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After you stumble... Tuesday February 7, 2017

"When you stumble, make it part of the dance." Author unknown.

A few years ago, I was encouraged by friends to enter a Poetry Slam competition. I enjoy public speaking and writing poetry but had never entered a poetry slam. On the night, I discovered that the other contestants all had poetry books published and were experienced at poetry slam competitions. I wanted to run away or hide but had my partner and friends in the audience. I managed to last a few rounds, but as people commented, my performance had nothing to do with poetry! I stumbled in front of friends and strangers and totally ignored it was a poetry competition. I still laugh about it and cringe a bit.

We are humans so we will make errors. Maybe we can learn to accept them as part of our dance.

Don't waste your time and effort trying to hide or cover up your stumbles or your missteps, your hesitation, just laugh if you can and keep moving.

Do you worry that you may be imperfect so this stops you from doing the things you would like to do? Instead, decide to do them, as best as you can even if it is not as perfect as you would envisage. Is it because we focus on being the best dancer, the best writer, the best artists, the best swimmer instead of enjoying the process and laugh at our stumbles that we avoid starting a new challenge.

If you are reluctant to start a dance, a new job, a new hobby, a new idea, a physical or mental challenge because you are afraid you will stumble, why not have a go and be patient with yourself.

If we all make our stumbles part of the dance they will be the dance and we learn to value all our efforts.

What do you do when you stumble? Do you make it part of your dance or do you cope in other ways?

Do you avoid trying new challenges in case you stumble?

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Jane Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 5:44am

Hi Leah, when I stumble I overthink and over analyse what I've done, effectively getting a 'big stick' and beating myself up with it! The only thing this achieves is to make the original stumble worse! I have to work on remembering to be kind to myself.

Orangeblossom Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 8:07am

Hi Jane I think that being kind to ourselves is a process. I have similar tendency & found Leah's blog.very helpful in helping me think about things in a new way. Continuing to think of you at this difficult time for you. Orangeblossom.

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 9:59am

Jane As you know I too overthink everything and do beat myself over doing silly things. I now know I do the silliest things in public. I can laugh at them and use them in a blog! I think learning to laugh at oneself is easier for me than being kind to myself. Thanks for your comment.

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 10:00am

Orangeblossom, Thanks for your kind words.I agree being kind to onset for is a processespecillay for me it is along process!

Jane Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 9:11pm

Orangeblossom thank you so much for remembering me and fir your kind words. Didn't do so well today as lost my temper with my director of all people! Major stumble today- although he was accepting and cool with it. He understands.

Jane Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 9:13pm

Thanks Leah, I do eventually laugh at myself!

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 9:20pm

Jane Do you find it helps to laugh at yourself. Sometimes it does for me and other times I need to make an effort to see the funny side. As I said now any mishaps I see as prompts for a blog! I also know you have been going through a difficult time so laughing may not always be appropriate.

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 9:21pm

Jane It is good to have people who understand why/when we stumble.

Jane Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 10:24pm

Hi Leah, I find most of the time it does help to laugh at myself but you are right it is not always possible. Yes it's very good to have some people who understand, it's about trust and I'm learning who to trust and how to trust. I think it's fantastic how you turn 'mishaps' into great blogs Leah. And I love writing poetry so I googled poetry slams!

Leah Wed, Feb 8th 2017 @ 12:09am

Jane, thanks for your kind words. Trust is another issue- I give it freely but if someone misuses my trust I never trust them again. Maybe that is harsh and I may one day work on it. I think if I had googled poetry slams I would never have tried it. I did learn while I like writing poetry I need time and the right mood. Now if they ever have a blog slam....!!!!

LP Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 6:34am

Hi Leah,

I am very careful, as if to stumble would be unacceptable. If I have, I've explained, cringed and dwelled taking myself far too seriously. Having said that, if it's funny I can laugh about it!

I avoid public speaking or performing in any way, having been made to do stage performances as a child who was naturally shy. Everyone, it seemed were very harsh judges, critical and sneering.The panic about making a mistake or forgetting in front of an audience has prevented me from "going there" .

