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Bring back the boutonnière! Thursday October 17, 2013

"Aren't flowers sensible? The whole world in chaos and they go right on blooming. They give me a kind of faith." – Sarah Miles (Deborah Kerr) in the film The End of The Affair.

I remember attending weddings as a small child and feeling quietly grieved if I was deemed too young or not close enough to the bridal party to be given a button-hole to wear. The ushers would perhaps have an open tray-box to hand, containing rows of fresh, delicate flowers, lined up, awaiting their moment of glory, ready and prepared to adorn a pretty frock or a lapel.

Whatever happened to gentlemen wearing a boutonnière each day? What a charming custom that was. Actually you know, we could all adorn ourselves with flowers a lot more than we do. Better still, we could grace ourselves with flowers that mean something to us that day or that reflects our mood.

The Victorians of course understood the language of flowers. Receiving a bunch of flowers meant a little detective work was in order. The recipient of dogwood for example, would savour a heartwarming moment: Love undiminished by adversity.

I'll sometimes pop into see Dawn, my local florist at Oopsey Daisy's and have her make me buttonhole. The occasion? Well, at just £1 per button-hole does there need to be an 'occasion'? Really, does not everyday bring possibility for a little gaiety and gladness? I love the balance of meaning with my favourite boutonnière: Gerber Daisy = Cheerfulness with Rosemary = Remembrance. For even when our hearts are cheerful, we are still ever mindful of the sadnesses endured, or perhaps of those we love who are no longer with us, but who have given us much.

Of course, rummage around in your back garden and you may chance upon wild flowers rich in meaning and with enough beauty to make your own floral ornamentation. Even a sprig of lavender or a humble daisy will bring a smile, I'm sure.

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Anonymous Thu, Oct 17th 2013 @ 7:18am

I so totally agree, are wonderful.. My grandfather used to wear a rose on his lapel every day. And i love your quote as well.

Anonymous Thu, Oct 17th 2013 @ 7:54am

How can we start a revival. Can this be promoted pushed advertised somehow. Just imagine if this became popular again ... wow

Nick Thu, Oct 17th 2013 @ 8:18am

What a lovely idea Suzy, certainly the Victorians introduced some lovely and charming ideas, that have sadly become lost in the hectic and greedy pace of life today.
Perhaps, just perhaps, I might give this a try. It would be interesting to observe peoples reactions.

Anonymous Thu, Oct 17th 2013 @ 8:37am

What a beautiful idea! Something I've never considered but will now. I am sure it would make for more connections with people you've never met. Thanks Suzy for the inspiration.

Anonymous Thu, Oct 17th 2013 @ 9:07am

A difficult one for me. I love flowers and like to have them in my home, especially in winter. Am I the only person who feels slight guilt at cutting and shortening the life span of something so beautiful?

Anne Thu, Oct 17th 2013 @ 9:12am

a lovely thought ... and I might try it.. though I empathise with the guilt thing :-} ... where do you get the meanings for different flowers from?

Mary Blackhurst Hill Thu, Oct 17th 2013 @ 9:16am

Just lovely, Suzy: heartwarming and uplifting! that's given me a nice warm glow.

Anonymous Thu, Oct 17th 2013 @ 9:46am

This is lovely and has made me cry. On a related note, this has been a very difficult year for me, and one of the things that has given me the most joy and satisfaction is my garden. It has never looked so good as this year. And on some days I found myself going into the garden and saying thanks to the plants for being so beautiful. Bonkers but true.

Anonymous Thu, Oct 17th 2013 @ 10:52am

Happy day to you, Suzy, and thanks for the lovely post.

Anonymous Thu, Oct 17th 2013 @ 10:14pm

Wonderful idea! ...So I donned a little yellow rose I took from the garden today on my jacket. Apparently it looked great! Will do it more often now. I think flowers have an amazing ability to transform us not just on the outside but from within. Thanks Suzy.

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