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Anxiousness... Saturday October 10, 2015

The Meeting.

It was out there...some people would like to meet up, perhaps for a picnic, or at a pub, would I like to join in? Yes, pick me, please, yes, I would! And so it was arranged. Great! I had plenty of time to prepare... it was over a month away and I would be pleased to put faces to names of people I speak to online, at last!

Then the doubts started. Run, Bear, run... Why would anyone want to meet me? I'm not terribly clever, never sure I can contribute enough to help, oh dear, what had I done, why did I agree? Heart was racing, run, Bear, run!

A motiveless attack on me years ago, by a man high on drugs and alcohol, has made me more fearful and anxious about being out of my comfort zone, more wary to go on my own - to places I'm unsure about... run, Bear, run... but I'll be with others, I'll be ok, (hush now, chill, Bear, chill.)

Then the morning arrived, heart beat faster, run, Bear, run. Husband asked why I was so worried... what was the problem? Heart beating faster still, as I couldn't explain - run, Bear, run. I didn't know why.

I made it! Got on the right train, met the two lovely peeps at the next station and we chatted happily. Went to meet the others... what a lovely bunch they were: swapping stories, anecdotes, a liddle light lunch, more ideas and sharing email addresses - so now I have more friends. I shouldn't have worried, I know. These peeps, like most genuine peeps, didn't care what I looked like, and I didn't care what they looked like - we were all just happy to meet up.

What is it that gets me so worried and upset? I can normally reason with myself that things probably won't be as bad as I am fretting about, but the doubts are still there: never feeling quite good enough, self doubt, silly worries... and really, it's not as if I had walked in the room with my skirt tucked into my knickers and had everyone laughing at me! No, I didn't do that!

Depression does this to many of us and I know I have to learn to see that these challenges CAN be overcome, bit by bit. Even those unaffected by depression often find they don't look forward to an event, a speech, a party, or any gathering... the depression just magnifies the problem.

One challenge completed... many more to go, I'm sure - is there a challenge that you can take steps to overcome?


Bearofliddlebrain (not running now!)
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Hopeful One Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 7:45am

Hi Bear darling- all I see are judgements , judgements ,judgements, judgment and all generally negative if I may say so .Each time you judge yourself you break your own heart. You are a wonderful, sensitive, gifted , humourous person , courageous - and I he a not even met you!

Bearofliddlebrain Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 8:58am

Yes, (said in ve ve small voice) I know you are right....having been judged all my life it's hard to break that habit. I think I've got so used to a withering look or unkind, sarcastic comments it sort of becomes normal...and I often try to get in there with a quip, before someone else does. Your kind words have made my bottom lip wobble! Thank you HO...Bear x

Debs Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 7:54am

Oh bear, bear, what an incredible writer you are, you are, what an incredible writer you are!! Such warmth and compassion oozes out of every word. You know I always look for your name when I'm reading these blogs, I want to read what you've written because you always wrap me up in a warm bear hug. If I had a picnic you my love would be top of the list of people id invite. And ironically I would be nervous meeting you, thinking 'but she's so talented, I'm not in that league'. How funny that we're wired this way as humans. What purpose does it serve to think we're not enough? We don't belong? We don't fit? I don't see one. You fit perfectly here bear, and at the picnic and anywhere you choose because you are a shining light. I woke up anxious about the day but reading your words and responding has brought me back to centre. Thank you x a million lovely bear xxx

Bearofliddlebrain Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 9:06am

That's so kind of you Debs...humbled, I am, humbled. Each day when I read what other Moodscopers are going through, I want to give a big bear hug...and offer encouragement to lift peeps out of their bad days. Having had a rubbish week this week, your words have helped me this morning. Tears, tears, and more tears...ah what the heck, I may as well admit it - am blubbing like a baby! Thank you, Debs - Bear x

Debs Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 9:37am

I'm right with you bear, am sobbing too ;-) I'm having a tough week (hmmm - couple of weeks!?) and have been scrabbling out of the hole and slipping down again. You are so kind, indeed a bear with a huge heart and I'm thinking of you xxx

Bearofliddlebrain Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 3:31pm

Dear Debs....reaching out a liddle bear claw to pull you up...cuppa tea waiting for you in other claw! x

