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You can't change your past but you can change your path. Monday August 1, 2016

"Yes, there are two paths you can go by, but in the long run, there's still time to change the road you're on." Led Zeppelin, " Stairway to Heaven"

It's Monday morning. I'm interviewing Inspirational Speaker, Ceri Evans on the penultimate episode of the first series of "The Really Useful Show Time" - and we're talking about finding your "Why". Ceri asserts that it doesn't matter that people don't know the whole journey - he says, On Air, that it's like an Atlas of Maps - you just need to work on the page that's open. Then it hits me:

You can't change your past, but you can change the path you're on. It's your choice. You have the power to decide. You have the power to change.

Then, at Progressive Property Network Portsmouth, that evening, I'm sharing the platform with Mark Stokes and Angie Lacoste (Host). His message is about finding your "Why" - and how we can transform the next generation's future by teaching financial wisdom. Spooky.

One of Mark's slides emphasised the paths that people wished they had changed or had taken when asked on their deathbed.

"I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me."
"I wish I didn't work so hard."
"I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings."
"I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends."
"I wish that I had let myself be happier."

Seth Godin regularly likens entrepreneurs to Map Makers. For the exciting new paths we are finding, opening up, pioneering ourselves and exploring, there are no maps. We are the Map Makers. What can be helpful is choosing the destination. I would suggest these five are a great first step - almost 5 satellite fixes to discover where you are now and get you on your journey to where you'd rather be:

Be yourself today - starting now - that includes what you wear, what you do, how you spend your time, and with whom you choose to spend it!

Decelerate - maybe even press 'pause' - do you really need to work this hard? Check out where those squirrels hide their nuts in the grass!

Express your feelings openly, honestly, authentically, compassionately.

Reach out to your friends - make contact - get in touch, today. It's not too late.

Look in the mirror and say to yourself, "I'm going to let myself be happier - right here, right now, I'm giving myself permission to have more fun."

Don't bounce this 'stuff' down some imagined time-line to a blissful retirement - what aren't you doing now that you'd like more of in our life?

I'm off to dust of my guitar so I can play some 'Stairway'! Awesome!

Looks like it's going to be an amazing day for you - and me too!

A Moodscope member.

Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment below.

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Paul Mon, Aug 1st 2016 @ 6:53am

A very positive and thought provoking message today Lex just what I need been in a hole for weeks. Just typed hole wrong and it predicted hope very apt.
Will go and look for this new path and hope u can find it.

Lex Mon, Aug 1st 2016 @ 8:04am

Thanks Paul, that sounds like a blog to me, "From Hole to Hope... predictably!" or perhaps, "Predicting Hope!" I seriously believe even a shift in what we wear makes a difference. I'm off to a business meeting in Zimbabalooba funky trousers today... and they know I'm coming "Weird Casual" - what strange freedom this brings. Have a GREAT day, Paul. Lx

Orangeblossom Mon, Aug 1st 2016 @ 7:00am

Hi Lex thanks for the very positive pointers to start a new day & a new month.

Lex Mon, Aug 1st 2016 @ 8:06am

I'd forgotten, dear Orangeblossom, that it's a new month. Let's have a brilliant one - full of blossoms of positive change! Lx

Anonymous Tue, Aug 2nd 2016 @ 5:45am

Hi Lex, "that it's a new month. Let's have a brilliant one - full of blossoms of positive change!" is exactly what I thought when I woke up today! Silvia - it's been a long time since my last vist to Mooodscope blog...

Anonymous Tue, Aug 2nd 2016 @ 5:46am

Ops, this is me, Silvia.

Oli Mon, Aug 1st 2016 @ 7:15am

Thank you Lex. I enjoyed the good thoughts, and suggestions.

Lex Mon, Aug 1st 2016 @ 8:06am

You're so welcome, Oli... I'm feeling positive today! Hope you are too. Lx

Huw Mon, Aug 1st 2016 @ 7:34am

Hi Lex. I liked your post very much. To live for the day, but to live as if you had advice from you on your last day. And Stairway to Heaven to boot. Rock on.

