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A More Abundant Life; part 4 of 7. Monday May 19, 2014

Not many people would own up to 'Excretion' being their favourite of the seven signs of life! I'm sure Freud would have something to say to me. I, however, think it is the most important part of my message. (And as a quick reminder the seven signs are: movement, nutrition, reproduction, excretion, growth, respiration, and sensitivity. ALL 7 have to be present and developed for someone to be enjoying a life to the full.)


Why do I think this is the most important part of the message? Simply because it reveals the greatest lie sold to humankind: that life is meant to be perfect and free from hardships. This well-marketed delusion is responsible for more unhappiness that anyone can imagine. If we believe life is supposed to be wonderful, every disappointment damages that unsustainable belief.

Nature is not perfect. In fact, there's not a ton of happiness in Nature. Nature is red in tooth and claw. And if you've stopped reading thinking this is a real downer today, read on because what I've got for you is really happiness producing good news!

Why is this good news? Well, only a belief that is true can serve us and lead to contentment. And this is the truth: life is difficult. It always has been. It always will be. The post-war euphoria led to an expectation that society would always be improving – financially, socially, politically. Whole societies developed a sense of dependency and entitlement that doesn't match up to reality. Once we understand that 'excretion' – 'waste' – is a vital part of life, we can stop fighting it as if it is morally wrong, and we can start getting rid of it or recycling it! To put it indelicately but accurately, "Sh** Happens!"

Knowing that everyone faces waste, setbacks and disappointments frees us up from thinking we've done something wrong or that there is something wrong with the World. The art of living life to the full is learning how to deal with this seemingly unnecessary 'waste'. In a phrase, we need to learn from it and earn from it. Every setback needs to be purposefully used as the fertiliser for new growth.

Simple to say, very challenging to do, which is why I think this is a vital focus for becoming mature.

Helen Keller put it far more eloquently, "A happy life consists not in the absence, but in the mastery of hardships." Let us bend whatever happens to us to our advantage – and make it serve our purpose.

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Mary Blackhurst Hill Mon, May 19th 2014 @ 9:24am

Utterly brilliant post today Lex! There will be good times; there will be bad times: life is like that. Thank you for the reminder that it is how we react to adversity that determines our happiness, not the lack of adversity itself.

swimmer Mon, May 19th 2014 @ 10:29am

Spot on. How much l need to take that on board. Thankyou.

jules Mon, May 19th 2014 @ 10:55am

Brilliant. Just what I needed to hear! Thanks Lex

DawnC.Ritchie Mon, May 19th 2014 @ 12:31pm

I think Lex is unavailable for comment at the moment, but I'm sure he will post back to you when he is free.

Lex McKee Mon, May 19th 2014 @ 4:06pm

Dear Dawn is right... I've just got back from Chicago - and I have to say, "My Kind of Town, Chicago is..." But stuff happened that wasn't so nice and learning that we need to see all unpleasantness as potential manure for new growth really helped me this week.

Fab Museums there - and a good reminder that one organism's waste is another organism's opportunity. The air that we breath began as a waste product from some rather wonderful bacteria!

Thanks Dawn for being supportive - consistently.

Lex McKee Mon, May 19th 2014 @ 4:07pm

Hi Mary... yes, that really gives us back a sense of some control at least, doesn't it? Thanks for your ongoing encouragement!

Lex McKee Mon, May 19th 2014 @ 4:09pm

Dear Swimmer... I am SO glad to hear that.

Lex McKee Mon, May 19th 2014 @ 4:10pm

Thanks Jules, remind me to share with you about the birthday pony one day... I think you'll laugh!

Anonymous Mon, May 19th 2014 @ 8:28pm

Very well written - and useful; thank-you Lex; as you so eloquently put it; stuff happens; my father used to say "what do you expect; this is life!" Frankie

Vanessa Mon, May 19th 2014 @ 9:19pm

Thanks Lex, I've had a crap day and you made me smile! Love Vanessa x

Lex McKee Mon, May 19th 2014 @ 9:45pm

Definitely time for the pony story then, Vanessa...

Lex McKee Mon, May 19th 2014 @ 9:46pm

A wise Father, Frankie, a wise Father ;0)

Vanessa Mon, May 19th 2014 @ 10:10pm

Go on then! You can't just leave it like that ... !!

Lex McKee Mon, May 19th 2014 @ 11:40pm

Once upon a time, there was a young lad who wanted a pony for his birthday. His parents were wealthy enough and they had spare stables… so it seemed a possible dream.
On the morning of his birthday, he was up at dawn and dashed out in his PJs and dressing-gown to the stable that would most logically house his desired pony. Opening the door, all he saw was a huge pile of manure… and I mean ‘huge’.
With a whoop of delight, he grabbed a spade, and whistling happily to himself, he began digging.
His bemused parents found him hours later, still digging in the poo. They’d never seen him so happy. So they asked him, “Son, why are you so happy?”
The lad answered, “With all this manure, there’s just GOT to be a pony in there!”

Hope you like the story and get digging!

Anonymous Mon, May 19th 2014 @ 11:42pm

Swimmer swims again, we need a 'like' button! :-D
Love from the room above the garage.

Lex McKee Mon, May 19th 2014 @ 11:43pm

...oh, and find the pony!

Lex McKee Mon, May 19th 2014 @ 11:44pm

...and I love the whole "room above the garage" image... it sounds so arty! But then I am a romantic!

Anonymous Tue, May 20th 2014 @ 1:55pm

HA SO ! ! ! There's a moral in't story then... ? IT'S BRILL. glad you bothered to type this out - honestly my 1st laugh today, and it's 2 p.m.

Lex McKee Tue, May 20th 2014 @ 5:25pm

Well, I'm delighted then... if I can make one person laugh a day (with me rather than at me!) it's a GOOD day!

Anonymous Tue, May 20th 2014 @ 8:55pm

"Anon of 1.55 p.m." GLAD you are over the 'Chicago horrors ' Lex, and have...well, almost; dug out the
pony hiding therein ? ( Congrats, and hope you can get a good bath and clean up ! ) SURE, I LAUGH WITH YOU...

heather Wed, May 21st 2014 @ 7:57pm

A most entertaining and thought provoking blog and comments, complete with story !
Thanks Lex.

Lex McKee Wed, May 21st 2014 @ 8:14pm

Thank you, Heather and Anon... just goes to show poo can be fun!

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