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Do you have a warrior spirit? Friday April 3, 2015

I wake feeling my usual malaise with the world and the effort to get out of bed and engage with life this Sunday morning all feels like a damp stinky woollen rag hung around my neck.

I decide to Whatsapp a friend who is sensitive and doesn't find life an easy ride. We are quite similar in many ways but when we get together we lift each other and open the joy inside of us.

Message comes back "Am at an all time low – free for a chat?"

Wow! That is a shake up. I call and find that he feels his world has fallen apart. He is blaming himself for it all. True, he has made a mistake. He accepts his lack of organisational skills had led him to miss a very important flight with ensuing ramifications for a future elsewhere.

He sounds as if he is going to give up. Not wanted, not loved, feeling useless and blaming himself for everything. That awful gremlin "negative self-talk" is having a field day.

Funnily enough, my malaise vanishes, my warrior spirit rises as I listen and gently talk him through some options. This is me who finds this nigh on impossible to do for herself! Incredible what some distance – and care - can do.

One hour later we end with simple tips from me which I have learned the hard way:

Make the best of a bad day by getting that uplifting music on.

Make a list of realistic jobs to do for today and tick them off so you feel you have achieved something and you are not useless.

Get physical – clean the house, even just one room.

Be prepared for tomorrow and buy a soothing book.

Most importantly, send loving thoughts.

So, I am now up and moving, acting, realising that my mistakes and pain have at least led to some insight and strategies and have allowed me to support a friend in a dark place.


Sunshine in the rain
A Moodscope member


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Hopefulone Fri, Apr 3rd 2015 @ 8:17am

Hi Sunshine in the rain- Thanks for that you are a ray of sunshine in my life today.Not because I am down but because of all the reminders you make which chimed with me as I had a good day yesterday but my mind would not accept that so I wrote in my diary just before reading your blog " Watch out for 1.discounting the positive however small.2 not being loving/compassionate enough towards myself. 3. Swop inner critical voice for a more friendly one"

Anonymous Fri, Apr 3rd 2015 @ 8:21am

Thank you for a lovely blog. Really resonated with me today. Jen

Anonymous Fri, Apr 3rd 2015 @ 8:21am

Also chimed with me. I need purpose, and helping a friend in need is always beneficial to my mood.
Hope you got a better few days after that too, Sunshine in the rain.

Anonymous Fri, Apr 3rd 2015 @ 8:50am

Just lovely. Thank you.

Anonymous Fri, Apr 3rd 2015 @ 2:33pm

Thank you, hopeful one for your comments. And also to he other Anonymousers. Sunshine in the rain. X

Anonymous Fri, Apr 3rd 2015 @ 2:50pm

Thank you. X

Anonymous Sat, Apr 4th 2015 @ 11:50am

Get physical. It usually helps me just to go outside, breath deeply and swing my arms around.

Anonymous Sat, Apr 4th 2015 @ 10:03pm

I find it often helps me to look over the advice I have given to others. And then try to take it/follow it... struggling a bit currently with 3rd family bereavement in a year, I haven't given much advice on grief as its all quite new to me, does anyone have good bereavement advice? Eva

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