Jenny Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 9:15am

Oh how familiar your feelings are to me! For years I have ruined so many days by worrying about a forthcoming event! I didn't really understand why that as soon as I had made an an arrangement to go somewhere and meet someone I was already trying to find a way to get out of it! Of cause after all the fears and apprehension it would almost always be an enjoyable experience! It makes it all so much easier to know that I am not alone in my mental behaviour! Thank you dear Bear I will share more with you soon. X

Bearofliddlebrain Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 2:32pm

Thank you, Jenny! I didn't think it was just me! It's a very strange feeling to be so excited and book an event, but as it draws closer I get to feel worried, scared and convince myself no one will miss me if I'm not there. The other huge thing for me was it being in London...I don't know it very well and panic about going there, especially on my own! Now Jenny, don't be selfish...share your stories!!! Bear x x

Mary Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 9:27am

Ah Bear - you wise old (not so very old) Bear, you! Yes - we all get terrified of the unknown (and this sounds like a very unknown) and so often it is so much better than our fears. Bear of great wisdom (and cuddles), that's you. Proud and honoured to know you, Bear.

Bearofliddlebrain Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 2:36pm

Oh flip, now you've set me off crying again, Mary! It's been a long month this week has!! But sun was shining in Bearworld this morning, then I saw the blog and some comments and sometimes it is the knowing we are not alone in this that keeps our heads above water. Thank you, Mary...kind words...x

Janis Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 9:37am

So so many of us live with crippling anxiety, self doubt, low self esteem and lack of confidence, these traits do not disappear overnight, sometimes never. I am one of those people. My battle is always with myself , my thoughts, my action or often lack of action. Its easier to stay in the comfort zone , in control but where nothing changes. Changing hurts and it takes energy and effort, so the cycle will continue. We have but one go at this life, the thought and anticipation is usually always worse than the reality, so I must change and live the life we all deserve and need.

Bearofliddlebrain Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 2:40pm

We must change but still do it gradually, so we don't hurt ourselves in the process!! Small things, one at a time. I will manage to get to London again...on my own. I am determined to do it!! If we keep doing the same things over and over again, we will always get the same results...unless you're talking about baking!! Scones don't always come out the same twice - even with the same recipe! Thank you Janis. Bear x

LillyPet Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 10:00am

Morning Hunny Bear!
I loved your writing too, it took me right into Bearworld :) You make me think of Bearhugs, all things cosy and comforting and you always bring a smile.
You are all you needed to be at that picnic, but so many of us struggle with the 'what ifs'. That anxious build up is so familiar. You have shown us that as humans it is about survival, our brains making sure we are prepared. Fight or flight "Run Bear run" How familar is that feeling of "it wasn't as bad as I thought". I still follow the path up that hill on my mini journeys, with a heavy rucksack full of everything I could think of to be prepared and am always relieved to have come down the other side, only having needed a fraction of it! Why don't I travel light? :) It's so familiar I've been able to reassure my daughter many times as she grows up how she will do just fine and it wont be as bad..." Hush now, chill Baby Bear chill". Maybe many of us will hear that comforting phrase as we more gently prepare ourselves for our journeys and learn to travel lighter.
Blub away Bear it's joyous! Thank you for a wonderful Bearworld blog.
Hugs LillyPet. Xxx

Bearofliddlebrain Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 2:44pm

Ah, my liddle Lillypet! Thanking you kindly! Sun has disappeared in Bearworld, but my day has got brighter with each comment I am reading! Such lovely bunch of peeps here on Moodscope. I'm glad that in our own small ways, when we blog, we can show others that all of us can be, and are often worried, afraid, anxious about the same sorts of things...and it's normal and part of life. We just have to learn how to deal with different situations and Bear Up!! Lovings, Bear x

Frankie Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 10:13am

Morning Bear!

I agree with everything that everyone has said to you this morning Bear - me too!

What is it that gets me so worried and upset?
Me too!

I think that this is just being human - of course we want people to like us, but if we find it hard to like ourselves then we assume (wrongly)that others will find it hard to like us ...

