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Ebb and Flow, For and Against, To and Fro. Monday July 4, 2016

As we seek to grow, to mature, to bear good fruit and to find our flow – there are always factors that will support our good intent and factors that will resist our progress.

10 of our Moodscope states support us, 10 resist.

Kurt Lewin developed a wonderful simple yet profound tool called Force-Field Analysis. In it you have a movement towards a desired change (usually in an arrow going left to right). Then you draw smaller arrows going in the same direction for every force that supports that movement towards what you want.

Equally, you draw arrows in the opposite direction for the forces that slow, block or stop the change.

The exciting news is that you don't have to work on all the factors. Weakening just one of the resisting forces can be enough to release the flow in your chosen direction... the tide changes.

I think it is great to strengthen all 10 positive Moodscope states: proud, active, attentive, determined, enthusiastic, excited, interested, strong, inspired, alert – hey, it even feels good just typing them here.

But then, adding a bit of force to weakening just one of the unresourceful states could turn the tide.

When I am faced with evidence that life is unfair, I often max out on the "hostile" score on Moodscope. But I can weaken this hostile force by listening to Andy Williams and watching the birds. Within minutes, I'm grinning, I'm winning.

Action for today then, if you're up for it, is to think of an action you could take to strengthen 3 of the positive states – 1 action for each, and an action to weaken just 1 of the negative states. Keep that up and I promise you the tide will turn in your favour.

Lex
A Moodscope member.

Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment below.


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Hopeful One Mon, Jul 4th 2016 @ 8:15am

Hi Lex- a great blog and .though counter intuitive, just as effective -instead of trying to boost the positives which may have maxed out anyway to weaken one or more of the the negatives.

'Within minutes, I'm grinning, I'm winning.' I hope this assists fellow Moodscopers to do just that

A sickly patient went her doctor's office where she underwent a complete physical exam. The doctor said, "I have some very grave news for you. You only have six months to live." The patient asked, "Oh doctor, what should I do?" The doctor replied, "Marry an accountant." "Will that make me live longer?" asked the patient. "No," said the doctor, "but it will SEEM longer."

with apologies to accountant members of Moodscope.

Tutti Frutti Mon, Jul 4th 2016 @ 8:24am

You made me grin anyway HO and my job involves accounts to some extent. :)

Lex Mon, Jul 4th 2016 @ 10:01am

Very funny, Hopeful One... and thank you for your encouragement too. Ah, the power of Andy Williams to overcome the darker side! L'x

Jul Mon, Jul 4th 2016 @ 11:32am

Good joke Hopeful One.

Mary Wednesday Mon, Jul 4th 2016 @ 1:00pm

I *was* an accountant for 15 years.... 15 years did I say, make that 150 years! Life has gone so much faster since I left accountancy!

Tutti Frutti Mon, Jul 4th 2016 @ 8:16am

Hi Lex
The diagram and everything appealed to me and I don't think I am in too bad a place today so I thought I would try and see if I could manage it.

I started on the positives. The ones I could really do with working on are enthusiastic, excited and inspired which very rarely get above 0 for me but I found that way too difficult. In the end I realised that I could probably work on proud (0-1), active (0-2) and attentive (0-2) which may not be what I need most but would still be helpful. I guess I could write down at least one achievement every day, walk places more often (eg do not get the bus to the dentist today) and make sure I always do at least 1 formal exercise session a week, and do mindfulness practice daily.

I found the negatives really, really difficult (I see why you've only suggested working on one.) I haven't come up with anything at all I am afraid!

Anyway thanks for a helpful suggestion.
Love to all
TF

Lex Mon, Jul 4th 2016 @ 10:03am

Hi Tutti Frutti, the joy of this (and I'm rejoicing for you and with you) is that any shift is a shift. I applaud your action commitments... and hope you'll have an amazing day. L'x

Adrian Mon, Jul 4th 2016 @ 9:49am

Very useful and insightful blog Lex. A useful new perspective on Moodscope.
A x

Lex Mon, Jul 4th 2016 @ 10:04am

Thanks Adrian, L'x

Jul Mon, Jul 4th 2016 @ 11:30am

Hello Lex. So what I do is think of one of the negative Moodscope states and try to weaken it by listening to favourite music or by some other method? Music usually works for me. When I have time later today I will do what Tutti Frutti has done already. I can see how a bike ride (which I've already had today) or listiening to a favourite piece of music would make me feel better, more energetic for example but I am not sure the effects would last long. I guess even a short lived recovery or better feeling is so much better than having a monotonous same old day! Thanks for this exercise Lex. your blogs usually challenge us to use our brains. And I really do like Richard Wiseman's 59 Seconds which I bought on your recommendation so thanks for that too. Jules xx

