Appreciation

2 Jul 2021
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Why am I writing about appreciation? Because it is important and I want to raise its awareness so that it could improve your life. It has a few different meanings but for the purpose of this post I am using “recognition and enjoyment of the good qualities of someone or something.” I have divided this post between the two appreciations - “someone” and “something”.

It is easy to appreciate what someone has done or said but we often overlook it and an opportunity is missed. The easiest appreciation is the simple “Thank you”. But is so much better if we let the person know why we appreciate their action. If we tell them how it made us feel it will make them feel better by raising their self esteem. I am always looking for ways of appreciating people by paying them compliments. Some people can be suspicious of receiving compliments. They may consider the appreciation is not genuine or there is an ulterior motive in making it. I would advocate perseverance as it can improve relationships.

Appreciation of “something” is very subjective. It can involve any of our senses but we need to ensure they are fully functioning! If we care for something we are showing our appreciation of its worth to us. For example a pet animal or a garden plant. I have been trying to positively identify more things I can appreciate. It is a useful exercise particularly when going on walks. Sometimes I stop walking and closely look or listen. A duck paddling in the calm waters of the canal, a trilling bird, a colourful or scented plant, the sound of rippling water in the stream. The right kind of music is something I appreciate and it can change my mood. I enjoy upbeat or slow romantic music particularly from the sixties era. Half an hour in my disco (actually YouTube on the office desktop!) can really change the way I am feeling.

If we are fortunate, appreciation of both somebody and something can occur simultaneously. It happened to me yesterday morning. When I got up I was feeling a bit sluggish and anxious but I knew I had to summon enough energy to get outside for my early morning walk. I took the turning along the canal towpath where you can see the gardens of the homes whose boundaries are close to the canal. After a few minutes I stopped at a garden with beautiful roses. I was admiring their colour, form and scent when the lady of the house appeared (in her dressing gown!) . We spoke for around 5 minutes and I told her how much I loved the roses. I was very happy to see and discuss one of my favourite plant specimens; it gave me a warm feeling inside and certainly brightened my day. She also seemed pleased with our meeting and chat.

Would you like to try some appreciation therapy?

Comments will be greatly appreciated!

Teg

A Moodscope member.

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Little Lighthouse

July 3, 2021, 6:05 a.m.

Teg To be honest I'd love to, but my brain engaged in a battle so appreciation society is just clashing. Awake midsleep. Stressed out to the eyeballs. Honestly determined to see how this new medicine was suiting me without interference. I gave in took a couple of sprays of cbd oil. Pain, stress turned to sleep and woke up happier and more tranquil and in ore of the little pharmacist sharing about her dog and cbd. Now back to today and will take it as and when and hope appreciation of someone and somethings start again. Little lighthouse

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Teg

July 3, 2021, 10:35 a.m.

Hi LL Sorry you have had a bad time. Take things gently and keep in touch with your Moodscope family and other friends. Try a little appreciation when you are ready. Take care.

Little Lighthouse

July 3, 2021, 11:48 a.m.

Thank you noticing, thankyou for caring thankyou for the colourful world you painted today while thunder and rain are waiting to change those darkened clouds. Love little lighthouse

Teg

July 3, 2021, 12:21 p.m.

Thank you for your appreciation! That's what Moodscope is all about.

Little Lighthouse

July 4, 2021, 2:32 a.m.

big up cbd for calming me, alowing me to speak the truth gently, I appreciate it. Thankyou to all the people behind making it happen and for finally it to be bought off the shelf and for removing the thc which reacted so badly with me because I had too much and made me high, however it rid me of depression and anxiety  and alowd me to love. Greatful to places like Canada for giving doses of thc as well and providing it individually. To my daughters belief and perserverence in good health. For Brazil in rolling out trauma release therapy on NHS. For my daughters compassion towards others who are struggling. For sticking by me and persevering with me despite me being difficult at times. And knot alowing me to push them away.

Teg

July 4, 2021, 9:14 a.m.

LL Your appreciation is flowing now. That's great!

Little Lighthouse

July 5, 2021, 4:27 a.m.

Thanks all down to you preaching and  giving  us a platform to have a change of heart

Bunnykins

July 3, 2021, 6:55 a.m.

Dear Teg, your blog resonated with me so much. It is said to be a good habit to think of 3 things you've appreciated before going to bed. I often forget but it is a good idea. I live near a busy road so I sometimes walk through a gulley into a quiet, peaceful road with many attractive gardens. Immediately I feel calmer and happier away from traffic; it's lovely to see different flowers, shrubs etc. My mood lifts and depression lifts enough that I feel able to function "normally". Whatever 'normal' is! :/

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Teg

July 3, 2021, 10:41 a.m.