I'm at ease with it though. I've accepted that it's just not my thing, so why put myself through it?
Since stumbling is such an important part of learning, perhaps I have generally held back from trying new things, something to ponder! Maybe next time I get a chance I'll give somethingnew a go! It wont be ice skating though, I really dont like the slippery sensation and constant feeling that I'm about to fall. Why would I? :))
Thanks for an inspiring blog Leah, here's to trying something new!
Warm wishes to all! LPxx

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 10:03am

LP Thanks for your thoughtful comment. Not every likes performing in public . Maybe you like sports- I am hopeless at sports and was never picked for a team! I suppose I have a go at may things and am not that skilled at any but I try hoping to find that one thing I can do well- still looking!!

LP Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 10:53pm

Well you're great at coming up with ideas for blogs that get us thinking for starters! Where your passion is maybe a good place to start. X

Leah Wed, Feb 8th 2017 @ 12:12am

LP thanks for your encouraging words. I have so many passions. It is why my shop sells a large variety of items and does not only concentrate on books!! May my passion is to be passionate about many things!! Analyse that.!!

Lex Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 6:57am

What an awesome blog, Leah. It's a real, "Have a go!" message that we all need to be reminded of from time to time. Thank you! I shall be doing a victory-dance over perfectionism, in your honour, today!

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 10:05am

Lex Well Lex if you stumble in your victory dance keep going and I will be cheering. Thanks for your kind words'

Lex Wed, Feb 8th 2017 @ 11:27am

I danced, I stumbled, I danced on... x

Leah Wed, Feb 8th 2017 @ 9:35pm

Lex I can see you dancing on with the positivity you show in your blogs.

Eva Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 7:14am

I like trying new things, I want to try ALL the art and craft techniques but I do have some fears that hold me back from some. One is going out on my own after its dark, an other is driving and another is big trips on my own.

I don't drive, I can drive but I get so anxious about it that I'd rather not, I do not trust the other drivers on the road (I've been in a few crashes as a passenger and also been crashed into while stationery with the keys still in my bag, the other driver then accused me of reversing into him!) so just hate driving when anyone else is around (which is really easy in a major city) . I have had a number of years leading up to my fatigue and breakdown where I haven't trusted myself, I think partially due to tiredness (insomnia) pmt and hormone imbalance I'd do silly absent minded things that were sometimes quite dangerous and that worried me so that I didn't feel safe getting behind the wheel, or riding a bike) on top of the other existing anxiety. This does mean that I am limited if I saw a course that's out of town I'd probably not do it because I can't get to it easily. I suppose I am saying that driving feels as though it has been a huge stumbling block in my life. And not one that I laugh about as it holds me back a bit.

The night thing is easier, I can usually manage to organise to go out with friends if my husband isn't around but there are occasions where I feel trapped inside by the dark. I am pushing myself to go out more in the early evening. I feel stupid about this it does affect my self worth.

And big trips, I have friends and family who regularly hop on a plane or train and jet off to another country or city for work, I've never done it on my own. Partially circumstances but also fear, I guess of the unknown. But I'm going to do this in 2 weeks, I'm tired of feeling limited by this and in awe of the people who do it day in day out. So I've booked train tickets! I'm aware that once I have done this the only person I'll be able to speak about my achievement in person is my husband as I would be ashamed to admit to the fear to my friends, but you guys will know too.

Wow thanks for the blog Leah, some of that is uncomfortable, I don't know if I'll ever drive, but at least I'm working on the other two.

Hopeful One Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 8:21am

Hi Eva- Its such a shame you have this generalised anxiety hampering your life in so many ways.Its worth reminding ourselves that anxiety is a reaction to some loss in the future and avoidance the hall mark of it. What is this loss for you? Try and write it down. I would like to help you by suggesting that you rank your anxieties with the the worst at the top and the least at the bottom. Start with the item at the bottom of your list that makes you least anxious.Face it and do whatever feels comfortable for you to do to overcome it. Congratulate yourself on your achievement no matter how small... give yourself a small reward." ...the only person I'll be able to speak about my achievement in person is my husband" The person who needs to see this achievement is ... you guessed it... YOU.Then move to the next item in your list and do the same.Come back and tell us how you got on.

