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Resolution is not for me. Wednesday December 31, 2014

Resolution is not a lovely word.

If it was able to walk, I can see it sludging along the road with teenage attitude. (Yes I may have invented a word...)

A re-solution. Nah. Not for me thank you kindly.

It somehow smacks of duty and negativity and we are really after something inspiring, something that dances, something that makes your insides go "AWYEAH" (that's "OHYES" for anyone who isn't Scottish).

And in any case, I just don't feel like starting afresh on the first day of the year.

That makes me feel free. Shrug off the 'new year resolution' mantle and release from "will", "try", "hope to", "can't", "should", "must", and all the others. Us LowLifes are constantly battling and running with change. We assess and reassess our feelings, attitudes, responses and actions on a daily basis, maybe hourly, perhaps every ten minutes and sometimes in the same thought and on either side of a doughnut! Why would we throw another tractor tyre onto the pile for our personal Strongest Man competition?

Be free my friends. Be.

Because when we are ready to make our next move in our little tete-a-tete with this unwelcoming, hostile and rigorous attack from our black dogs, our shadows, our scary monsters, our illnesses...we will. January has nothing to do with it.

Be free my friends and just keep putting one foot in front of the other. If you step back, it's not a fail, it's a dance move and, from there, there is a natural momentum to go forward again.

Much love from

Dances With Wolves in the room above the garage.
A Moodscope member.

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The Entertrainer Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 5:18am

Your Native American name is e-x-p-a-n-d-i-n-g!
Agreed - let's not voluntarily take on any extra self-generated pressure.
"Just another day to take it easy on yourself, my friend"
There is dance in freedom and dance in truth, and, today, I'm dancing with and for you! L'x

Anonymous Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 6:31am

Wonderful and absolutely right, change happens when you're ready not because you need to put up a new calendar. No extra pressure required! Have a wonderful Hogmanay fellow moodscopers, in whatever guise it may come. My change comes after years of battling with myself, no new years resolutions got me here. But at 11am today my partner and I will be one of the first same sex couples to get married in scotland and that's a change that works for me for 2015! Amy x

crafty wee midden Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 7:57am

Amy....huge congratulations, and may you have a long and happy life together. Im so chuffed fir you. DWWITRATG, thank you....this has been a very difficult year fir me. My soulmate beamed up to heaven in May. Part of me is 'hanging onto' 2014, afraid of 2915, because in some weird way it feels as though he won't be with me once the new year starts....which sounds crazy. Can't put the feeling into words. Glad o be able to share it here. Alex

Anonymous Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 8:32am

Short, sweet, spot-on and oh so absolutely true for all of us are who reach for the daily moodscope fix-o-the-day.
Res-so-loo-shun. Sounds just as terribly awful and doom laden as it really is.
Doomed to fail for at least 99.99% of us so as the lady says use it as a dance move preferably with the Wolves to keep them at bay.
A-woooo to the moon with ye' res-so-loo-shuns.

Julia Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 8:56am

Amy. Have a wonderful day. Congratulations!

Julia Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 8:57am

HI.DWWRAG. Let's have a resolution not to have any resolutions.

The Entertrainer Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 9:09am

Alex and Amy, my heart goes out to you both for different reasons but with equal love xx

Anonymous Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 9:26am

I've shined my shoes, ready, set...shimmmy! p.s. Like that quote, is it from a film?
Love ratg x.

Anonymous Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 9:28am

Amy that's brilliant! Wishing you a wonderful day, love ratg xxx

Anonymous Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 9:29am

Let's do this! :-D

Anonymous Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 9:33am

Alex, he will be with you. This is 'just' a first...and you have done many firsts already. There may be no body and no voice but he is there, keep his photograph close and say what you need to to him. He's there, love ratg xx.

Julia Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 10:14am

Entertrainer. My heart goes out to you for different reasons to Amy and Alex but with equal love! xx

Julia Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 10:15am

And of course to you ratg who is dww x

Moodscope Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 10:47am

Hi Amy, we hope you have a really wonderful day. Enjoy. The Moodscope Team.

