12 Aspects of Gratitude

10 Dec 2018
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[To view a video of this post please click here: https://youtu.be/ovq_-Jb68ik]

I'm sitting here, writing this, with a box of 24 Craft Beers from around the World. This is a thoughtful gift from Emily, Matt, and Michael – an Advent Calendar of Beers! Cheers! Hanging off the back of the lounge door is Lady Penelope's Advent Calendar of... Chocolates! Shopping in ASDA, I saw an Advent Calendar of Cheeses! An idea began to form...

Mindset is most definitely affected by focus. We get more of what we pay attention to (in terms of thoughts and thinking), and whatever we think about frames our day. In some senses, we are what we think. In fact, there's even that famous proverb, "As a person thinks in their heart, so they are." (From Proverbs 23:7)

Could thinking about gratitude make us feel grateful today? In case it works, here's a Seasonal Thanking Game, a Christmas Thinking Game, to brighten the patterns that twinkle between your neurons! Do this, and your brain will light up like a Christmas Tree!

The brain is really very good at finishing incomplete patterns – like finishing other people's sentences for them!

The game is a finishing game – and it goes like this. I've called it, "The 12 Aspects of Gratitude," like the song, "The 12 Days of Christmas." Ask your brain to come up with examples of what you're grateful for attached to the quantities 1 to 12. For example, I'm grateful for Penelope – she's my number 1. My 3 sons – my number 3. My 5 grandchildren – and you see the pattern. However, "People," is just one category. I love the four seasons. I'm also in love with the three words, "I love you!"

Before you are tempted to think this is too hard with numbers like 8 or 11 – let me be joyfully honest with you: my intention is for you to just think about some of them! If you could come up with 6 examples of quantities that come easily to you, you'll have lifted your focus and fixed it upon that which makes you happy... and I want you to be happy.

This is most definitely a game that becomes better in the sharing... so please pop your joyous answers to any of the numbers in the comments!

Lex

A Moodscope member

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David Gosling

Dec. 10, 2018, 3:47 a.m.

Good Morning Lex to early for playing games will try harder later!!!

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Lex

Dec. 10, 2018, 8:01 a.m.

What's the one thing, David, you are grateful for today?

David Gosling

Dec. 10, 2018, 8:01 p.m.

Simply being alive. thank you for asking Lex.

Susie

Dec. 10, 2018, 5:14 a.m.

Thank you! This task is the balm for my senses I needed this morning.

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Lex

Dec. 10, 2018, 8:01 a.m.

Excellent, Susie! Feeling balmy myself!

Orangeblossom

Dec. 10, 2018, 6:32 a.m.

Many thanks for the thought-provoking blog Lex. I am not in a particularly good space & maybe your blog will help to lift me up a bit by changing my focus for today.

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Lex

Dec. 10, 2018, 7:58 a.m.

Pick a number, Orangeblossom... your amazing brain will do the rest!

Lexi

Dec. 10, 2018, 1:11 p.m.

Thinking of you today Orangeblossom xo i hope things begin to lift soon.

Sally

Dec. 10, 2018, 8:09 p.m.

All the best, Orangeblossom. Hope you get the lucky break you need very soon. Moodbreak that is.

Rosemary

Dec. 10, 2018, 10:33 p.m.

Hope you're feeling a bit brighter now Orangeblossom. Hugs x

Oli

Dec. 10, 2018, 7:11 a.m.

Thank for the blog Lex! To write the details behind what's driving some stress for me at the moment would be interesting for some and really boring for others! That's the thing about stress: I'm good at coping with stuff that others fall to bits over; I'm rubbish at dealing with stuff that others might not even blink at. Stress is a like a signature -- quite personalised. I'm hoping that "10 participants a participating" will show up, will provide useful data, and help me move my interests forward. I'm genuinely grateful for people who volunteer for precious little obvious reward.

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Lex

Dec. 10, 2018, 8 a.m.

The JOY of intrinsic motivation, Oli... they'll volunteer because, for them, there is some reward in the doing. May you find joy in some activities today. I actually did some music at the weekend, and that was so rewarding! Yule understand that!

The Gardener

Dec. 10, 2018, 9:29 a.m.