Sally Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 9:07am

I might add to this: break down into tiny steps. Driving was a big thing for me ( and part of a generalised anxiety disorder) but I overcame it. Start small. Drive up the road and back . Round the block. To the nearest shop. Always reward yourself. Do this on days which feel good for you. Build up gradually. With every tiny step achieved, tell yourself "I can" rather than "I can't. Get a piece of A4 paper. Write in large letters filling the whole paper: I can't . With some large scissors, cut across the 't part of can't ! You see: you can! Good luck, Eva! Tiny steps are the way forward! Smiley face. And bags of encouragement. By the way,would you trust in counselling enough to give that a go? It was a lifesaver for me! Virtual hugs, Eva.

Bearofliddlebrain Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 10:07am

Hi Eva- I'm not ve ve good at going on trips on my own, but I have done it and felt so proud (and exhausitcated!) afterwards!! Well done on booking the train ticket - hope its an interesting ride, with a treat onboard. Maybe you can dress up for the trip, even if it's just a favourite blouse/skirt or jewellery- something else to make it special. And plan something lishus to do when you get to wherever your train takes you...or just come straight back! Take pics on your phone if you can, keep your train ticket and write on the back of it that it was your first On you Own trip!! Then you will have reminders and a great experience to tell us about it when you've been....please, cheesy peas! Hugs Bear xxxx

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 10:08am

Eva Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us. I have never had a drivers license but I gave it a go before I decided I would be a danger on the roads.

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 10:10am

Hopeful One, Thanks for your advice to Eva.' As I said to Eva I have never had a driver's license but not out of fear but lack of being skilled. Never worried me too much. I have adapted.

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 10:12am

Sally, Thanks for your helpful words to Eva. Alas that advice would not help me with my driving. I decided ten years ago to put my effort into other things. Alas a stumble in driving could result in a serious accident.

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 10:13am

Bear I like your advice to Eva about going on trips alone. Thanks for being so helpful,

Eva Wed, Feb 8th 2017 @ 8:42am

Hi guys, thank you so much for your advice and concern. HO, don't worry too much, I live in a big city so I am actually extremely fortunate to have easy access to many opportunities simply by walking or getting the bus. I would say that I am not living a life ruled by anxiety, it now features very little in my life. In fact living here with access to so much so easily has meant that I haven't had to drive to most of what I want which is great, but not an encouragement to get on and push through and get over that particular anxiety. It is something that I feel I should do just in case, and my family seem to think it absolutely necessary, but it's not something I have a driving passion for. (ha ha) once I am fully well again I might take a few refresher lessons and make a start in small stages as Sally suggests. But for now I feel as Leah does that I am a danger so I'm not going to push myself until I feel really ready. HO I like your idea of writing my anxieties down, I'm going to try that. I was walking home in the dark last night, the fifth time I have done this route at this time, and I felt more comfortable, so I guess practice makes perfect :) Bear, great to see you. I'm off to London to go to a couple of exhibitions, now that I have the tickets I'm looking forward to it, and I'll take the intercity travel step by step.

Leah Wed, Feb 8th 2017 @ 8:56am

Eva What a conversation your first post started. Thanks for explaining how you are copying. I have tried writing down things I worry about but then I think of more things than I thought I was concerned about. Maybe I should try with a limit! You are so fortunate to live near London- I have been lucky to visit it twice in my life and loved it being a colonial lass!!

Eva Wed, Feb 8th 2017 @ 10:24am

Hi Leah, I am very fortunate, I also live in a beautiful vibrant city. Sally I meant to add, I am in counselling currently, so I'll bring these aspects up, good reminder that these make up part of my psyche. Thanks again :)

Leah Wed, Feb 8th 2017 @ 9:37pm

Eva I like the sound of your beautiful vibrant city. I have never had much luck with counselling so am always interested in people that find it helpful.

Mary Wednesday Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 7:20am

Dear Leah,

All dances must be perfect;
I am not allowed to fall.
Stumbles are embarrassing:
I'd rather not dance at all.

I hate the learning process
Unless it is fun all the way.
And I think I will be laughed at
So, on balance, at home I'll stay!

I can always write about dancing;
In my words I'm Margot Fonteyn.
In stories I pirouette and spin;
I'm queen of the dance and I reign!

