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Time is a great healer, maybe, but there's something better - music. Wednesday September 25, 2013

Everyone always says give it time, time is a great healer, maybe, but it all depends on what you do with that time.

If you suppress all your emotions, over time you could end up with emotional problems, or even worse, a numbness to what you really should have allowed yourself to feel in the first place. Some things get better with time, such as wine, but generally, something that hurts today will hurt just as much in ten days or ten years unless you deal with it.

The greatest discovery of my life is that music is a great healer and in my opinion a much better one than time. It depends on what you do with it though. If you put songs on that draw you into your problems, it can be good if you need a bit of a cry, but what if you need to cheer up a bit? Music can almost never fail to do this if you choose something that will lift your spirits.

Why don't you make a playlist of uplifting, never fail to make you feel good songs and put them on when you need to heal, when you really need a pick me up. It's something we all know how to do, and we all know we will feel better afterwards, but we don't always remember what an amazing tool music can be to help lift our mood.

I dare you to try 'higher' by Jackie Wilson and see how it changes you mood. The YouTube video of it is bound to make you smile. Trust me!

Time is a great healer, but only if you use your time wisely. Play some great music!

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PWD Wed, Sep 25th 2013 @ 6:30am

I find music very mood altering usually up but sadly sometimes down if its an oldie that reminds me of bad times. But to live without music would be impossible to do as sung by john miles called music, what a great tune, another good one is Bob Marleys don't worry.

Paul

PWD Wed, Sep 25th 2013 @ 6:37am

Sorry bob marleys tune should say 3 little birds both tunes are about worry
Paul

The Entertrainer Wed, Sep 25th 2013 @ 9:24am

Love this blogpost! "And I say, 'Thank You for the Music...'" Of course, the key issue is what, who, and when you associate the music with. Many of us have experienced the joys of a song that 'means' a relationship to us - "Oh, Darling! They are singing 'our' song!" If that relationship then ceases, the same 'innocent' piece of music can provoke a quite different emotional response!

I remember the account of the Shepherd Boy David using music to sooth King Saul's troubled mind... certainly works for me. And so, it's always about "music on purpose" for me. Playlists on purpose, as Jules has recommended. You can choose music for any mood. How about for all the ten positive cards? I wonder what would work for positive 'Pride' or for the 'Enthusiastic' card?

If anyone wants to dig deeper into why music works (aside from the uniquely personal associations we make), check out the word "entrainment" - where music can "entrain" a change of mood and even physiological state.

Hazel Wed, Sep 25th 2013 @ 10:02am

Joining a community choir was one of the best things I did for myself. I could see how differently I scored on my choir day. A low key choir with no auditions and singing for fun.

Diana Wed, Sep 25th 2013 @ 11:10am

As a music therapist I would agree with much of this, music can certainly help to lift your mood, and particularly if you are in danger of spiralling downwards or getting stuck in ruminations this can be very helpful. However it can do much more than this - as you point out in your blog we need to also give time to facing up to the painful emotions and working through them, and so listening to (or indeed making your own) music which expresses the sadness/loss/anger/regret - or whatever it is you are struggling with can be very helpful, firstly in helping you feel less alone in what you are going through, and secondly in giving a meaningful form and expressive direction to the experience (it can be structured, given shape and movement in some way - it isn't just an amorphous and lifeless mass of feeling). Sometimes having a good cry to a sad song might be just what you need! This is indeed what 'entrainment' is about - connecting with the mood you are in - and then from there you can introduce something that moves you more towards where you want to be.

Anonymous Wed, Sep 25th 2013 @ 11:15am

How do you avoid 'stress carriers' when you have a visually-inpaired husband who is just starting Alzheime's disease? We live in France, lovely - 'stay cool', 'se maintenir', 'hang on in there' etc. There is no solution but gaining an inner strength. Just listened to The Messiah

The Entertrainer Wed, Sep 25th 2013 @ 12:18pm

Dear Diana, I'd love to find out more, if you're happy to connect.

Anonymous Wed, Sep 25th 2013 @ 1:05pm

Check out "Higher and higher" on YouTube. Red jump suit. Enjoy!

Anonymous Wed, Sep 25th 2013 @ 1:06pm

Check out "Higher and higher" on YouTube. Red jump suit. Enjoy!

Anonymous Wed, Sep 25th 2013 @ 1:21pm

Loved the video Jules (and the post)! Why have I never seen that before? Thank you x

Anonymous Wed, Sep 25th 2013 @ 2:02pm

Jackie Wilson's red jumpsuit is awesome!
Jules :)

Anonymous Wed, Sep 25th 2013 @ 6:14pm

I totally agree that music can heal. I don't know if I'm the only one, but I seldom hear the words; it is the notes, the phrases, the harmonies that reach into my depths and evoke feelings of euphoria. Like a Buddhist chant, the right vibrations set up a resonance within me that stimulates, motivates and inspires. I'm often embarrassed when I try to sing along to a well-known song; I get all the words wrong! I can often recognise a melody with the first three or four notes but can I remember the words....no!
Anyway, for another uplifting piece of music, try typing into YouTube: Monjes Budistas,
"Open Up Your Arms". If you select the video ("official") clip with singer accompanied by
Buddhists then you have a visual pleasure as well as the music. Turn it up as loud as you dare and enjoy!
Andrew

Moving Forward Thu, Sep 26th 2013 @ 2:09am

Couldn't agree more, but also with the thought that it can drag you down if you're listening to things that remind you of what makes you sad. Sometimes music is my best and only friend and I can't imagine life without it!! I recently made a playlist called "positivity" and have been playing it over and over when I need it. So many songs to choose from, but the first one on my list is Fleetwood Mac "Don't Stop."

Anonymous Thu, Sep 26th 2013 @ 9:37am

Not easy to avoid stress carriers. I did it for 19 years with a son with a severe disability. Found laughter ( at little things, the ridiculous), helped. And acceptance of what cannot be changed. You will probably have good days and bad days as will he. I do sympathise.

Richard Thu, Sep 26th 2013 @ 4:39pm

Glad you liked it. Still haven't sold any insurance yet. I have drawn a line in the calendar. This is my "bale out" date. Quite empowering. Day after day, alone on a hill...

Anonymous Sat, Sep 28th 2013 @ 3:37pm

Great entry.
Bob Marley, 'Redemption song'
New record on my to-do list: create my own lift spirit compilation.
G.

Julia Mon, Sep 30th 2013 @ 8:37am

You sneaked this one in. I nearly didn't see it. Insurance must be one of the most difficult things to sell.You really have to trick people. Maybe there is one aspect of the policies you are trying to sell which you could focus on which will be really useful to the customer. I find Insurance companies are very keen to take our money but when it comes to claims, they will do anything not to pay out. Day after day alone... Paul McCartney.. Thank you though for giving me a nice song to get me through my day. By the way I am not Jules and haven't posted till now on this page

Anna Sun, Nov 10th 2013 @ 5:32pm

Try "Happy" by C2C (the video version available et YouTube) !

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