Huge gratitude to 3 people. A 'girl' of my kids age, who has more problems than I had, I send an e-mail 'willing girl wanted' and round she comes. Even more, 2 brits, shame of others, because they are like the Larkins in 'Darling Buds of May'

The Gardener

Dec. 10, 2018, 9:35 a.m.

Damned 'time out' on list. These 2 have cleared my house, should have seen the junk! For nothing. After years of 'Promises, promises' 'doers' are like gold dust. If I started on 'gratitude' be like boring thank yous at the Oscars!

Lex

Dec. 10, 2018, 11:24 a.m.

Lovely to read of these kind people, dear Gardener!

Jul

Dec. 10, 2018, 8:46 a.m.

Thank you Lex for wanting us to be happy and for writing each week with this in mind. I am grateful for Moodscope. It never answers back, keeps on giving, has changed my thought patterns and above all has made me realise that there are many many others out there who feel exactly the same emotions on a daily basis as I do. I feel I haven't earned Moodsope; there's been no struggle in my life to be rewarded with Moodscope. It's just there each day always with unconditional support. If I think about anything or anyone else I might be grateful for, they don't come with such consistency and empathy. Anyway I'll have to think more aboit your blog Lex. I'm just not in the mood for being terribly upbeat about gratitude. Yet. As the days wears on, I'll be more chirpy. Thanks again. Jul xx

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Lex

Dec. 10, 2018, 9:28 a.m.

Hi Jules... that's one of the best endorsements of Moodscope I've ever read. If Moodscope is your example of your number one (which is how I'm reading it), I'd say, "Job done!" I wonder if we may quote you? xx

The Gardener

Dec. 10, 2018, 10:15 a.m.

Just to echo all Jul has said - Moodscope is the FIRST stay and prop, always there, occasionally judgemental (mea culpa) but we're here because we're MOODY!! Thanks all - props,humour,wit, favourite books, songs,like minds - empathy. xx

David Gosling

Dec. 10, 2018, 10:31 a.m.

Hello, Jul yes I fully endorse your views on Moodscope it is a World Class for people with Bipolar Mood Disorder. Caroline and the Founder Jon have started a massive site for people with Mental Health Issues. Caroline, please note your moderation role does not go without recognition, thank you. David Gosling.

Lex

Dec. 10, 2018, 11:23 a.m.

...and we'll add the lovely Adrian to the mix too, for he also drives the magic!

Valerie

Dec. 10, 2018, 11:50 a.m.

I must comment Jul,your remark about not feeling you have earned Moodscope.You may not have had the same experiences as some people on here,but you have the same illness.A physical illness can have many causes,from hereditary to lifestyle,and often just sheer bad luck.All are deserving of treatment and help with coping.In any case,someone once said to me that she had no excuse for feeling depressed much of her life.She then described the "happy" family she grew up in,which to me sounded quite horrible.***

Molly

Dec. 10, 2018, 4:50 p.m.

I agree with Val, Jul, why do you think you need to ‘earn’ Moodscope. It’s there for everyone and you always give such great comments and understanding. I also agree that moodcope has become invaluable to me xx

Ach UK

Dec. 10, 2018, 6:03 p.m.

Hi Jul, I loved what you said about Moodscope, but am saddened that something is getting you down at the moment. You fit here as much as any of us. Hugs if you do them Jul, XX Ach.

David Gosling

Dec. 10, 2018, 8:03 p.m.

It is free not much in life is so now.

Sally

Dec. 10, 2018, 8:18 p.m.

My first thought, Jul, was “ Why does Jul think she has to EARN Moodscope?! “ And others have said it too, in different ways. You are one deserving lady. Witness your thoughtful and interesting comments on here. All part and parcel of super Moodscope, and you are very essential to the Moodscope community. Time to be kind to yourself? I think so. Good mood wishes being sent over to you now, Jul.

Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope

Dec. 10, 2018, 9:54 p.m.

Wow, what lovely comments about Moodscope and the team - thank you! It's wonderful to be able to provide Moodscope to everyone when they need it. It's a great pleasure to think we are being of help - although the biggest benefit of the service is the way everyone is here for each other - that's what makes it so special. Long may it continue. Carolinexx

Jul

Dec. 11, 2018, 9:05 a.m.