Sorry - couldn't resist putting my comment in rhyme (I won't call it poetry). Actually, I'm really only interested in trying new things for putting into stories. But then, anything is good copy; you know that from my blogs. One day, I *will* write a blog on the subject of the inside of a ping pong ball!
Your point is a good one, however, and the ability to laugh at ourselves when we stumble, golden. For me, the problem lies when I have absolutely no talent whatsoever at an activity, no matter how long I practise (most sports fall into this category for me) but play regularly with people who are good and who become impatient with me. I'd rather be alone anyway, so just let me dance alone to my own music. If I stumble there's no one to see.

Jane Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 7:30am

I love the poem Mary!

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 10:16am

Mary Where were you whenI need you at my poetry slam!!! I think when I mess up- how can I use this in a bog and then I laugh!! I gave up team sports whenI was never picked for teams!! I gave them a go but anything involving hand eye coordination, speed, agility and ball skill are not in my skill range!!

Mary S Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 7:36am

Hi Leah,
That must have taken AMAZING willpower!
Even if the other poets didn't admire your poetry I bet they would kill to get your courage.
No-one feels as confident as they look when performing, and I bet most of them wouldnt be able to get up and have a go in a situation like that where they felt suddenly out of their depth.

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 10:18am

Mary S I am amazed I had the bravery or was silly enough to go in the contest. Several people came up and said to me that I would be better as a stand up comedian!! Thanks for your reply.

Hopeful One Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 8:00am

Hi Leah- an inspiring blog reminding us to see our stumbles/failures as steps to success.You ask "What do you do when you stumble? Do you make it part of your dance or do you cope in other ways?" I try and avoid saying "I can't". AS soon as we say aloud or in our head we never will!

Today's LCBT ( in your case + chocolate).

A man boarded a plane with six kids. After he got them settled in their seats a woman sitting across the aisle asks him” Are those kids yours?” He replies " No. I work for a condom company. These are the complaints”

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 10:19am

Hopeful, I cant help but laugh at your comments and jokes!

Hopeful One Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 12:38pm

Hi Leah-Mission accomplished.

Orangeblossom Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 8:11am

Thanks for the blog Leah. I also tend to over-think when I make mistakes & work myself into a frenzy. Not constructive or helpful. It creates a block to moving on!

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 10:21am

Orangeblossom Have you tried to laugh at your mistakes ? Thanks for your comment.

Sally Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 9:25am

Hi Leah!
You were extremely brave, baring your soul like that!

I still cringe at my flop of a performance at a piano recital ...I froze! The feeling was dreadful. The audience were sympathetic , I beat myself up for months about it. It taught me to know my limitations, and not to be persuaded by others to do what is too much. Confidence is built up by success. Under pressure, it goes, or can do, for some personality types. I wasn't ready then for publicly submitting myself to displaying my fledgling piano playing skills, having learnt as an adult...simple as that. But it set me back years...

Today, I feel I know that it's ok to say no to people who try to persuade you it'll be ok... let me be the master of my own ship. I'll steer it in the way and at the speed I feel comfortable with, thank you.

Leah, you do ask some tricky ones, don't you! ( and i am grateful you do!!) I am going to take time to think about this some more today....smiley face. Thanks for your interesting blog.

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 10:29am

Sally Thanks for sharing about the piano recital. I see you as being brave and having a go. It is good to say no if you don't feel cmfortable but sometimes I need a nudge to get out of my comfort zone.

Susannah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 9:28am

Great blog, Leah. And well done on giving the poetry slam a go. Never regret what you do, only what you didn't try to do.

Your blog actually brought to mind one of my favourite rants: speaking foreign languages.

There are friends who think that I'm some amazing linguist - they don't realise that all I do is 'have a go'. I say things in 'foreign' (French/Spanish/Italian/Japanese...) and the person I'm attempting to communicate with tends to understand what I'm trying to say.

There are so many people who wont try "in case I say something wrong". The 'wrong' thing is to fail to communicate.

Nobody thinks I'm a native speaker (other than English) - they invariably appreciate that I'm and trying and they make an effort to interpret my assasination of their language. If I say something REALLY wrong, they stifle a giggle, till I insist they tell me what I actually said.

