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Beautiful daily rituals. Thursday July 18, 2013

My late dad would always endeavor to find beauty amidst the tedium of every day life. Probably one of the biggest parts of my life, for example, was sitting around the table for dinner every evening.

For dad, every evening meal was a beautiful daily ritual to be relished and enjoyed. His insatiable enthusiasm for life manifested itself in this special part of the day.

So whilst mum was cooking up a delectable dish, dad would pootle about lighting candles, flicking on fairy lights, hiding away the indomitable clothes maiden or folding up any items that hung on the radiator to dry, indeed, tidying away anything that upset the tidiness or caused the dining area to look unseemly.

He would peruse through his music collection and put on some cool, chilled jazz sounds and then, having seen to it that everyone was in receipt of a pre-dinner drink of some description, he'd perhaps pour a golden Belgian beer into one of his favourite, freshly polished glasses. Then, he'd step outside, whatever the weather, and meander about the garden in his own meditative silence until dinner was declared ready. This was dad's custom whether it be a good day or a bad day, a Saturday or a Tuesday.

Like anyone, dad had his fair share of problematic times when he felt under tremendous pressure. Even on those days though, it was important to dad that the day ended with some kind of beauty and not merely in a functional, slob-in-front-of-the-TV kind of a way.

If we were to ask ourselves, what part of the day could I make more beautiful? Or, what daily ritual could I be more mindful about? I wonder what moments of beauty we could add to life's daily routine?

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PWD Thu, Jul 18th 2013 @ 7:08am

Your dad sounds like he was a great man and got it right. My children have all grown up and have their own families now, but we always sat round the table and discussed the day. I miss those days, I try to make the mornings better as the mornings can be not so good, i.e. music on straight away and pretty loud if my wife has gone out, shower and these mornings sit in the sun in the garden with a coffee and watch and listen to the birds. its amazing how happy the birds sound when the sun is shining.


KiwiJane Thu, Jul 18th 2013 @ 8:30am

You're so right, it's the little things that matter. And they're the things we remember too - my mum's perfume suffusing a particular jumper she loved. There's always something even on a dark day.

Eileen Thu, Jul 18th 2013 @ 8:37am

Good one. I think happiness is in the details. Concentrate on one or two small, lovely things per day, like watching a bird.

Rupert Thu, Jul 18th 2013 @ 9:17am

I dont think you can overestimate the importance of sitting round the table at the end of the day and chatting - it helps put things into perpective as you become involved in other family members' worlds which seem more normal and less stressed.

Exidia Thu, Jul 18th 2013 @ 9:21am

Too right! I'm working on mindfulness at the moment, concentrating just on being in the moment. That, coupled with daily meditation (Headspace - Google it, it's good) seems to be making a difference to my ability to cope on a daily basis.

Anonymous Thu, Jul 18th 2013 @ 9:22am

I think your dad was right. However busy and stressfull the day has been to draw a line under it with a shower a change of clothes, maybe a glass of wine and something nice for dinner makes you feel better and indeed sleep better. You don't need a gourmet meal but a nicely presented plate of pasta or a salad will make you feel more relaxed than pie and chips from a takeaway. Even if you have takeaway put it on plate and use proper cutlery.

Anonymous Thu, Jul 18th 2013 @ 10:19am

This is a really lovely story - thanks for sharing it. I shall be inspired to put more beauty in my day and when better than sitting down to eat....I did recently buy myself nice dining ware for that reason but need to bring alive just as your dad did, more effort on the loveliness front is required by me!!
Thanks so much again.


Judith Thu, Jul 18th 2013 @ 12:24pm

Lovely lovely lovely. And right. xx

Mary Blackhurst Hill Thu, Jul 18th 2013 @ 3:05pm

Just lovely! Thank you for sharing that.

Anonymous Thu, Jul 18th 2013 @ 6:42pm

This is a really lovely anecdote; thank you so much for sharing.

Anonymous Thu, Jul 18th 2013 @ 10:00pm

Yes thank you Suzy, a beautiful memory.

Anonymous Sat, Jul 20th 2013 @ 10:29am

These 'new era' posts get better and better. Thanks for a good read and thought. Liz

Exidia Tue, Jul 23rd 2013 @ 11:12am

Yes - I loved Jon's posts and I do miss them, but I love the new voices too - we've got some very talented people in this community!

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