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Don't look back in anger... Monday May 27, 2013

Isn't it amazing how some songwriters have an uncanny knack of summing up how you feel in a single sentence?

I've always loved the lyrics of Ian Dury. And one song title always springs to mind whenever I think of the people who are no longer around but with whom I've shared part of my life. It's called 'Really Glad You Came'.

The song reflects upon a past relationship, with all its ups and downs. It embraces the tears and tussles, smiles and good times, and simply sums it all up by saying, 'Thanks for looking in on me, I'm really glad you came.'

Now if you, like me, have a tendency to look at the downside, it's not always easy to take the positives from the past. And it can be so easy to give ourselves a hard time over things we 'woulda, coulda, shoulda' said or done.

The truth about the past is that it is gone and there is absolutely nothing we can do to change it. Much as we might like to. But what we can do is see it for what it is. And we can choose to be grateful for the good times.

So I love Mr Dury for reminding me to remember with fondness and gratitude for all the people who have 'looked in on me'.

If someone you cherished or still care for is no longer around, you too can choose to remember the good things you shared. (If it makes you smile, all the better. Because research shows smiling helps makes you just that little bit happier.)

So whatever next prompts you to reflect on a friendship - whether it's a photo, a sight, a sound or a smell - do yourself a huge favour and focus on those Reasons To Be Cheerful.

Sorry, I couldn't resist.

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June Mon, May 27th 2013 @ 7:46am

Thank you for a lovely post, gave me a smile to start my day with. :-D

Anonymous Mon, May 27th 2013 @ 8:05am

If we chose to look kindly (with mercy) on the mistakes of friends and family, work colleagues and people who may have offended us in the past and just LET. IT. GO., then we will discover a peace, a joy, a grace beyond our understanding. In thee Lord's prayer we ask God to "forgive us as we forgive those who have sinned against us"
Forgiveness is a gift to us and allows us to live in the present, and let go of past hurts. It enables us to move on with our lives renewed, refreshed and filled with hope not fear. To be told you are truly forgiven is a wonderful feeling; to genuinely forgive someone else and tell them so is even more wonderful, so as a famous sports brand says....JUST. DO. IT.!!!! Sue, Huncote, Leics

Apple trees Mon, May 27th 2013 @ 8:14am

Now this one sounds just like Jon Cousins!

Anonymous Mon, May 27th 2013 @ 9:55am

Wonderful post! Thank you!

Tania Davy Mon, May 27th 2013 @ 12:30pm

one thing im learning is that my journey on this earth is not done. I have to much to give. forgiveness is not unattainable um just not there yet. but everyday we have the opportunity to take a step forward in our own lives and take control.

Anonymous Mon, May 27th 2013 @ 1:42pm

Just what I needed today. Thank you so much.

Anonymous Mon, May 27th 2013 @ 7:03pm

How lovely

Anonymous Tue, May 28th 2013 @ 12:31pm

A good thought and reminder. Thank you.

I would like to know who is writing what post on the Blog, since there are many possible writers, helps me to know whose view is whose.

Now I'm going to have a holi-moment!

Caroline Ashcroft Tue, May 28th 2013 @ 2:22pm

Hi there, the blog posts are signed off by the writer on the actual daily email we send out, but perhaps we should sign them off by the writer on the blog too. Good thinking!

Amy Birney Tue, May 28th 2013 @ 7:12pm

Love this one. (Per the above comment, it DOES sound just like Jon!)

Reminds me of something that's helped me do just this over the past decade or so:

There are basically 3 types of people in our lives:
1) Those who come for a season. They are here for a while and then gone through no fault of anyone's.
2) Those who come for a reason. They are here for a while. They help us move forward on something and then they move on through no fault of anyone's.
3) Those who are there for a lifetime. They are relatively few and they stick with you for... well... you're whole life. Good, bad and otherwise.

Take what you like and leave the rest.

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