My 'best' mistake was, on giving a Spanish friend a macrobiotic Xmas cake, I proudle announced
"It doesn't contain additives or condoms"
- which was true, as they would make the cake too chewy.
Those with linguistic skils will have realised that I said "preservativos" rather than "conservantes". I never forgot those 2 words!

Always try - doors will open. You will learn from it.
No attempt leaves the door firmly shut.

As Hopeful One and Sally say to Eva above, try a little bit. In time, you will become comfortable with a little, and you will gradually become more confident to try a little more.

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 10:33am

Susan nah Your fruit cake story made me smile. I agree with languages I try and sometimes people can't understand my accent but I try. I think I can try and if it doesn't work out they have learnt something. We all can't be good at everything.

Michael Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 9:45am

Leah, a few things occur to me. I have a theory that lurking behind some anxiety states or phobias is a dread of appearing stupid in front of other people. For instance some people have a phobia of public places like supermarkets. When I have explored this further the underlying reason is often a fear of fainting. Having fainted the individual is then worried that everyone would be laughing at them. Of course in reality most likely people would rush to their aid and console them.
I am intrigued that you like public speaking as this is top of the list when it comes to phobias. So that must say something about you?
Carlos Castaneda's teacher Don Juan (yes this is probably fictitious, but I find the principle interesting) advised Carlos to deliberately do things in public, that appeared foolish, such as stumbling, fumbling etc The idea being that he would then immunise him against feeling self conscious.

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 10:37am

Michael Thanks for your reply. I don't have a phobia about appearing in public, I love giving speeches and talking to groups I just did not think to wrote poems for a poetry slam!! By the way I sell Carlos Castenda's books in my shop and read them in my hippy days.

Michael Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 4:46pm

Leah, I probably did not put it across very well. I meant to infer that you must be made of tough stuff as public speaking is considered one of the most challenging things

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 8:48pm

Thanks Michael for clarifying that. I get easily confused and can now see what you were saying. The things i can speak in public but I cant drive a car-explain that! I feel my lack of coordination result in not driving.

silvia Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 9:55am

thank you Leah, how timely your blog! I am literally trying to learn to dance in this period, and I'm experiencing the frustration of not being able to dance as well as the others, which makes me want to quit and give it up, but you're right, I should only enjoy the process and forget perfection or even ability. This also apply on my professional life, as I am considering changing job altogether and of course I am scared to fail in the new job and find myself jobless. Thank you again for reminding me to make the misstep (literal or methaforic) part of the dance.

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 10:39am

Silvia. Please comtinue with your dance classes laugh and make your stumbles part of the dance. I admire your confidence, Thanks for taking time to reply,

Bearofliddlebrain Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 9:58am

As the wonderful Brene Brown says and I think called a book - we should all Dare Greatly!! (Or something like that.)
And I agree..if we dare greatly, even starting with the smallest of things (Eva) who knows what else we might discover on that road? And why should anyone else laugh, snigger or sneer at those who try?
At least they have tried. If there's an Open Mic session and someone finds the courage to try, they should be encouraged - especially if the jokes as are funny as HO's!!! :)
I've sung at many Eisteddfods whilst growing up in Welsh Wales - but often the nerves would get to me and my leg would shake and my voice would falter, but I tried! Other times I would get so nervous I would wake on the big day and have a sore throat and no voice at all the practices went to waste :( but again, at least I tried!!
We can all have something to say and about the latest X Factor or Strictly Come Dancing competitor but would we be braver enough to actually give it a go ourselves?

Brilliogs blog Leah...makes us question why we stop ourselves from doing uncomfy things for ourselves!
There is nothing to fear, but fear itself is another good saying I have to tell myself when I'm worried or scared to take a step forward.
Bear hugs xx

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 10:41am

Thanks Bear, I am seeing you in a sweet blouse and skirt singing and look angelic with your leg shaking.! Thanks for your kind words.

