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Can we really be comfortable with ourselves? Sunday December 29, 2013

"One's destination is never a place but rather a new way of looking at things."
Henry Miller

How often do we think that we have 'arrived'?

Finally we have 'made it'...

Arrived at an answer, a location, a job, a position or even a relationship?

In the bigger picture of things it may feel that we can relax and settle into a new result, location or partnership...the challenge is - that the only constant in life is change. That 'C' of change...whipped up the ever roiling waves of cultural and societal shifts.

The only comfort, I believe ever to be found, is that which is found 'inside'. That clarity of who we are and what we stand for, regardless of the push and pull of the material word.

Question - Can we really be comfortable with ourselves?

Once we find that elusive Holy Grail, then no matter what happens 'outside' us, we can be sure of being on solid ground, like a lighthouse and far more able to deal with the ever changing world around us.

In this respect we can 'see' that everything will change - that we do not have to force it or even create change - we simply have to join it - to simply show up - and in having identified and clarified our own values (what we stand for) we will not be pushed over or submerged in this 'C of change'.

The way we individually look at our life, will constantly change due to age, or career, beliefs, or family.

For many it will at times 'throw' them and they will attempt to carry on as before.

It may even trigger depression, by attempting to stay the same while all around is cannot stay the same...unless you not only believe in your God (whichever one it is) but believe you are that God.

We must, I believe, constantly see ourselves on that never ending path, with our direction driven by our compass (our values) then at least we know our direction. What remains then is how we 'see' each situation we arrive at - dare I say each crossroads. And if it is the same crossroads as before...we didn't take the right route last time. (same job issues - same relationship issue - same health issues)

Each decision is a 'door' to a new view, a new panorama...

How grounded and how broad is your vision - can it adapt like your eyes for short and long sight as well as the ability to step back and see the whole picture?

How are you viewing your world today?

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randomangel Sun, Dec 29th 2013 @ 8:34am

This blog today really resonated with me and I am sure that, like many Moodscopers, I have picked up and "run" with a number of recommendations to help with this.I would like to re- recommend a route that I think I initially found from Moodscope. I am using "Headspace" a guide a meditation and it does exactly that in a gentle, long-term, reliable kind way. I would hugely recommend it if you would like to go with the premise of today's blog; for which many thanks to Les!

Anonymous Sun, Dec 29th 2013 @ 9:20am

Excellent Les; thank-you. So true,yet so hard to practise! Frankie

Anonymous Sun, Dec 29th 2013 @ 10:11am

Intense or what? Interesting though, thanks.

Anonymous Sun, Dec 29th 2013 @ 10:34am

I have reread this several times already, v thought provoking. Have been wondering how to build self esteem in a lasting and meaningful way and there is some help for that in there. Shall also look up headspace. Thank you.

Daren Sun, Dec 29th 2013 @ 4:16pm

“Suppose you read about a pill that you could take once a day to reduce anxiety and increase your contentment. Would you take it? Suppose further that the pill has a great variety of side effects, all of them good: increased self-esteem, empathy, and trust; it even improves memory. Suppose, finally, that the pill is all natural and costs nothing. Now would you take it?

The pill exists. It’s called meditation.” ~ Jonathan Haidt from The Happiness Hypothesis

Anonymous Sun, Dec 29th 2013 @ 4:35pm

Change is never a good thing. Things always suck

Melanie Lowndes Sun, Dec 29th 2013 @ 8:33pm

Great post - thank you very much.
I have just finished Eckhart Tolle's book "A new Earth" which helps enormously to understand who we are - who I am, what is the ego, and he describes a concept - the painbody - which is very useful to learn about and he also sets out how to deal with it. Your post chimes very nicely with his book.

Les Sun, Dec 29th 2013 @ 10:07pm

Yup - great book.............

Julia Sun, Dec 29th 2013 @ 10:55pm

I liked your post Les.

Anonymous Mon, Dec 30th 2013 @ 4:20pm

Never and always are labels I often apply to my situation whenever I am feeling down. But I do recognise that while change is sometimes difficult and even painful; and things sometimes, even often, suck they are never always bad, even if they feel that way. Never and always keep us stuck. But I understand the inclination towards them. It's finding and remembering things, people, occasions that are good, or go right, or that we survive.

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