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A Hopeful Romantic. Friday February 14, 2014

Does "Valentine's Day" have anything to offer those of us who have suffered bad relationships? Or to those of us who are not in a relationship?


People are strange! They often choose strange, disempowering ways to describe themselves. For example, they say, "I am a hopeless romantic!" What an effective way to doom one's relationships to hopelessness!

I describe myself differently. I am a "hopeful romantic"! This is so regardless of whether or not I am in a relationship and whether or not I am in love! Like the Pre-Raphaelites, I focus on hope, on potential, and on beauty. I focus on what I may rather have than on what currently exists. This is how humans often grow, mature and blossom.

In fact, my favourite saying is, "Reality leaves so much to the imagination!" What is the imagination? It is the ability to project an image in the mind's eye. It is the act of creation of an image in the mind. This is wonderful news because, with practice, you can choose what you create - just like an author of fiction.

On Valentine's Day I choose to focus with the eye of my heart on:
what is good and beautiful;
what is edifying and encouraging;
what is kind and thoughtful;
what is loving and what I am passionate about.
On Valentine's Day, I choose to live with passion.

After all, "All You Need Is Love" da da da-da da...because, "Love never fails."

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Anonymous Fri, Feb 14th 2014 @ 6:07am

Loved your message. Having recently come out of (another) failed relationship, this was just the uplift I needed to navigate Valentines day. Thanks! Sarah

Anonymous Fri, Feb 14th 2014 @ 6:24am

I got the idea of a jug of self-love from Christine Inge's website - she says you need to 'fill up your pitcher with self-love before you can pour it out on others ...'

Sooooo - whether you are single or partnered - why not give *yourself* a Valentine's Day full of love - a single red rose or a special present to yourself - ESPECIALLY if you're single.

If you feel this is silly, reflect that the nicer you are to Nr.1, the more attractive you will actually *be* to others ... and in the process, you'll enjoy a loving St.Val's.

And thanks for the message Sarah - 'love love love .....'

Moodie x

Anonymous Fri, Feb 14th 2014 @ 6:25am

* sorry meant thanks Lex [and best wishes to Sarah!]

The Entertrainer Fri, Feb 14th 2014 @ 8:02am

Good to hear from you both, Sarah and Moodie... I actually worried about this one because Valentine's Day can be such a s challenge for so many of us. But I believe in what I wrote, and I wholeheartedly embrace the need to love oneself (and forgive oneself when necessary). I am a very loving person and utterly horrible as well - all in the same package - what a great package deal, not! So a lot of love and forgiveness goes a long way, as you say Moodie, to being more attractive to others (and oneself).
...and when I can't find much to love about myself, a few minutes thinking about what is beautiful and lovely (like my Granddaughters) can lift me back to a better level. Love, love, love...
Maybe today, I'll create a new "Love Triangle" - Love others, love life, love myself??? I do know that although I cannot make anyone love me, I can certainly choose to be loving.... hmmm

Mary Blackhurst Hill Fri, Feb 14th 2014 @ 8:44am

Lovely post today, Lex (as always). I am reminded that, even if we are not currently in a romantic relationship, we are often surrounded by love; from our families (I am especially close to my siblings), our friends and (as I pick up one of my cats and am nearly deafened by his purr) even our pets. A big hug to you as you are a great encouragement to me and your kindness is always much appreciated.

Anonymous Fri, Feb 14th 2014 @ 9:08am

What a lovely uplifting message on what can be a tricky day sometimes, very positive, I like it!

Anonymous Fri, Feb 14th 2014 @ 9:54am

I really like Valentine's day because it's my birthday, and people tend to remember it so I get plenty of cards!
In Holland I believe today is celebrated more for love between friends rather than the focus on lovers which I endorse as we all can celebrate love for our friends, whether they are virtual as on here or not.
Happy Valentines Day Everyone.

The Entertrainer Fri, Feb 14th 2014 @ 10:38am

"Thank you," Mary, and again I say, "Thank you!"

The Entertrainer Fri, Feb 14th 2014 @ 10:40am

Happy Birthday to you
Happy Birthday to you
Happy Birthday, Dear Julie
Happy Birthday to You.

May you have the gift of many friendships enriched throughout this year.

DawnCRitchie Fri, Feb 14th 2014 @ 10:58am

A lovely blog Lex (again). I loved reading all the posts and I like to spoil myself occasionally when single, like Moodie said, in fact I may even make myself a handmade Valentine's Day card this evening whilst drinking a little bottle of wine and eating some chocolates. Hmm, and I may even make a little Victoria Sandwich cake.
Gr8 plan! Thanks again Lexi xx
And Happy Birthday Julie :D xx
Love from DawnCRitchie xx

Anonymous Fri, Feb 14th 2014 @ 1:11pm

Love is the message - beautiful comment.Thank you.

The Entertrainer Fri, Feb 14th 2014 @ 7:07pm

Dawnielicious!!!! xx

Anonymous Fri, Feb 14th 2014 @ 7:51pm

Love is the answer
And you know that for sure
Love is a flower
You gotta let it
You gotta let it grow.
(John Lennon)

The Entertrainer Sat, Feb 15th 2014 @ 6:24am

I love metaphors that empower
As when "Love is a flower".
A flower needs light
A flower needs water
A flower needs space
To grow as it ought to.

Anonymous Sat, Feb 15th 2014 @ 10:52am

Thank you for singing Lex and birthday wishes Dawn.
Have a good Saturday.
Best wishes. Julie.

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