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Check the Brakes. Friday July 12, 2013

I decided to surprise my dad by transforming his lawn into beautifully mown stripes. So I dusted off his antiquated but posh roller-mower and set about the task enthusiastically.

The mower was very heavy - necessary to get the proper striped effect. It had powered cutting blades but required manual pushing to propel it forwards - hard work, but immensely satisfying! I felt like I'd really mown the grass and the result was worth it!

Dad was very impressed.

Later Dad asked, "Do you know about the other lever"? I'd only noticed the complex safety system controlling power to the blades. Dad explained that the roller was also powered and had its own dedicated brake lever!

We laughed! I had worked hard - with enthusiasm - achieved a great result, and all with the brakes on!

This is a great metaphor for the limiting beliefs that sometimes hold me back, making life unnecessarily hard work. My erroneous belief here was that the roller mechanism was not motorised.

I'm currently looking for a new job. In my 50s, my limiting belief was that employers prefer younger applicants. The truth is that this is entirely dependent upon the role! For many jobs, a mature outlook and experience suits the requirements perfectly.

So, if you have a thought today that weighs heavily on your heart, it's likely to be a sign of a limiting belief putting the brakes on your energy. Examine that thought - and remember that it is often just enough to ask yourself, "Is this really true all the time?"

Look for another lever and take the brakes off yourself!

Lexi
The Moodscope Team

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Julia Fri, Jul 12th 2013 @ 8:14am

Thanks for this Lexi. Good luck with the job hunting. You are not past it yet!!
Lexi..Sorry to use your blog for alerting someone to a previous blog, but..Mary (Blackhouse Hill), I have just replied to yours about the gene blog.

Anonymous Fri, Jul 12th 2013 @ 8:21am

Nice one. V funny story and apt analogy about beliefs. It's good to be reminded to reflect on how true something is, and whether or not it's true all the time. My depression often leads me to think, and say, that I feel awful all the time. And although I feel awful a lot of the time (more than I would like), there are times when I feel ok, even good.

Robert Morgan Fri, Jul 12th 2013 @ 8:37am

Thanks for that!
It was the right message at the right time!
I really appreciate it
Rob
Good luck with the job hunting

Anonymous Fri, Jul 12th 2013 @ 8:59am

Thank you for this.
It fits in so well with what a friend was saying to me last night I really must email it to him.
I too am looking for a new job in my 50s.
So good luck to both of us.

leximckee.com Fri, Jul 12th 2013 @ 10:10am

Thanks for the encouragement, Julia. I notice that the blog for the day is the best point of contact for our community, so please feel free to reach out to others regardless of whether it's relevant to my blog.

leximckee.com Fri, Jul 12th 2013 @ 10:14am

That's exactly why this helped me - the down times are not continuous. There are "moments" when there is relief. I went to the Hampton Court Flower Show yesterday, and for a few blissful hours, I was transported away from all the grey problem areas into the glorious colours of plants and flowers... I really sensed "Flower Power". Now, while I'm editing the pictures and still looking for a job - I find the pictures are tapping into that same glorious sense of relief (or distraction? It still feels like a tonic to my soul!)

leximckee.com Fri, Jul 12th 2013 @ 10:17am

Thanks Rob... this is one of the few blogs where people are kind enough to respond - and it is so good to know that one's good intentions are doing some good!

leximckee.com Fri, Jul 12th 2013 @ 10:23am

I'd like to start a revolution... for the over 50s. I've met some many of us recently whom the job market "seems" not to want (not wishing to reinforce that limiting belief!!!) Seeing this positively, I wonder if there could be an alliance of 50+ (and I'm sure someone's already doing this). We have so much more to give. Speaking only for myself, I was a total idiot right into my 40s. I knew nothing and thought I knew it all - a menace! Now, many bruises later, I have so much experience to share alongside the formidable skill-set that the 50+ folks have grown and developed. It would be great if we could stand together!!! I think that applied to 60+ and further too - the more traditional model of wisdom with age.

Anonymous Fri, Jul 12th 2013 @ 2:26pm

Yes i have limiting beliefs that are holding me back. I want to complete my bachelors degree and take the teaching program but i dropped out 3 times from the BA previously so i am afriad i will take courses and back out, not be able to handle the pressure and then feel like a failure again thus I am stuck doing a job that although it is fulfilling and I enjoy it it doesnt allow me to express my full capabilities nor earning capacity. I just think well why bother even if I did pull it together to try to take some or one l the good times are behind me, Im too old and too inherently flawed as a person to change my life around and be the person I want to be.

Anonymous Sat, Jul 13th 2013 @ 8:25am

Thank you Lexi for your blog and comments. And good luck with the job hunting. As an actress of 65, (46 years in the business) it seems my profession has forgotten me and wishes me to slip quietly into retirement, but I am not going to go along with that! Good luck to us all, while we still move and breathe it's not over!
Eileen

Mary Blackhurst Hill Sun, Jul 14th 2013 @ 12:32pm

Lovely blog. Really encouraging, and such a great story!

I don't know if this is true of men, but with my women's business networking groups I am finding the most amazing and powerful women of 50 and 60 plus, really coming into their own, finding their power and voice and starting great businesses. There are many employers who actively want to recruit the over 50s as we have a better work ethic and are generally more flexible; not (usually) having young children to consider.

So all the best, Lexi. We'll expect to hear good news soon. Oh, and just to encourage you, a friend of mine, who was recently made redundant by the public sector employer for whom he had worked since he left school and who was told he "did not have management potential" started his absolute dream job on May 8th; something very high profile with significant management responsibility. He loves it (his wife says he never shuts up about work, now) and they love him. So great things still happen after 50!

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