How easy it is to picture a variety of ever increasingly negative scenarios in all their gory details;

maybe we should use that creativity to picture a variety of ever increasingly positive scenarios in all their GLORIOUS details - just typing this is already making me feel brighter today ... GLORIOUS scenarios ...

I have found this quote really helpful and often need to remind myself of it (author unknown)

"Do not compare yourself unfavourably with others.
For you are comparing your inside with their outside, which is comparing your inner feelings and insecurities with their outward show"

Great blog Bear - go you!
Frankie x

Bearofliddlebrain Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 2:51pm

Frankie, dear friend, what a brilliogs quote...I shall note it down and keep looking at it!! It's strange how going to somewhere on my own,(London) was the biggest worry and meeting new people was a bit scary wary, but I meet and greet new peeps everyday, even going out of my way to say hi to others or help if someone is lost...but I suppose I felt I wasn't going to be intellectual enough!! Silly, I know, and hindsight is a wonderful thing...I was no better or worse than anyone there!! Now the big gremlin sitting on my shoulder says I am being big-headed! See? See what I have to put up with??!! Lovings, Bear x

the room above the garage Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 10:12pm

...'your inside with their outside'...aargh, love it, genius!

jenny Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 10:21am

This community of ours is amazing! You drop a pebble into this pool of mutual support and compassion, a community swelling by the day, and the ripples flow out touching so many. There is a saying that you get back from life what you put. Sadly this is not always so, but it seems true of this community. When I posted about my worry that so many people continue to struggle with life without an end/cure, the answers have been so touching and honest. I agree that this loving, supportive environment that is now available to us to discuss our worries and get the life affirming satisfaction from feeling you can help others,post the acute phase our 'illness', is invaluable. To hear from people who have walked similar paths and share ideas is fantastic - much better value than an hour with a therapist. My only problem is that I often do not get to the email until after work when everyone has already said it all!! I have found the experience of logging on to read everyone's thoughts so illuminating and am amazed at the talent of the Moodscopers to express their thoughts and ideas so eloquently.

PS 'Illness' - not a word I am comfortable with now I have read all of the blogs over the last few days- I think we all are just more sensitive and thoughtful about life than others. ...... another pebble! PPS We have two Jenny's now - I will be Jen from now on.

Bearofliddlebrain Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 3:02pm

Hi Jenny number two! Jen....You are so right about this community of many people have to struggle each day on their own or see a therapist if they are 'lucky', and we can do it here any time we choose. When you see someone has written about something that concerns you, seeing it from another point of view, helps clarify the situation. And knowing that you are not the only person worried about something helps and it also helps seeing how everyone deals with a situation that is puzzling and unfathomable!! Think I am over-thinking this!! Thank you, Jen! Bear x

LillyPet Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 9:18pm

Hi Jen, I agree with that, about us moodscopers just being more sensitive and thoughtful people. A friend once said to me there's nothing wrong with you, you just feel very deeply. LP

the room above the garage Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 10:10pm

LP how I love that, what a precious friend!'s how I tried to explain anxiety to my son who struggles sorely with it. He feels everything deeper than the average boy and also has ten thoughts for others two. That friend is a keep close one. Xx

jenny Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 10:25am

Hi Frankie, Just ready your post the quote. Will use it to help my daughter who is continuing to struggle with this. Facebook makes this struggle so much harder for her when people only project the best bits of their lives. Thank you

Bearofliddlebrain Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 3:03pm

Such a great should be n the masthead of Facebook!!!!! Hope it helps your daughter!

Frankie Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 7:54pm

Hi Jenny Thank-you - yes, it is brilliant; just wish the author was named and not Anonymous Frankie

jen Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 10:26am

forgot to change my name !!!