Hi Angela I am pleased you could relate to the appreciation theme. I also think of 3 positive things as my last thought of each day. I have been doing it for about 6 months and feel it makes a difference. I love the outdoors and I go there if my mood dips. Every walk presents changing colours, scents etc.

Valerie

July 3, 2021, 7:24 a.m.

Morning Teg.It is sad that we sometimes need a bad thing to happen,in order to appreciate the good things we have.I have made a point of expressing appreciation since the pandemic.People like supermarket workers,binmen,parcel couriers have been every bit as brave and essential as the NHS. There is a lady in our town who could be described as a bit "simple",and I don't mean that to sound offensive.She is a sweet- natured soul who goes up to strangers in the street and tells them they are looking really beautiful today.She gets such friendliness back in return,people look forward to bumping into her.A young person said to me recently as I walked along "Hey,you look really cool".Made my day I can tell you.Great blog Teg,nice way to start the day,thank you.x

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Teg

July 3, 2021, 10:47 a.m.

Hi Valerie. You seem to be a regular responder to the blog posts and I am sure all the writers appreciate your views ( as I do). I agree with your appreciation of the work done by so many during the pandemic. I just hope all these workers feel appreciated. I can't see you so I cannot comment but to me you sound cool!

Orangeblossom

July 3, 2021, 7:53 a.m.

Many thanks for the great blog. I found it very uplifting & encouraging. Kind Regards

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Dido

July 3, 2021, 10:39 a.m.

Hi Teg am just about to venture out and will try to appreciate my way out of the frustration I am feeling. I find shop folk do like to have their hard work seen and commented on. I am genuinly trying to shift my head space but it is so hard on my own . Thanks Teg , will try and put into practice *** Dido

Teg

July 3, 2021, 10:50 a.m.

Hi Dido A bit of appreciation helps everybody. Hope your headspace becomes clearer, take care.

Teg

July 3, 2021, 10:58 a.m.

Hi OB Thanks for your appreciation; I am pleased it has lifted your spirits.

The Gardener

July 3, 2021, 9:08 a.m.

A very trite appreciation compared to the feelings of your blog. But is is of the moment, and that is having rooves on the two courts at Wimbledon. When I think ot the years when you only saw covers and umbrellas, and heard the frustrated commentators wittering on to fill space and showing endless old replays. What little life has come back to this town is bedevilled by the weather - a Sunday morning market is previewed, so is heavy rain - so I shan't be sitting on the pavement outside my shop and chatting. I have loads to appreciate, but at the moment it is OF the moment

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Teg

July 3, 2021, 10:56 a.m.

Hi Gardener It is difficult to appreciate heavy rain unless your garden needs it! I like your nostalgic memories of rainy days at Wimbledon. How about Cliff Richard entertaining the crowd! Please try to appreciate your surroundings and friends asap.

Benjamin

July 3, 2021, 10:28 a.m.

So much of appreciation seems to be judgement with a positive outcome; it reminds me of those old core college classes for 'art' or 'music' appreciation. Where the goal is not to improve the art, but to improve the viewer. To teach them how to find the great in what is already acknowledged to be great. But then - perhaps - some of the goal is to find the great in what is not necessarily already known to be great, or maybe even what isn't necessarily great entire? Because to find the great in the first case is to be a great critic, and in the second... perhaps, to be a great lover of art? So... to train the attention on what makes something/someone great... is to make someone a great lover of that thing/person. How interesting. Not entirely novel, but perhaps worth revisiting.

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Teg

July 4, 2021, 9:32 a.m.

Hi Benjamin Sorry I seem to have overlooked your comments. I have to admit they are complex for my simple brain. I like to keep things a simple as possible but I hope you appreciated your thoughts, thanks.

Leah

July 3, 2021, 10:33 a.m.

Teg thanks for your blog. Like Val I think when something bad happens I appreciate what I have more. After the fires , I appreciated what I had , my life , my partner and my family . I still missed what I did not have and still do to this day. I have learnt I can miss things but also appreciate what I have at same time.

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Teg

July 3, 2021, 11:05 a.m.

Hi Leah Thanks for responding. I like the balance in your final sentence. To move on does not mean forgetting to appreciate what you had in the past.

Sally

July 3, 2021, 3:51 p.m.

During lockdown I quickly realised my extreme good fortune. Retired, having a husband, children nearby, a comfortable home. As compared to those who didn’t know what would become of their houses/ mortgages/ jobs. Or those who found themselves at home alone. Very trying and lonesome.. I’ve always considered myself to be fortunate . Things could’ve turned out so differently ( due to teenage depression). I am so thankful I gave life a chance. 50 years on. I think it’s always good to look at what we do have . Thanks Teg, for the focus.

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Teg

July 3, 2021, 8:10 p.m.

Hi Sally Thanks for your comments. I agree about looking at what we do have and appreciate our life and those who have helped along the way.

