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You can't condemn it until you've tried it – at least three times... Wednesday November 19, 2014

You can't condemn it until you've tried it – at least three times...

Well, I should hope there are actually some things we would condemn without trying them first; torturing puppies, playing tag with the cars on the motorway, filing our teeth to points and then lurking in dark corners pretending to be vampires – I could go on...

But what about those things that we completely write out of our lives without trying first? These are things that are not illegal, immoral, unaffordable or even just silly; but things that we just dismiss as "not for me, thank you."

Skiing was definitely "not for me". If you had asked me a month ago, I could have listed for you at least fifty different ways I would have preferred to break my leg rather than by skiing. No, you were never, but NEVER, going to get me on a ski slope!

So why am I now three lessons in on a "learn to ski" course?

It's all the fault of my ridiculously sporty daughter. She's going skiing with the school next February and her father decided that it would be good if she learned at least the basics of skiing first, before venturing out onto a high and snowy Austrian Alp.

Excellent thinking, darling. I agree.

Then he thought it would also be a good idea if the rest of the family learned to ski too, and promptly booked us all in on this "learn to ski" course at our local dry ski slope.

I understand (because I've looked it up) that booking your wife into skiing lessons does not constitute unreasonable behaviour adequate for divorce.

So, there we all are, uncomfortable in tight boots with five feet of sole sticking out, shuffling our way through what seems like a million bottle-brushes sewn together in a grid pattern. I daren't look up because I'll cross these skis and fall over before we've even started. And this is before we even begin sliding slowly, ever so slowly, down the nursery slopes.

"ARGHHH!" – Thump. Yes, that was me falling over.

Oh I hated it the first time.

I hated it the second time.

I really wanted to hate it the third time, but, you know what? I actually have to concede that I was having fun.

My family have taken to it like Penguins to an ice-slide and love every minute. I still resemble a hippo emulating Bambi in the frozen lake scene; the moment when I skied straight off the side of the slope into the patch of ninja stinging nettles ranks as the funniest thing the instructor has seen all week.

But it is kind of fun. And I'm sort of glad hubby booked me in too.

Even if I'm not quite prepared for us all to swap February in Tenerife for Austria just yet.

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G Wed, Nov 19th 2014 @ 5:35am

Despite the cold setting, this is a very heart-warming post :)

Anonymous Wed, Nov 19th 2014 @ 7:37am

Thank you Mary I loved this post, took me right back to my learning to ski days when I was a wee girl. Good on you for sticking in till the third time and trust me when you're skiing on snow it'll all be worthwhile! On a more serious note you've made a really important point about trying things that we think aren't 'us'.I'm certainly inspired! x

Rupert Wed, Nov 19th 2014 @ 8:22am

Mary like you I have never tried skiing but would like to. It seems to me that it would have enormous benefits for those suffering from depression as the act of skiing must be all consuming so your thoughts are completely focused on the skills involved; it is a complete escape from day to day life being on a stunning mountainside with all th apres ski as welll and it keeps you fit and healthy! So good luck to you! Rupert

Jenny Howie Wed, Nov 19th 2014 @ 9:17am

Hi Mary- this is great.
I'm learning to play the guitar!! After lesson 1 I thought- HELP- I CAN'T DO THIS- I'm too old (was 50 this year!!) However- very sore finger tips and a week of practice- I think I've cracked it- can now just manage 3 chords & play -C;D;G. . Not bad? Lesson 2 today. Forget the head telling you it's not possible, "I'm rubbish at everything"....we CAN keep on learning new stuff, and it DOES lift the spirits, stimulate the brain, divert us from unhappiness and low self esteem- but it isn't easy. Try something new- and get a friend to keep you motivated. Make a list of simple and achievable gaols/ small steps with an achievable time limit. Skiing is very optomistic- I take my hat off to you- but aiming lower is good too.
Good luck everyone. :)

Mary Wed, Nov 19th 2014 @ 10:35am

Well done Jenny! constantly learning new things keeps our outlook fresh and positive.

Alexia Wed, Nov 19th 2014 @ 3:13pm

This sounds like so much fun! I would love to learn skiing one day.

Anonymous Wed, Nov 19th 2014 @ 3:36pm

To relieve my depression and boredom (which I think are linked together) I am beginning a part time position at an animal care shelter next yes I am stepping out and hopefully it will work out...wish me luck..

Anonymous Wed, Nov 19th 2014 @ 7:36pm

Good luck Dave; hope it goes really well for you. Frankie

Jenny Howie Wed, Nov 19th 2014 @ 7:59pm

Good luck Dave, that's great- volunteering is a great thing to do too. Enjoy yourself- just don't bring home TOO many strays!! x

Anonymous Fri, Nov 21st 2014 @ 7:12am

Well done, Mary, for getting over the hurdle that is our mind, sometimes. That is exactly the kind of thinking/ blog/ tale that inspires. Bless you, Mary! Many, many times.

Anonymous Fri, Nov 21st 2014 @ 7:34am

I tend to agree with you, Dave. My depression also seems linked with boredom.,tackling that before the rot of depression kicks in is the long as you recognise it for what it is..which I don't always,alas! Best wishes to you

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