Bearofliddlebrain Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 3:33pm

Sorry, who is this???!!!! x

the room above the garage Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 10:12pm

:-D ^^^

Debs Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 11:18am

I agree Jenny Jen! The quote in Frankies post is fab - who knows what's underneath people's shiny exteriors. People always say to me (when I tell them about my depression/anxiety) 'no way, but you're so confident and funny and sorted'! Ha! I have to laugh thinking, if only you could see inside. But what IS inside?! Nothing real. Nothing but a load of old beliefs, thoughts and past-their-sell-by-date self-judgements. Poof! Who needs those. Xxx

Bearofliddlebrain Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 3:04pm

Debs, you obviously have the same innards as me!! Lolilol!!!Bear x

Leah Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 12:10pm

I know you mentioned this as a joke but it did happen to me and I lived to tell the tale. I once walked out of the toilet with my dress tucked into my knickers a hazard when one wears long slowing hippy dresses believe me! Anyway luckily a woman pointed it our before I went out, but instead of being happy she told me and stopped further embarrassment , I started to feel so useless. Luckily I saw the funny side, acted like a big girl, and laugh about it now. So the point is, even if something embarrassing does happen it is not the end of the world.

Someone said to me once that I just say out loud what most people think. I think that is true for most of us here on moodscope. We just express what so many others are feeling. humans are insecure.

Take care. Plus I have so many clothing malfunction in public stories I could write a book!!!
Thanks Bear.

Bearofliddlebrain Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 3:07pm

Ah, the walking-around-with-dress-tucked-into-knickers-ploy! Did it as a child at school on numerous occasions...but thankfully only in primary school when I was about seven...not when I taught in one when I was in my forties!!! Between us, dear Leah, I feel a book coming on!!! Thanking you, Bear x

susan Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 1:31pm

I can't add anything to the comments above. A massive bear hug (((Bear))). How could anyone not love you to bits? Thank you. xx

Bearofliddlebrain Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 3:11pm

No need to say owt, dear Susan. Am feeling the hugs just now and they are being enjoyed and sent back in return...and the sun is back out in Bearworld! x x x

Jennifer Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 1:36pm

Just to confuse things looks like there may be 3 Jennys?!? I'm the one who has written the odd blog as 'Jen'. So will be Jennifer from now on if that's still available? Enjoyed the blog Bear lots to ponder on x

Bearofliddlebrain Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 3:17pm

I'm singing now...Jeniifer, Juniper...Dee, dee, dee, dee, deeeeee! Thank it is a Cat Stevens song!!! How fab to have three of you? I've always loved the name! You'll have to have a Jen/Jennifer/Jenny picnic! With a Bear too I hope x x x

The Gardener Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 2:02pm

It's happened - when talking about using Moodscope I said I was scared about it being manipulative or becoming 'addictive'. I am now writing stuff which does not appertain to the blog of the day because I am addicted to seeing if anybody replies to me. I am also frustrated, all my writing outlets have 'folded' (lack of funds and social media) - so I find myself writing virtual articles! Today's subject rules my life totally - coping with my husband's fear of everything. Concert tomorrow, in superb location, husband wants to go - say, bitterly (shouldn't, but feeling bitter) that he's run away from the last 10 (very much up Bear's street, this). Sedative to get him there, but staying? Bear had an unfortunate experience. I have been 'followed' three times in my life if lonely places (first, as a teenager, up a quiet lane - few cars would go by, lots of hedges, so real danger). I'll never forget the footsteps, as I speeded up, so did they - eventually, as I was obviously fitter, I got to the safety of the farm where my horses were. The route to grammar school was through a tree lined road, again, just after the war, few cars. We always cycled in pairs, it was the flashers' favourite route too. Two, once a minor sexual attack, had a lifelong effect. I DO get anxious - but hide it under a bravado which is credible enough to make people believe I'm a 'toughy'. Once, reading in church, a friend said she saw my knees shaking. 'But you're never scared'. Try me. My father, often mentioned, being bi-polar, brought me up in a tough school. My mum had proved a dead loss socially (marriage busted when I was 15) so he took me everywhere - with no training, etiquette or decent clothes - he mixed, through his business, with the highest. My first grand dinner had dukes, and 'dress will be worn' as in garter and decorations. I suppose, as I did not have a nervous breakdown there and then his training paid off (didn't say no to my Dad anyway). There's no easy answer to the 'anxiety' state. 'I'm as good as they are'. 'They can't eat me'. 'My clothes are all wrong'. Lovely story to finish. Cocktail party on the House of Lords terrace. I was the only woman wearing a hat - a super little bit of froth - and I was just about to consign it to the Thames when the host, Lord X, said 'don't you dare take it off, you're the only woman properly dressed here'. Around here, not great hat wearers, if there is a ceremony, one or two friends (men!) say 'you will wear one of your hats, won't you'. There, I've digressed - but, moral, whatever you've chosen, forget it - just get in there and talk. And skirt tucked in knickers, a hardy perennial.