You may quote me Lex! Jul xx

PeaceLoveRICHARD

Dec. 10, 2018, 8:47 a.m.

Dear Lex. What a blog. However, as lead singer of The Chimneys, I have been known to think outside the box... On the first day of Christmas my true love gave to me... A nice blog from my friend Lexy, On the second day of Christmas my true love gave to me... Two craft beers and etc. Repeat refrain... Increasing number of gifts etc. Until the twelve day. Cutting to the chase... Twelve Simon Cowells, Eleven overpaid footballers, Ten Eric & Ernies, Nine Dennis Thatchers, Eight Maids a moaning, Seven Drunken headaches, Six Geese in goosefat, FIVE GOLDEN RINGS ! ( Pause for dramatic effect )... Four Dolly birds, Three French tarts, Two craft beers, And a nice blog from my friend Lexy! Remember: 01/01/19. Our single HEARTACHE is released. Love, Rich O ' Chimneys.

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Jul

Dec. 10, 2018, 9 a.m.

I will look out for Heartache Rich. Peace and Love (lots) Jul xx

Lex

Dec. 10, 2018, 9:30 a.m.

I literally laughed out loud, Rich! When Santa got stuck up the Chimneys it was 'cos he was so keen to hear your music! Love ya!

David Gosling

Dec. 10, 2018, 10:47 a.m.

Richard, you have a great gift in a wonderful sense of Humour.

Lex

Dec. 10, 2018, 11:22 a.m.

Doesn't he just?! Always makes me smile!

Rosemary

Dec. 10, 2018, 4:55 p.m.

Fanatstic haha love it Rich :)

Jenny

Dec. 10, 2018, 8:49 a.m.

Very thought-provoking Lex, and one I will come back to. My first thought was that I am grateful for my four dear friends. We get together, for three nights, with two dogs, once a year.... :o)

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Lex

Dec. 10, 2018, 9:30 a.m.

Love it, Jenny, love it. It's like a countdown to joy... four friends, three nights, two dogs, once a year for a wonderful time...

Jenny

Dec. 11, 2018, 8:51 a.m.

That's precisely it Lex! I smiled as I wrote it so thank you for prompting me to be grateful x

Frankie

Dec. 10, 2018, 9:09 a.m.

52 Lex blogs, 52 Mary blogs, 261 other blogs to encourage, support and accompany us so that we are never alone, and one Caroline who makes it happen. Thank-you one and all, and especially you dear Lex, for helping me start the day in a better place for a long time. (I'll get up now!) Frankie xx

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Ach UK

Dec. 10, 2018, 9:22 a.m.

Brilliant Frankie, great thought!! I agree. XX Ach.

Lex

Dec. 10, 2018, 9:31 a.m.

That's so encouraging to hear, Frankie. Hopefully with some sunshine too, to light your path today. Caroline will be delighted with your kind words too xx

Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope

Dec. 10, 2018, 9:55 p.m.

I am very delighted, thank you! Carolinexx

LP

Dec. 10, 2018, 9:33 a.m.

Twelve Daily Thank You s 12 Christmas tree decs 11 Pounds for spending 10 Fingers typing 9 Friendly faces 8 Morning stretches 7 Nights for sleeping 6 Vitamin tablets 5 Se hen ses! 4 Parents/siblings 3 Good meals 2 Funny kids And a lovely companion for me! As always, thank you so much for the lift Lex, great idea! Sending cheeriness to you and all, LP

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Lex

Dec. 10, 2018, 10:12 a.m.

Love it, LP, love it! I was singing it in my head too!

Lex

Dec. 10, 2018, 10:12 a.m.

11 is my personal challenge, at the moment, nothing yet leaping into my mind!

Sally

Dec. 10, 2018, 8:21 p.m.

Great list, LP.

LP

Dec. 11, 2018, 12:11 a.m.

Thanks Sally and Lex. I hear you Lex I was stuck on quite a few too! :)) xx

LP

Dec. 11, 2018, 12:17 a.m.