Lex Mon, Jul 4th 2016 @ 3:57pm

Hi Jules, you and I both know the power of tiny steps, so if the music works for even 5 minutes, it's still 5 minutes of nudging the odds in our favour. I'm going to have a look the negative indicators again and see if I can think of a specific song as an antidote to each one! How about that for Music Therapy? I'd invite you and anyone reading this to do this too. We could come up with "Moodscope, the Double Album!" One Album for enhancing the Positive Moods, and the second for overcoming the negative ones!!! L'xx

Jul Mon, Jul 4th 2016 @ 6:15pm

I may do this too. Will let you know what I come up with. Good idea Lex! Jul xx

Debs Mon, Jul 4th 2016 @ 11:38am

Lovely Lex, very inspiring xx

Lex Mon, Jul 4th 2016 @ 3:58pm

Thanks, Debs, and I'm loving the thought of being "Lovely Lex"... tee hee xx

Mary Wednesday Mon, Jul 4th 2016 @ 1:02pm

This sounds great. Can I use lots of different colours for the arrows? (You know me.... in fact, I might end up with a coloured zentangle design.... not quite sure that's the point here, but it will look pretty!)

Lex Mon, Jul 4th 2016 @ 3:58pm

Use a Zentangle to untangle your flow and move forward??? Utterly brilliant, Mary! L'xx

LillyPet Mon, Jul 4th 2016 @ 2:16pm

Hi Lex,
I'm experiencing the same as you mentioned at the moment. Hostility. I feel that I am being bullied in a really sneaky way and no one either cares or is aware that it is going on. Like TF I have found this negative one tough to work on. Being attacked and allowing the person to get away with it fills me with rage. Taking about it inflames the hostility. I emailed my union rep this morning and that has taken some of the heat out of it. On the positive side, I feel proud, strong and determined. I'm looking forward to this hostility passing this time.
Thank you, will look at the chart again from time to time too.
Take Care !

Lex Mon, Jul 4th 2016 @ 4:01pm

Hi LillyPet... I'm wondering if, rather than weakening an arrow, we could misdirect it? For example, could we take our hostility and vent it on something stupid until we laugh out loud? I was wondering about having a go at a kitchen plate!!! Then, if I get really cross, I could go all Greek Restaurant and smash it! (It won't go that far, promise!) L'xx

The Gardener Mon, Jul 4th 2016 @ 5:44pm

Reduce hostile, I'm fightine the illness not the man, 'war' cannot be won, so hostile stupid waste of emotions - but, I'm 'off the leash' in UK, whether I will fee the same back at home is the question. The 'positive' cards run into each other a bit - I am being made a great fuss of here - and I hage GOT to maximise on having some fun, some laughs, meet people and close my ears to the endless moans. But I have to be strong, determined and to to that I will have to undergo a barrage of self-pity and non-stop nagging. Can I do it? Got till Friday to strengthen my resolve!

Mary Wednesday Mon, Jul 4th 2016 @ 6:19pm

Make the most of this! So pleased you're being spoilt rotten while over here: you deserve it! This is a respite, recharge yourself for the challenges ahead, but don't spoil now by the thoughts of then (I'm very zen today, aren't I?)

Jul Mon, Jul 4th 2016 @ 6:20pm

Hello Gardener. Make the most of your time in the UK especially with the good weather we are having..in the South East at least. Maybe everywhere. I don't think one can fight Dementia and so your fight unwittingly appears to be against the man. I think the fact that he cannot help his actions makes having to deal with him all the more frustrating as you will feel guilt and annoyance at the same time I imagine. But do have a nice time being well looked after by others for a change. It will be interesting to know if you miss your French life after a few days in Britain. Let us know how you get on when you have time. Jul xx

Jul Mon, Jul 4th 2016 @ 6:21pm

Mary and I had the same good wishes and thoughts at the same time xx to you both

The Gardener Mon, Jul 4th 2016 @ 7:43pm

I've driven a horse and cart and an ancient Land Rover - and, despite qualms after 18 months away from UK I am well into the cut and thrust of suburban traffic in my l/h drive car

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