Bearofliddlebrain Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 4:04pm

Yowzer, TG, where do I start? Firstly, I am glad you still have time to respond to blogs...your days are so full, I'm not sure where you get the time from! Secondly, I am sad to see you have also had unfortunate incidents happen to you. This particular one was extremely frightening for me at the time, as it came out of the blue, in broad daylight in my local city. It is just one factor that gives me 'anxiousness' and sometimes stops me from wanting to go alone, to bigger cities or areas that would probably make most people uncomfortable being in. I too hide beneath a mask of bravado, as the attack took some of my confidence away. I think that if I told some of my friends that I suffer with depression/anxiety they just wouldn't believe it...even some close friends. 'Always smiling' most of them say! I choose not to tell some of them as they actually come to me for help in difficult situations! Bonkers, I know, but if they knew, they probably wouldn't come to me for help, when helping them is something I CAN do! I hope you and Mr TG manage to get to the concert tomorrow, whether it's with sedatives or not but perhaps with a rug and cushions to be comfy and maybe something for him to look at if he starts fidgeting and wants to go home. Bear x

Debs Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 6:16pm

Oh TG, you make me smile, you're so honest and that is an incredible quality ;-) Do you know how often Ive written stuff (blogs, whatsapp messages etc) and then obsessively checked to see who might have replied, what they've said, how I might have come across?! Tee hee. It's a human trait eh? I think psychologists call these interactions 'strokes' - those little touches of human kindness and love that let you know you're ok, decrease the stress in life and increase your self esteem. I know when I'm feeling good in myself I need strokes less but when I'm low or not getting much in the way of human interaction I really need the boost and I search for it wherever I can. Sending strokes and love, Debs xxx

Leah Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 10:25pm

Gardener, wow- moodscope addictive I would agree. I am once again transported to a different time and place by your writing. I have led a sheltered life compared to yours. Keep writing, keep talking keep communicating- I can't wait for next instalment. Hugs from down under.

Bearofliddlebrain Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 3:43pm

There is obviously a band of us ladies-who-inadvertently-tucked-our-skirts-into-our-knickers! We should form a club...ok, you gentlemen can join too but I need evidence!!

Lou Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 4:05pm

Not feeling terribly eloquent today but felt it important to let you know you really aren't alone and send you a big (bear) HUG! x

Bearofliddlebrain Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 4:37pm

Lou, Lou, skip to ma Lou.....just seeing you here is enough! You've made me sing! We are never alone when there are wonderful peeps here on Moodscope.....we just need to remember that when things are getting us keep in touch :) thank you, big Bear hugs back x x x

The Gardener Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 6:01pm

Debs said 'if only you could see inside'. Has not our upbringing been just that? Put a good face on it, keep a stiff upper lip. Boys don't cry. There's a good soldier. Paper over the cracks. Is it a British thing? Families who may be close but never touch after stopping good night kisses about 5 years old? Our family was possibly more demonstrative than the 'average' family, it was only when we moved to France that kissing and hugging became the norm. And how many children, when hurt even in a minor way were told 'stop that bawling' instead of a relaxing hug. There has been a lot of publicity about tragedies which occur because youngsters can't confide in their parents. Our eldest son was threatened with a knife on the train from school by 'bovver' boys because his friend was Indian. We said why did you not call the police - even pull the communication cord. But their code was 'you don't tell'.