Jul Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 9:59am

Hello Leah. I keep singing Macey Gray's song "I Try" with the lyrics "I try to say goodbye and I choke. I try to walk away and I stumble" It's got absolutely nothing to do with you blog though. More about saying goodbye to a boyfriend.
I could never do public speaking..not in a million years. I am just not cut out for it and I know it would be a waste of everyones' time. My husband and children are good at it and tell me you have to get used to it, that's it's not easy at first. I admire all three of them and you Leah for enjoying it. I know my limitations and my life is restricted by them to a certain extent. I have felt very humiliated in the past though when I took more risks. Once I went to a work social event which turned out to be all male. I will never forget the hostile stares I received from normally nice male work colleagues. I left immediately even though I had every right to be there. I felt terrible, was made to feel terrible rather. It took ages to recover from that and I had to face my male colleagues and female ones on the Monday. I've always done unconventional things and suffered as a result. Now, I am still unconventional but in a safer environment where it doesn't matter so much. Julxx

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 10:45am

Jul I think you show great confidence in sharing your exp[eriences here and showing us your vulnerable side. I think I knowing your limitations is a good thing too and you have had a go at many things in your life. I am sorry you have suffered for being unconventional in the past. I suppose I have always been different and quite like that but have also been isolated too. Thanks for your detailed comments. Xx

Jane Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 9:19pm

Jul, I feel quite indignant about what happened to you at the work social. Always walk tall! Live Jane x

Jane Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 9:20pm

Love Jane! Not live Jane! Sounds like a nickname

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 9:25pm

Live Jane Sounds very positive! When I do voice text for Love Leah it comes out as Lovlier!!!

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 9:27pm

Jul and Jane I am assuming and hoping that the all male event was a long time ago. You were so confident and had very right to go. I admire you for that Jul.x

DAVE Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 10:31am

When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man I put away childish things.

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 10:46am

When I was a woman I still behaved as a child!

DAVE Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 10:40am

But now as a Grandad, I've brought out all my childish ways and in so doing I understand my a grandchildren.

Your blog as usual Leah is so positive...We are all too serious about ourselves in life, but what can we expect from grown up Children.
Laugh at ourselves and the world laughs with us, cry and we're all alone !

Who really cares if we are scorned, laughed, or made to feel insignificant.

No one is that perfect !

Those who fail in life, never get over the first hurdle...Those who are successful NEVER EVER give up.....They keep trying....

Do it again Leah and laugh at those who scorn..

Dave X

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 10:49am

Dave Don't mention hurdles. When I was I first year high school I decided to try hurdles and I knocked over every hurdle. I did this so many times that the PE teacher told me to give upa she thought my mother would be upset by all my bruises and bloody knees!! I think it is ok to give up once you have given Ita good hatred go!! Thanks for your comment interesting as usual.

DAVE Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 11:43am

Well Leah, we can't all be perfect and therefore we can, sometimes become curdlers, yes, I mean Curdlers !

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 8:51pm

Dave I like the word curdlers is it a cross between a hurdler and a cuddler?? Also I was given an iPad for my birthday last month and have problems with the touch screen at times. I can try to send the comment a few times and it doesn't send then on other times I touch it once and it sends twice!! I long for the mouse!! So good luck with yours, Can you work the touch screen?

DAVE Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 11:54am

But I can see that with your positive ways, you're a trier and that is all we can ask of ourselves, in so doing, success comes to those who maintain effort, as we only fail, if We never try, or give up too soon.
Enjoy this beautiful blue sky here in Ringwood. I hope your weather is good where you are.
Enjoy your day Leah X

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 8:54pm

Dave It is funny I never see myself as positive more as a whinging realist!!(now there is a new blog) I have not had much success through trying as I give up when I realise realistically I will never shone at sports or art or singing etc. I also feel if you have fun at something does it matter if you are not successful.?

Lacey Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 12:27pm

Hi Leah
I've stumbled lots of times; in fact all of my life! Being a bull,Taurus,it comes with the territory. I was a clumsy child and now I'm a clumsy adult so its second nature and I've learned to live with it ;-)
I don't mind;only this morning I dropped a jar and it landed on a cereal bowl and broke it.
So,in answer to your questions,I accept that when I do something I may stumble a little and it is a dance as I am a dancer...a tiny dancer....dancing helps my deportment and generally allows my body to stand straight and tall (I'm 5'3"!)
And that makes me less prone to clumsiness but nothing,even this,stops me from trying something different and challenging.
If I stumble I dance-and thats not a bad thing.
Let's dance sang David Bowie so let's just do that and dance like no one is watching
Ta ta for now x

