2015 @ 7:29pm

meant to say but then talk about risk

Les Thu, Aug 13th 2015 @ 8:06pm

Hi Elizabeth

Thanks for your kind comment....

I would offer the thought, that it is a far greater 'risk' to truly show 'who' you are emotionally or spiritually than to risk 'doing' something which you more than likely know how to 'do' you have probably been trained or taught.

To show yourself and all you vulnerabilities, worries, concerns, hopes, dreams et al......when there is no 'right' way - (which there usually always is in any 'doing').... means you take a risk every single time you show your humanity - the true you with all of your possibly frail emotions! Human-Doing V Human-Being

The IQ Newtonian world is all about right & wrong .....and those who supposedly 'know' test you on it all the time....teachers / managers / professors / airport security / driving instructors et al...even some parents!!! In this world you worry about getting it 'right'. And those with good cognitive skills are highly valued for their competence......regardless of whether they are actually good citizens!! IQ is simply the ability to memorise facts and solve puzzles......the best is the computer!!!

That world thinks that teach them the skills and they will help society!!!!!!!!!

The EQ quantum world is all about feelings and emotions - where there is no right or wrong answer - there is only 'your' answer.....and self awareness and emotional intelligence is all about 'knowing and controlling' your own emotions to the degree that you feel will be beneficial in society to build interdependent relationships and happy families / teams and communities.

Tolstoy once said something like - 'Every unhappy family is unhappy for their own unique reasons. Every happy family is happy for the same reason."

This is all about your Character (EQ) not Competence (IQ) and we all know good people that we would happily trust and follow - they are the real leaders.

Leadership is all about People and Influence - it is virtually nothing to do with Position or Power.

the only leaders are those who have followers! It is the followers that create the leaders....!!

Managers do things 'right' mostly for themselves and their position.
Leaders be themselves and then do the right thing....for society.

In my own opinion of course......

"The difference between leaders and managers - is that leaders make the whole organisation more fun, successful and safe (Selfless) - managers make more money for the elite few and protect themselves at the cost of others - unsafe (Selfish)." Simon Sinek

Karthik Fri, Aug 14th 2015 @ 6:14am

The poem was beautiful! Thank you so much, Les.

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