Oli

July 3, 2021, 4:25 p.m.

Thanks Teg. Benjamin's reply made me think. Appreciation, for me, often requires a slow down, a second look. Most of what I'm seeing is what I expect to see... so... slow... down. Look again. It's nice to see something new other than what you expect.

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Teg

July 3, 2021, 8:12 p.m.

Hi Oli If you take time and actively look for positives it's amazing where they are!

The Gardener

July 3, 2021, 4:38 p.m.

Teg, thought I was a real sour-puss, but things have definitely changed. 'Regulars' have stopped communicating. Pre Covid you would always greet, hand-shake or kiss depending on your habits. I know that had to stop, but no acknowledgement of existence? Real shock in supermarket. When you arrive at checkout the girl (usually, occasional male student) will greet you as you put your goods on the conveyor, and give you her attention , then a 'Bonne journee' at the end. Today the girl was talking to a friend at the end, for at least a couple of minutes. She did not set the conveyor belt going, so I could not unload my trolley. Everybody says things won't be the same after Covid - are manners going to go as well?

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The Gardener

July 3, 2021, 4:42 p.m.

PS, I think 'be grateful for' is synonymous with appreciate for me. My gardening, being able to replace what I can't do with help. Able to drive - still 'learning' with computers. 'Managing' my life, because the last 6 months have been a bit scary, my age and Covid chaos here.

Teg

July 4, 2021, 9:18 a.m.

Hi Gardener I don't see much wrong with a bit of mutual appreciation. Your friends on this site appreciate your input and accept it will not always be positive. Take care.

Bailey

July 3, 2021, 6:02 p.m.

I appreciate your blog Teg. And you are so right. Gratitude does positive things that griping never will.

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Ach UK

July 3, 2021, 6:34 p.m.

What a great line Bailey.!!

Teg

July 4, 2021, 9:21 a.m.

Hi Bailey Thanks for your appreciation. Particularly as you encouraged me, a few weeks ago, to write on this subject.

Ach UK

July 3, 2021, 6:33 p.m.

Hi Teg, thank you for your blog. I.was thinking that learning the art of " appreciation " should be taught along with manners and acceptance of responsibilities whilst we are very young. It's more difficult to instill in adults. I like your nom de plume, it conjures up for me wild Welsh hills skylarks and sheep. XX Ach.

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Teg

July 4, 2021, 9:27 a.m.

Hi Ach I agree although I think it is something that comes with age, similar to empathy. Having said that I can think of a few adults that have never heard of these words! A definition of "Teg" is a 2 year old sheep. I did not know that when I assumed it.

Little Lighthouse

July 4, 2021, 2:43 a.m.

Fear  wants to get in the way of appreciation.Fear  gets  in the way of  all sorts of compassion you feel for anther person or something Fear is challenging you, (in all sorts ways) fear stops you fear  imbolises you . Fear comes out of anxiety, thankyou anxiety. Fear stops  you living and breathing. Fear  undoes all the hard work you've done. . Fear  makes you go with out fear makes you have too much. Fear challenges you when your alone, fear challenges when you get into fights. 'you' is love, are you love? You are love, fear questions love fear is trying to strengthen (thankyou fear) you to go out there and be love and love and  bring love., Answer all these fears and you'll see yourself in the mirror and why it is you don't see love. Thankyou '***' for teaching me to cut and paste.  Love is... Generous, thankyou love thankyou moodscopers and team moodscope for being our friends.

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Ach UK

July 4, 2021, 8:18 a.m.

Oh, great prose lines about fear LL. They would elaborate into a blog if you felt you could.. The Litany of Fear ( from Dune.) "I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past, I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain."

Little Lighthouse

July 5, 2021, 4:40 a.m.

Thankyou ach  for reading late addition and appreciating what I wrote it was relevant to tegs and gratitude where change took place . I sensed it would make a blog but decided not to a second time because it was stressful the first time as it took all day and didn't know how to transform. Then understand then reply back to comments and the anxiety it made me feel was too much.   Thanks  for your caring nature and naming it prose  Thanks for the poem from dune it gives me something to mull over. LL

Lex

July 5, 2021, 10:18 a.m.

Last week, in the New Forest, I had the joy of watching a large group of tiny ducklings swimming around their ever-vigilant Mother. To keep up with her, they had to expend a lot of energy... but you could only tell this from the bow wave they created as their little legs rapidly paddled beneath the surface - a powerful moment to appreciate. Then a small herd of horses cantered down to the pond. The leaders deliberately churned up the bottom of the pond... and left me pondering why. Life is fascinating... and I appreciate that... and your blog!

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Teg

July 5, 2021, 1:49 p.m.

Life is all around us, we just need to make time to see it. Thanks for your comments

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