Frankie Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 7:53pm

Evening TG; I read your post earlier but couldn't reply as the wifi went down and has only just come back on; your comments never fail to fill me with admiration for your fighting spirit, and wonder at the scenes you paint (today's more disturbing, obviously, but love the House of Lords story). Yes, Moodscope can be addictive - and it is lovely to have replies - nowt wrong with that! And if it is helping with the current situation, that's even better. It is so wonderful that there are always people replying - some regular, some new; all adding to the richness, wisdom and support that Moodscope offers us. Do hope you get to the concert ... Bye for now Frankie

Bearofliddlebrain Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 8:40pm

Dearest TG...I ditto the great Frankie in what she has said. Also wanted to add to your second response, took years for me to remind my other half to hug his father when we arrived or left their home, just as he would his mother. (It was something that had stopped probably when my husband was a lot younger.) There seemed to be a distance between father and son. He started hugging as well as shaking hands with his father and it was so lovely to see the warmth between them each time, until his father died. I would ask everyone to hug their parents as much as they can - for all to soon, they are gone and then it's too late. Bear x

the room above the garage Sat, Oct 10th 2015 @ 10:46pm

Bear...I so loved to read this and for many reasons. One, I love hearing more about everybody, there is much comfort and knowledge to be gained. Two, my son has struggled sorely with anxiety and at times I've sat wondering where, how, what, in the path to helping him. I've researched and learned and taught him techniques, held him crying before school or events, listened to him emptying his tummy in panic, been firm, been gentle, everything. He has been incredibly interested at beating it which has been a huge step forward. I told him I get these 'worries' too but not the full extent of just how much I understand. For I have now built a life around precision managing my anxiety. I find it astonishing to look and wonder where my confidence went to...beating it is in a queue as I'm dealing with one hurdle at a time. But for now, he has built himself into such a strong position that each day lately has been a celebration of achievement and I cannot describe how it makes me feel. Three, self acceptance (I believe) is key to winning over so many things we struggle with and for you to write up your story, and show us your naked soul (ooh la-la), helps me so, so much. You made the train, you made the meet, you made friends! Your journey home must have felt light and happy and sweet!! Thank you much xxx.

Eva Sun, Oct 11th 2015 @ 8:21am

Hi Ratg have you checked out the Highly Sensitive Person, by Elaine Aron it may help with your son, and infact for many of us suffering from anxiety, I have found it useful in remembering to give myself a break and giving myself enough quite recharge time, and looking after myself physically.

Bearofliddlebrain Sun, Oct 11th 2015 @ 10:26am

Dearest RATG, thank you :) I think we have to be braver and write about these things that make up our own depressin and anxiety, to show others that we can all suffer, and these things can catch us out at unexpected times.
Maybe if I hadn't been attacked, I might not have been so worried about going to unfamiliar places, who knows? On the other hand, I am a bit of a country bumpkin having been brought up in the middle of nowhere, and we didn't 'do' many big cities normally!!!
I absolutely 'feel' so much for your son and for you having to watch him going through the anxiety...I often think I would rather go through the cr*p in life myself, than see my daughter go through any of it! But then that's not what life is about. She had mornings when she just didn't want to go to school for fear of bullying especially by a particular teacher whose daughter was in her class. I had to go in and stamp my liddle bear paws to stop it. I didn't want her education suffering or her mental health and self esteem. Thinking if you and your family...Bear x

Norman Sun, Oct 11th 2015 @ 10:59am

Oh Bear I could hug you! You felt the fear and did it anyway!

Can I make a suggestion? Over the years I have made many presentations and speeches, and for some reason the more I deliver successfully, the more I am convinced that one will eventually go wrong and I will be completely humiliated. A few years ago I was sitting thinking "in ten minutes I have to stand up and face this audience." Then I thought "in half-an-hour I will be sitting down to warm applause." I have used this technique ever since.

So, remember that warm feeling you had afterwards? On the train or once you got back home? Hold that thought! Next time don't think about the train there, or the meeting, but the feeling you will have afterwards. That is your reward for getting out and doing it.

(Bear) hugs x

Frankie Sun, Oct 11th 2015 @ 11:00am

What a wonderful suggestion Norman - thank-you! I shall definitely use this!!! Frankie

the room above the garage Mon, Oct 12th 2015 @ 11:44am

Norman, genius!

Bearofliddlebrain Mon, Oct 12th 2015 @ 9:31pm

Norman...that's just fabulous! Thank you so ve ve much. Really appreciate your responding and what a great thought to keep with me. I love it that no matter what bothers us...when we 'put it out here' so many moodscopers can respond and do in such thoughtful ways. I'm very grateful. Big Bear hugs back x

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