Laura Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 11:02am

As a matter of interest, I threw away the mantle of the new year's resolution some years ago - instead I 'resolved' to do something new every month of the new year - try something I'd never eaten, go to a country/place I'd never been, listen to a piece of music I'd never heard etc. Gosh how liberating - and positive - and full of promise. It meant some wonderful experiences for me - and now you have reminded me of it (thank you!) - I think I'll do it again this year, starting - yes: tomorrow!

Anonymous Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 11:18am

A promise to be... in the future... has a tendency to stay in the future and not become now. To become is not empowering as the Power is in the here and now. I look for work and pray: "I have the best work in world, for me and all other people in it and in harmony with the universe".

What I have and do and am right now is the best and then in the future it still will be. It will only be different. Just another first of many! I liked that thought too.

Thank you RATG and everyone. Thank you for all the sharing and the support. I am so happy to have you all moodscopers in my life!

Lots of love,

Anonymous Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 11:40am

Dear RATG: I just love this - your final paragraph is SO empowering - thank-you. And Amy, wishing you and your partner many blessings for the future - and HUGE congratulations!
And Alex - so understandable your feelings of loss, and of not wanting to move forwards because it feels as if you are moving away and maybe you feel you are betraying your love; but he will always be a part of your heart and a part of who you are today; and maybe he is cheering you on from the side lines ...

Here's wishing everyone peace of mind and heart for 2015 - with a massive thank-you to you all for being there and for being such an important support to me ...


Anonymous Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 12:24pm

Thank you for an inspiring post and also thanks to all you fellow bloggers for they have helped me a lot.

liz Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 2:04pm

Amy, Bless you and Alex, Please know that love never dies. My husband died 10 years ago and my love for him is exactly the same as it ever was. Peace is everywhere even more so when you think and ponder over your loved one who can't be with you anymore. Love lasts forever.

Susan Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 2:48pm

Cheers to you and all of us who made it through another year, happily or not.

I was inspired last year to choose a New Year's verb instead of a resolution. A verb (grow, try, craft, rest, travel, reflect) is a wonderful goal because you do it on the days and in the ways that you can, and not on the other days. There's no failing, unless "fail" is your verb of choice.

Anonymous Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 3:18pm

Congratulations Amy! And Alex, as others have said, love is eternal. Your loved one stays in your heart always. I lost my Mum 7 years ago and every New Year's Eve I light a candle for her; to bring her into the new year with us. Sue x

Melanie Lowndes Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 3:35pm

Wonderful all of you. Thank you! Last year I chose 2 words: fun, adventure. Not sure how much they contributed but they were a guide. This year it is listen to my intuition - for which I need to be present now not worrying about the year ahead (thank you Karin). Very best wishes - remember we can choose how we feel, how we react etc When the black dog is there, find a way (any way) to distract oneself and think a better thought and feel better. Never diminish nor beat up on yourself for anything .... xxxx

Mary Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 5:52pm

love to everyone; happy new year to you all. super post today and I love the expanding name, dwwitratg!

Anonymous Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 6:46pm

That's a great idea! Have bookmarked that, love ratg.

Anonymous Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 6:48pm

Ditto Karin, we're almost normal in here, ratg x.

Anonymous Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 6:50pm

Dear Cosy Room - i can't tell you how your blog made me feel this morning. I tingled with gleeeeee. I've never made a new year's resolution and now you have put into words why. Thank you. You are brilliant. And thank you to ALL the amazing Moodscope bloggers for their contributions to our lives this past year. You are a gorgeous bunch to wake up to. Happy New Year? xxxx susan

Anonymous Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 6:50pm

All good stuff to you Frankie, you've probably been quite reflective this season having your bereavement so recently. I hope you continue to find support here, love ratg x.

Anonymous Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 6:52pm

Brilliant! Love ratg

Anonymous Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 6:53pm

Another great alternative, this is great, love ratg.

Anonymous Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 6:56pm

Fun and adventure...perhaps a post to tell us what you were inspired to do with them?! Love ratg x.

Anonymous Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 6:57pm

Bless you Mary and happy new year to you, love ratg xx.

Anonymous Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 6:59pm

Aawwww. That's so good to hear, much love ratg xx.

Anonymous Wed, Dec 31st 2014 @ 8:45pm

Thanks RATG - so do I! Frankie

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