Lex Mon, Aug 1st 2016 @ 8:07am

Peace, Love and Rock and Roll, Huw! I know our Richard approves of such things too! Lx

Richard Mon, Aug 1st 2016 @ 9:30am

Good morning, Lex. Thank you for the blog and the shout out. Peace, Love and Rock 'n Roll, Richard.

Lex Mon, Aug 1st 2016 @ 5:54pm

Yo Richard! We love rock and roll! Lx

Lex Mon, Aug 1st 2016 @ 8:05am

Hi Folks, in case you've got a preference for audio, a downloadable version is here: Lx

Jul Mon, Aug 1st 2016 @ 8:46am

Good morning lex. I like Mark's list. I wish I had let myself be happier is a great one for me. As a child, my family life went from one drama to the next so that's how I thought my life as an adult should be. It's taken me years to realise my life need not jump from one crisis to another; that it's actually OK not to have drama in my life. Thank you Lex for another great blog. What are your trousers like?? Jules xxx

Lex Mon, Aug 1st 2016 @ 8:53am

Hi Jules - shall I post a picture? lol Another great resource that I believe you will love is Rosamund and Benjamin Zander's audio version of The Art of Possibility It had me in tears last night - it's so beautiful. Have a lovely day, Lxxx

Hopeful One Mon, Aug 1st 2016 @ 9:26am

Hi Lex - great blog. Swap a joke with you?

an unkempt unemployed guy walks up to a well dressed woman shopping on Rodeo Drive and says : "I haven't eaten anything in four days." She looks at him and says: "God, I wish I had your will power".

Lex Mon, Aug 1st 2016 @ 1:11pm

Love it, Hopeful One! Lx

Eva Mon, Aug 1st 2016 @ 9:28am

HI Lex I really like this blog, and I like hearing your voice on soundcloud, thanks for the link. I embrace weird casual and weird formal attire, I think a bit of kooky is a good thing. Back to your message, feeling that I am on the page making my map is very comforting this morning. I have just discovered that I may have mild Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, so am coming to terms with that, and with that over the last couple of nights I have had a few of the overwhelming how will I cope with the rest of my life, what if? moments. Generally I can set them aside and know that catastrophising about an unknown future is a waste of my time! But its been tricky, but I feel much more grounded knowing that I am making my map.

Lex Mon, Aug 1st 2016 @ 1:13pm

Thank you Eva for encouraging me. One map at a time is enormously comforting, isn't it? And to think that you and I can create and make aspects of those maps really gives me hope - even when there are elements of the future that we could catastrophise over. Lx

Duma Mon, Aug 1st 2016 @ 1:54pm

To quote David Byrne - "If you always dress the same, people will remember you better." Love the weird trousers (and your taste in music, Lex).

Cheers, Duma.

Lex Mon, Aug 1st 2016 @ 3:10pm

Thanks, Duma... I have been told I'm 'unforgettable' - not sure it's always for the best of reasons!!! Lx

The Gardener Mon, Aug 1st 2016 @ 6:12pm

Clutching at straws today - Duma and 'always dress the same'. For decades I've only worn red,black and white. Started because short of money, basic wardrobe, enlivened by something 'jazzy' when I could afford it. Then I started travelling, holiday and professional. I loathe packing - so, variety of red/black/white skirts, trousers, tops - and I achieved a cachet for 'elegance and chic. I often wore red hats (there are very rude references to women who wear red hats) but if I was leading a group, or meeting someone at an airport, it was most unlikely that a woman in a red hat, or in any hat, would be common. The day has not been amazing - except for my friends - super as ever. Mr G has had an awful downturn - the end would seem to have come - he has become childish with the 'Ne ne ne ne ne' of the playground. He haunts me, wanting to know where I am every five minutes. Still aiming for my goal of enjoying what I do and taking pride in achievement of the slightest thing. The treatment you receive from an Alzheimer sufferer - if they were normal - would be mental cruelty, and dealt with accordingly, Seeing Eva's blog I AM suffering Chronic Fatigue Syndrome - only solution - Mr G into respite more often, and a permanent home as soon as finances allow. Hopeful One said, weeks ago, that once the horrible decision is taken you are free to have a 'new' life. I just want the battering to stop. But I am still planning for the future - particularly garden plans next year - best proof that there is still a thread of normality - survive the present, enjoy what relief you get to the full, and firmly believe in a future.

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