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 8:57pm

Lacey Thanks for your honest comments. I too am clumsy and even clumsier as an adult. I drop so many things that I only drink out of plastic. I have a vision of you dancing and it makes me smile.x

Vickie Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 12:35pm

Hi Leah,
Thanks for an uplifting blog. I've been challenging myself to try new things and so I signed up for a dance class. I stumble all the time but I have so much fun with the ladies at the class that I really don't care. After years of practicing perfectionism (only doing those things that I could master)there is finally something I love doing that I'm not so great at. I think it's because of the group support and the teacher telling me that I'm better at improv dancing when I miss some steps in the choreography:) I need this attitude to spread into more areas of my life:)

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 9:01pm

Vickie Thanks for your comment. I admire your attitude to your dance class and I am sure you are a great improv dancer. I like that you don't care and have fun- who could ask for more?

the room above the garage Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 1:58pm

I never stumble.
Because I hide and I act. I act and I hide. Not good. And it's the opposite of how I raise my kids! Thank you Leah, love ratg x.

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 9:04pm

Ratg Thanks ratg for sharing that insight. I can see through your blogs that you do challenge yourself at times or that's how it appears to me. it is good you are raising your children differently. I think at times I have hid and acted as well. That is a very human thing to do, I am thinking of you x

The Gardener Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 2:30pm

Hi Leah - I have a very undeserved reputation for courage. It's because I have always leaped before looking - and, unless actually hurt, my nearest and dearest have learned to let me sort my own messes out. What I do is brood over bad decisions - especially (I'm mean - and, short of money) over unexpected payments. Mr G is in respite, but he has knee trouble, and the Doc there says he must have an X-ray, clinic 25 kms away. They said could I take him? Have a most important appointment same time as his. The taxi will cost me 120 euros. I realised that, in his state, I could not physically manage to get him in and out of cars, down corridors etc as, currently, he won't walk for me. So, it's academic, but I am still brooding about the 120 euros. A bad error of judgement will keep me brooding to the exclusion of all else. I still drive, and at night, but not in UK if I can help it. I remember, with horror, two errors of judgement driving when I could have caused an accident - etched on my subconscious. I know three people who have been involved in fatal accidents which had nothing to do with their driving - but the horror stopped them driving for life. My dancing 'hurdle' was flamenco, which I adore. Never got past three movements of the Sevillanas, while rest of class were at exhibition standard. I flick a good skirt, but castanets beyond me.

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 9:09pm

Gardener I can see you leaping before looking in one of your splendid dresses. I can also imagine you doing the flamenco in a colourful exotic dress. I assume Sevillanas is a dance and again it sounds exotic and involves skirt flicking. I love the way dancers use the castanets. I sell a children's version in my shop. Thanks again for your insights and anecdotes.

The Gardener Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 2:33pm

Jul, when you do unconventional things and they come off you're a star!

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 9:09pm

TG I agree and Jul is a star.

Michael Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 5:01pm

Does anyone remember the scene, in one of the Inspector Clouseau films, where he sits down on a sofa, leans back whilst in conversation and as there is no back to the sofa, rolls backwards off the sofa and lands in an undignified heap. He immediately jumps up and says "everything I do is carefully planned".

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 9:11pm

Yes, it always makes me laugh. Peter Sellers had great timing and was superb at physical comedy. Maybe the secret to a good stumble is to have someone write a good tag line at the time for you!!

Freya Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 6:48pm

Hi Leah, what a very interesting blog. I have very poor co-ordination, so am not very good at lots of things. But I think that's a plus. It means I can go and have a go without any great expectation. I go to the time trials at canoe club and I'm always last, but at least I turn up and join in so I think I am way ahead of those that don't bother. All to do with perspective, I guess! xx

Leah Tue, Feb 7th 2017 @ 9:16pm

Freya Thanks for replying. I too have a poor coordination as I have written in previous posts. I like your attitude of being ahead of those that don't try. Keep up with those canoe time trials. I am proud of you. I think I have been last or made such a fool of myself so many times , I sort of accept that's me. I will try to remember that I am always ahead of those who don't bother. Thanks for thatxx

Leah Wed, Feb 8th 2017 @ 9:40pm

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