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As I began to love myself. Friday March 27, 2015

A very insightful poem. Written by Charlie Chaplin on his 70th birthday:

As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering
are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.
Today, I know, this is “AUTHENTICITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody
As I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time
was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this
person was me. Today I call it “RESPECT”.

As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life,
and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow.
Today I call it “MATURITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance,
I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens
at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm.
Today I call it “SELF-CONFIDENCE”.

As I began to love myself I quit steeling my own time,
and I stopped designing huge projects for the future.
Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do
and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in
my own rhythm. Today I call it “SIMPLICITY”.

As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for
my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew
me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude
a healthy egoism. Today I know it is “LOVE OF ONESELF”.

As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since
I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is “MODESTY”.

As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worry
about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where EVERYTHING
is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it “FULFILLMENT”.

As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me
and it can make me sick. But As I connected it to my heart, my
mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this
connection “WISDOM OF THE HEART”.

We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems
with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing
new worlds are born.Today I know THAT IS “LIFE”!

Charlie Chaplin
Not a Moodscope member.
(But probably would have been!)


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Comments

Anonymous Fri, Mar 27th 2015 @ 5:44am

I love it! Extremely powerful to be reminded in this way of values.

Hopeful One Fri, Mar 27th 2015 @ 7:32am

Hi Charlie Chaplin- Although you are sadly no longer with us it is my honour ofto welcome you to be a member of Moodscope posthumously . You made our lives worth living and enjoying and brought tears of laughter to our eyes.Your poem puts together some powerful self evident thoughts for those of us who remain behind .Thank you . Fantastic and much appreciated.

Mary Blackhurst Hill Fri, Mar 27th 2015 @ 7:56am

Nice one, Charlie!

Anonymous Fri, Mar 27th 2015 @ 8:04am

Wow, I'm putting that up on the wall, beautiful poem. Thanks

Anonymous Fri, Mar 27th 2015 @ 9:29am

Charlie is a darling! :-)
Could have done with a mascara warning as I'm sitting in my car with tears cascading down my face! Oh how wonderful those words are!
I'm wrestling with myself as I need to stand up to something/someone soon. I do not wish to reveal that my proposed compromise it is through protection of myself and my health. And so the verse on 'love of oneself' is particularly poignant for me.
Thank you Charlie, what a wealth of wisdom you share. Love from the room above the garage xx.

Anonymous Fri, Mar 27th 2015 @ 9:45am

Dearest RATG, I do hope you will be brave enough to go ahead with whatever you are wrestling with...especiakly if it will preserve your self. It is through the wisdom of Moodscope members like Les, Mary, Lex et al, and now Charlie, that we see ways of loving ourselves - even just a Liddle bit more than we did. Karen x

Anonymous Fri, Mar 27th 2015 @ 9:48am

Dear Charlie, hope you don't mind the informality, I'm sure you won't! What an amazing blog for today, and just what I needed to give myself a kick-start to bring kind and loving myself. It is sometimes hard to see why I should love myself, but from your writing and the simplest of explanations I feel I can start today. Welcome to Moodscope! Karen x

Anonymous Fri, Mar 27th 2015 @ 11:00am

Thank you Karen xxx. I think I need to toughen up and grow a thicker skin! please someone write a blog about that :-D

Anonymous Fri, Mar 27th 2015 @ 12:49pm

If you learn the secret of toughening up, let me know! K x x x

Anonymous Fri, Mar 27th 2015 @ 5:29pm

I've never commented on a moodscope before, but felt the need, as this is one of the best I've ever read. Thank you!

Fionna O Fri, Mar 27th 2015 @ 6:00pm

I love this poem. Thanks a million. I am printing it off and keeping it. I'm feeling decidedly weird today having had an argument with a friend of 43 years who is bipolar and came of his medication unilaterally (not for the first time). I could see he was getting high last November but he wouldn't hear me. Then he had a serious extended manic episode resulting in compulsory admission. Now he is depressed but again making unilateral decisions against advice that impacts badly on all who care for him. For the first time I've said he cannot continue staying with me given that is what he is doing. Don't know if it is the right thing to do or not but I cannot look after myself well when he is harming himself. It's like watching a car crash and not being able to stop it but I feel I have to put my own well being first. I'm not bipolar but do suffer from depression from time to time that I've learnt to manage pretty well.. So very grateful for this well timed poem...much needed.

Anonymous Fri, Mar 27th 2015 @ 9:46pm

Fionna, I don't think there is a 'right' or 'wrong' thing to do here. You are in a very difficult position and can only be guided by your instinct. He needs more help but you cannot force him to take it. Life could become very difficult for you if you are the enabler. I wish him good health soon. And for you. Love from the room above the garage.

Anonymous Fri, Mar 27th 2015 @ 9:50pm

Hi Fionna, what a difficult position to be in, but I agree with you, you have to put your own well being first.

Caroline Ashcroft Fri, Mar 27th 2015 @ 9:51pm

Hi Anonymous, really pleased you enjoyed it.

Caroline Ashcroft Fri, Mar 27th 2015 @ 9:57pm

Hi RATG, I have no idea what your situation is, but we all know that what he says in that verse is right and although it may be hard, I'm sure you'll feel a lot better when you've sorted it out - and you know you have to by the sounds of it. You have to look after yourself.

Fionna O Fri, Mar 27th 2015 @ 9:58pm

Thanks so much RATG. I love your posts and always read them. In fact he seems to have become altogether more reasonable, mildly cheerful and calmer since the exchange when I said I was at the end of my rope...but maybe that is just his evening mood lift. It is tough all round, isn't it? I think maybe he likes being a bit high and 'normal' feels wrong. But he hates being admitted to hospital and understandably hates the ensuing depression. I don't know. I don't like it but my patience seems to have run very thin. Are mania phases invariably followed by deep depression? Can anyone tell me? Is it possible to come down from a (v) high to a 'normal state without the terrible lows? What if the 'high' is caught when it is still mild? I feel v out of my depth. (And, unfortunately, pretty angry that, after all this time he came off his medication without medical advice....again).

Leah Sat, Mar 28th 2015 @ 3:58am

Fioona,
You are a patient and caring friend. I think most people with bipolar have different experiences and each individual may find each mood swing differs each time. I would gradually go into a manic episode and then come crashing down into a deep depression then after many weeks start climbing out gradually to become manic. Many people believe they can control their highs, some maybe able to, I could never control mine .
You did need to care for yourself. If he makes the decision not to take medication that is his choice but it will affect his friends and family and himself.
Take care
Leah

Fionna O Sat, Mar 28th 2015 @ 1:25pm

Thanks so much Leah. Means a lot to me. In fact I think his sister is discussing a return to hospital until he is more stable, hopefully not for long. I think he knows he has damaged some relationships this time and is v down and worried today, but still determined on car crash decisions against advice. I think I need a break and also for everyone to stop assuming I'll pick up the pieces every time. I wouldn't wish this condition on anyone..such a roller coaster ride. Good luck to you as well, and thank you for your kindness.

Anonymous Sun, Mar 29th 2015 @ 6:04pm

BTW, it's not by Chaplin. From http://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Charlie_Chaplin

Actually, a re-translation (from Portuguese-BR) of a text from the book "When I Loved Myself Enough" by Kim & Alison McMillen (2001).

-SM

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