Are you a football fan Lex? Or even vaguely? Your local team? 11 England players? :)

Michele

Dec. 10, 2018, 10:18 a.m.

Great to think about gratitudes. Might suggest my siblings play. My 5 Siblings, 2 daughters and 2 grandchildren (can I have doubles - will alternate), ! lovely home, to be continued. Thank you. x

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Lex

Dec. 10, 2018, 11:20 a.m.

Doubles, trebles, more the merrier! It's the thought (and the thinking) that counts, Michele x

David Gosling

Dec. 10, 2018, 10:49 a.m.

WoW Lex you have started something on here, thank you.

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Lex

Dec. 10, 2018, 11:16 a.m.

It's fun to think about, isn't it, David... even if one is really feeling like it. The brain still does the work! (Still stuck on 11, though!)

Valerie

Dec. 10, 2018, 11:18 a.m.

Lex,I read this at 8.00.in a ratty mood.Went away,then watched your video just now as well.I know you have had a hard time yourself of late,but your hard work in putting this together,plus your lovely kind face and voice set me off having a little cry.I needed that cry,and I feel well enough now to get myself out for a walk.I will reconsider my first reaction to a gratitude list( "**** All" ) in a better frame of mind. Bless you xx

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Lex

Dec. 10, 2018, 11:22 a.m.

Thank YOU, Valerie! You know this is coming from a place where life is not really OK, so I'm working on it myself. However, gratitude is the best tonic! Bless you too - and I know things will change for you xx

Orville

Dec. 10, 2018, 12:27 p.m.

I watched the video... and now I'm having that (entirely predictable) moment of disconnect as the person and the voice inevitably look and sound nothing like the character in my head, that I'd built over reading may of Lex's blogs, did. But: I like it. I like getting a better sense of the character behind the writing, it feels more real somehow. More please!

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Lex

Dec. 10, 2018, 1:13 p.m.

Thanks, Tim... and thank you for subscribing! I'm intending to do lots more video on Social Media. It's a kind of reality!!!

Little Black Cat

Dec. 10, 2018, 1:59 p.m.

One cat that's no longer black but greying! Another one, a Christmas visiting daughter who's full of her new life. And another one, a life long partner whose consistency is my rock. so I suppose that's three!

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Lex

Dec. 10, 2018, 2:04 p.m.

And what a wonderful set of three! Thank you, Little Black Cat!

Molly

Dec. 10, 2018, 4:05 p.m.

Hi Lex I enjoyed the video as well. I struggled to think of something I was grateful for today and the number theory. Then something strange happened. Today I received the most beautiful card from an old friend in Scotland. It’s a black and white picture of Big Ben, with sparkly trees and and a picture of the London Eye with all different coloured sequins which represent the pods. It is possibly the loveliest card I have ever seen, with a lovely personal message inside and for this card, I am grateful! Then I decided to count the sequins and there were twelve! The plot thickens, as my husband has just told me one fell off when he opened it this morning. Do you think this was meant to be? Molly xx

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Lex

Dec. 10, 2018, 4:59 p.m.

That's such a lovely gift, Molly... Yes! It was meant to be! xx

Valerie

Dec. 10, 2018, 4:55 p.m.

O.K. here's mine. 1 House to live in 2 legs to walk on 3Trusted friends 4 Dogs a barking 5 Brain cells (I suspect it's less) 6 Unread books next to bed 7 Grandchildren (I have never met them,but my son has 7 cats,hope that counts) 8 Squares of chocolate for tonight.

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Lex

Dec. 10, 2018, 4:58 p.m.

Brilliant, Valerie... and it takes more than 5 brain cells to be as brilliant as you are!

Rosemary

Dec. 10, 2018, 5:26 p.m.

Ok Lex, here’s mine (brilliant blog idea btw) 12 mince pies baking 11 plans a hatching 10 family to write cards to 9 magnificent trees 8 ideas a forming 7 flowers still blooming 6 books I’m reading 5 FIVE CLOSE FRIENDS (deep breath for the finale) 4 fabulous horses 3 wonderful dogs 2 of the kindest goats and… 1 terrific hubby …who is also my bessst frrrrieeend x

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Lex

Dec. 10, 2018, 8:30 p.m.

