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Breaking Family Patterns. Sunday October 19, 2014

My body crying out for help, I found a chiropractor who treated my physical symptoms and pointed me in the direction of a personal development course. I was not happy I realised. I was sad, angry. I felt trapped. I always knew suicide wasn't an option for me. I had seen what effects it could have on a family and I didn't want to cause that.

I soon saw that I didn't love myself. But somewhere deep inside I must do because I had found this 6-month course and I was taking it on.

When doing a kind of meditation exercise I discovered that each time I crossed a street I did so fearing for my life and the effects on my family, should I have an accident. I gave myself the task to look carefully before crossing, thinking that I do this because I love myself and want to look after myself.

My focus shifted. Having done mostly the same things, driven by fear, I now chose to do it out of love for myself. Everything felt different.

I saw patterns of fear in my family and saw it as my task to break them - for me, in my life, and also somehow for them. Our relationships were about to change for the better.

Working hard, it took years before I started actively focusing on the beautiful patterns my family also hold and the life-force they contain.

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Di Murphey Sun, Oct 19th 2014 @ 3:38am

Dearest Karin ~
What strength and courage resound in your post! I stand amazed and honored to read it and be able to attempt to understand and relate to your experience. Families can be messy and appear thankless ~ yet it is (perhaps) the best they can do.

Thank you for sharing this journey. It is critical and helps all of us that we each be authentic and revealing in our writings. You are amazing.
Di Murphey

Anonymous Sun, Oct 19th 2014 @ 6:15am

Yes, your healing both changes the "field" for your immediately partner and children, and adjusts going back thru time to prior generations. You reminder is timely and I hop you have continued success.

Anonymous Sun, Oct 19th 2014 @ 6:16am

Apologies for the mistakes in my post. Going too fast. Revu2

Hopeful One Sun, Oct 19th 2014 @ 8:31am

Thank you for sharing your wonderful experience Karin.I think it is said that you can only genuinely love others if we cultivate first the attitude of unconditional love towards ourselves.

Anonymous Sun, Oct 19th 2014 @ 3:07pm

Thank you for sharing your experience.

Is it possible to have details on accessing the course?

Anonymous Sun, Oct 19th 2014 @ 6:05pm

Wow. Thank you I feel honoured to read and take in your heart-warming response. A bit like Mary mother of Jesus when hearing the angels and shepheards. I believe that if we can be really ourselves we need no longer be scared of revealing ourself - because we live revealed. Thank you again.

And families. I think I chose it well with all its strenghs and weaknesses. It has given me a lot to deal with and I have used it to become who I am. And I am pretty happy, very happy, though curious as to what is really intended in the future. It will all comes together for good I trust


Anonymous Sun, Oct 19th 2014 @ 6:16pm

Thank you Hopeful one, Revu2 and Anon 3:07.

I am glad you liked my sharing and I wish you all too continued success. The particular company that gave my first six-month course do no longer exist.

I believe that the course we need or the steps want to take are available to us and will come to us when we listen for the signs the opportunities that life gives us. As we perceive the answers (and perceive that we perceive them) is it up to us to act upon them.

I've done a lot of courses, Landmark Education, Phyllis Krystal, Reiki just to mention a few. Other times life itself has given me all the opportunies for revelation and growth I could wish for.

I wish us all a great path through our lives. May the winds be with us.


Mary Blackhurst Hill Sun, Oct 19th 2014 @ 6:30pm

Thank you Karin. I've done Landmark and got loads and loads out of it and other courses too. Families eh? Can't love 'em: can't kill 'em and hide the bodies! (er - that was a joke everyone....?). Great post.

Anonymous Sun, Oct 19th 2014 @ 8:21pm

Thank you Mary - that means a lot to me.

Also I've read a book lately on family patterns and how to deal with them by honouring the ancenstors and releasing their traumas rather than reliving them. Fascinating book. "The Ancentral Conintuum - Unlock the Secrets of Who You Really Are" by Natalia O'Sullivan and Nicola Graydon.


Anonymous Sun, Oct 19th 2014 @ 9:50pm

Thank you for drawing attention to the contrast between being driven by fear or by love to do the same actions. That helps me! Genevieve

Lex McKee Sun, Oct 19th 2014 @ 10:49pm

Poignant post, Karin... they say that 'perfect love casts out fear' yet fear has been a 'faithful' (if 'ever-present' means 'faithful') companion throughout my life... and I know I am not alone in that.
I've been quite on Moodscope for a while because I've been rehearsing for a Hospital Pantomime that was for one night only last friday. I loved nearly every minute of it and I have to say my fears evaporated for a while.
As for patterns, that's why I like Vinyl. Once you'd scratched a record, it never played the same way again.
A gastly child told me that Darth Vader was Luke Skywalker's father BEFORE I got to see the movie! That scratched that one.
Then another 'friend' said to me about 'Alien' the movie: "Oh you'll love the bit where the MUPPET comes out of his tummy!" Somehow that fearsome scene wasn't scarey then!!! I think I laughed.
Our fears are often Muppets and our love, real people.
Hey, it's Sunday night and I was feeling reflective...

Anonymous Tue, Oct 21st 2014 @ 11:17am

Thank you Lex!
Have you heard the saying that "Fear is fun in disguise". It takes some thinking I think. But we like being scared to some degree like in movies.... And what if the fear we feel actually is fun in disguise! What a wonderful would this would be... Tuesday lunch´ time and I'm feeling reflective too...


Anonymous Tue, Oct 21st 2014 @ 11:20am

Thank you Genevieve I'm glad to hear that!
It is amazing though what difference it makes choosing to do stuff out of love rather than out of fear. It will never stop to impress me. Try hurrying to get to the school on time rather than hurrying not to be late. The pictures on gets to focus on are quite different. Keep going Genevieve!

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