Oooooo, that's so lovely, Rosemary! x

Ach UK

Dec. 10, 2018, 6:06 p.m.

Dear Lex, I've been dipping into your blog and replies all day, with "12 days of Christmas" running through my head. Thinking of suitable replies and discarding them all day, and reading and smiling about them. Gratitude, yes I have an infinity load of gratitude, and you are so right, stopping and calling up some examples is helpful and centering. Today has seen the signing of two important documents for me ( Signing my Will ), and on the way to completion, signing my squares on the forms for LPAs ( Lasting Powers of Attorney ). Hopefully neither will be needed for some time, but the awareness of growing older and my last horrendous episode of Bipolar Disorder made me realise that I needed to simplify my life in order to maximise the life of my remaining brain cells. These two absolutely needed to be done. There are a few more hoops to jump through to get to a gentler lifestyle, but they will have to wait till the New Year as I am exhausted from the stress of tackling these two 'milestone biggies'. It has taken 2 years plus to get to the point where I felt able enough to cope with them :)). So today I am Relieved, pleased, sad and a little scared to have got to this place and yes absolutely tearful and Grateful with a very big G to still be here, alive, and " Setting my affairs in order" -- with -- . . . "A little help from my friends". -- And being able to share this rather scary, heavy load with you lot is helpful. Lol, throwing it out into the ether lol. ( like the " Fool on the Hill " Lex ) Sleep well Lex, a super thoughtmaking Blog, thank you XX Ach.

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Lexi

Dec. 10, 2018, 6:23 p.m.

Well done Ach on completing such major tasks! I have a couple on my plate as well that I need to get done this week, also for me to lead a gentler lifestyle. So thank you for sharing. It has inspired me to tackle mine as well xo

Lex

Dec. 10, 2018, 8:32 p.m.

So glad you've been such an inspiration, Ach UK, to our Lexi too. Seriously, I know enough now about planning to say to us all that what you have done is essential. Thank you for sharing so openly - something I cherish about our community. XX

Lexi

Dec. 10, 2018, 6:28 p.m.

I have been thinking about this blog all morning Lex. I have so many things to be grateful for. My health at the moment, a roof over our heads, heat, food on the table, the health of my family, an amazing daughter and friends....I've lost count on the twelve but I am grateful for being able to walk outside and not live in fear. I am forever grateful to being introduced years ago to the amazing Moodscope community that are a part of my daily life. xo

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Lex

Dec. 10, 2018, 8:33 p.m.

Thank you, Lexi... If I was Caroline and if I was Adrian, my heart would be dancing today for all the affirmations people have shared about how grateful they are for Moodscope. xo

Caroline Ashcroft Moodscope

Dec. 10, 2018, 9:57 p.m.

My heart is dancing. Carolinexx

Lex

Dec. 11, 2018, 5:27 a.m.

So glad to hear your heart is dancing, Caroline!

David Gosling

Dec. 10, 2018, 8:30 p.m.

Wonderful entertainment from you Lex and all the Moodscopers comments are to be treasured. I have shared across all of my five Social Media platforms and looking forward to their replies to the numbers. As to mine, I will be like Cinderella and hopefully post before Midnight as I want to avoid upsetting you by not joining in!

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Lex

Dec. 10, 2018, 8:34 p.m.

You take your time, David! This is a 'game' I want to keep playing throughout the season!

David Gosling

Dec. 10, 2018, 9:18 p.m.

Thank you, Lex, I will lose my slipper as I have been recalled by the Ministry Of Defence immediately, will post a.s.a.p. As Bruce Forsyth said, Good Game, good game!!! Good night.David.

Sally

Dec. 10, 2018, 8:39 p.m.

So many reasons to be grateful : one lovely toddler granddaughter , 2 super children, 3 days of visiting friends, 4 days of peace at home , 5 loyal friends, 6 books to read , 7 very different days in a week , 8 pots of pansies, 9 pairs of trousers, 10 pounds in purse, 11 in our group, 12 completed paintings. Lucky, lucky me! ( it hasn’t ALWAYS been so! )

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Lex

Dec. 11, 2018, 5:23 a.m.

It may not have always been so, Sally, but long may it continue!

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