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Learning-innings. Thursday January 7, 2016

I don't like cricket. So imagine my surprise when on New Year's Eve I was tucked under my new fluffy sofa blanket watching (even enjoying?!) a documentary on it. Howzat?! I didn't have a clue what they were talking about mostly. But the mix of artwork, TV clips and player interviews had me. I also found one of the interviewees especially alluring as he spoke with such passion and knowledge.

I may not like cricket but my Dad loves it! At key times in the cricketing calendar, family find him by following the sounds of his portable radio. This he carries everywhere so as not to miss a second of commentary. An old bottle cork is jammed on top of the aerial. Added to protect family passing by from possible eye pokes! Aside from fans like my Dad, a Wiki search shows the game is played by 120 million people. It's the second most popular sport in the world.

On New Year's day I spent some time on my mobile reading about... cricket?! As a result I can now identify the lovely Stuart Broad, know how many balls in an over and that England are playing against South Africa in a test match. I've also exchanged some amusing texts with my Dad, the cricket guru.

My lovely Dad recently described his life as 'one big learning curve'. Sadly the conversation moved on before we got chance to really talk. But I know he's had some difficult and heartbreaking personal experiences over the years. No matter our circumstances, learning is a life long journey for all of us. Life is a learning journey.

Whose interest could you take more interest in? What might you learn? What might be the effect on your mental wellbeing? Best wishes to all Moodscopers for 2016.

Jennifer (formerly Jen!)
A Moodscope member.

Thoughts on the above? Please feel free to post a comment below.


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LillyPet Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 6:03am

Morning Jennifer,
Such a lovely heartwarming blog! I loved the way you described your lovely dad, he sounds like mine who also loves cricket! He follows cricket around the world on Sky. I'm popping in to see him today so will have a chat with him about it.
Thanks for a lovely reminder for me to chat with people more about what interests them even if it's not yet an interest of mine...who knows where the learning could take me!
It's a rainy morning in London, warm hugs to all! LP xx

Eva Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 7:03am

Hi Jennifer, I have the 'I don't like cricket song in my head' :)
I made an effort to join in with my dad's hobbies and am so pleased that I did so as it gave me a good 5 years of memories and connection to look back on now that he is gone. not a lot of the time spent was in deep communication if any, it was more the fun, opportunity to help and just being together was important for me. And I think he enjoyed having me around.

Lex Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 7:08am

Thanks for this excellent blog, Jennifer. I too have a mixed history with Cricket but have friends who may convert me yet!!
It's amazing how interesting 'they' become when I take an interest in them!!!
If you get a chance, check out some of the hilarious YouTube videos on "The Most Interesting Man In The World" - adverts for Dos Equis
https://youtu.be/U18VkI0uDxE it's a bit rude in places but I cried laughing.
When I'd recovered, I wondered what it would take to be the most 'Interested' man in the World. I have failed miserably, so far... but your blog reminded me of my genuine intention to listen properly to my loved ones! I'm pretty good at listening to strangers, but often 'delete' those closest to me. Would love to change that!
Have a lovely day, Jennifer. L'xx

Soulmansblue Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 8:35am

HowZat your blogs out Jennifer! I'm not one for cricket and so nearly didn't read your blog. Yet strangely enough I did and I'm really pleased that I did. What I really liked and took to heart was your obvious love for your Dad which came shining through. Maybe with what you've learned so far about the game of cricket and your new found interest to learn more will find you spending more time with your Dad. In doing so you will get more time to really talk with him and be able to learn not only more about the game from 'the Cricket Guru' but more about him and his life!' As you said life is a learning curve. I'm now 54 and only the other day a Fort here on my island called 'The Cup and Saucer' did I realise was not round. Then later on talking to someone even older than me learned that it was actually built in the shape of a boat. The reason being to help the sea flow around it rather than to bash it to death with it's waves. Thank you for a lovely blog and I'm really pleased that you love your Dad. Soulmansblue x

susan Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 9:36am

Hi Lex, you raise an interesting point re listening to loved ones. I can relate to that. Am wondering if the venue for listening becomes too familiar, routinized, distracting, etc. and maybe to really listen to a loved one we need to take them OUT for a coffee or somesuch? Just a thought. xx

Frankie Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 10:38am

Morning susan; I have found the coffee out really useful with my nearest and dearest, in particular my kids, on their own. Frankie

susan Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 12:27pm

Hi Frankie, glad to know you endorse that. Btw, thank you for the reminder about Louise Hay yesterday; I'd forgotten about her and really needed to understand a current physical problem. Lots of info on the net too which was helpful, as you no doubt know (I googled 'spiritual reasons for physical ailments'). Thanks again. xx

Hopeful One Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 8:00am

Hi Jennifer-your welcome blog this morning set me thinking. I have not decided yet on whose interest I could take more interest in but I will be more alert to the possibility following your blog.

So many cricketing terms have entered the English language that many of us have forgotten their origin." Played with a straight bat"." 1 middled it","played it straight down the middle" I was stumped", " He bowled me a googly /yorkie" I dare say there are others that other Moodscopers will add..

I don't know if you are a member of the Joke Squadron but see if this brings a chuckle?

A woman takes her 15-year-old daughter to the doctor. The doctor says, "Okay, Mrs. Jones, what's the problem?" The mother says, "It's my daughter Mandy. She keeps getting these cravings, she's putting on weight, and is sick most mornings." The doctor gives Mandy a good examination, then turns to the mother and says, "Well, I don't know how to tell you this, but your Mandy is pregnant - about 4 months, would be my guess." The mother says, "Pregnant?! She can't be, she has never ever been left alone with a man! Have you, Mandy?" Mandy says, "No mother! I've never even kissed a man!" The doctor walks over to the window and just stares out it. About five minutes pass and finally the mother says, "Is there something wrong out there doctor?" The doctor replies, "No, not really, it's just that the last time anything like this happened, a star appeared in the east and three wise men came over the hill. I'll be darned if I'm going to miss it this time!"

Soulmansblue Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 8:38am

Oops Jennifer,

I've put my reply in the wrong place. It's down below but under Lex's reply to you.I guess I was not watching the ball!

Ouch, that hurt!

Soulmansblue Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 8:42am

Hmm, Jennifer, I got that wrong, I must be playing down under in Australia because my reply is to be found up not down! So you have most likely already read it.

Soulmansblue Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 8:49am

Hi All,

Thanks for all your replies yesterday. I have written a response on yesterdays blog!

danielle Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 9:17am

I just read it, thanks soulmansblue, you seem to be in better spirits today, I replied to your reply! xxx

susan Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 9:33am

Hi Soulmansblue, thanks for your response yesterday; I read it earlier this morning, too. I have been thinking about you and how much you've suffered. Life can present some pretty huge challenges...and who knows why? I reckon we're meant to grow through them and never give up searching and seeking with hope. Wishing you a lovely day. xx

susan Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 12:37pm

Sorry, I forgot to mention something else that might help you, Soulman. Have you heard of EFT or tapping? Perhaps you have, in which case just ignore me. It's based on acupuncture and is a legitimate and effective tool for healing. I use it regularly. Gary Craig is the originator and teaches the technique for free on his website. Here's an introduction to it on youtube. https://www.youtube.com/user/emofree

Soulmansblue Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 10:20pm

Hi Danielle, Yes, I read your original reply thanks. I thought that I had mentioned that in my reply. Sorry if I didn't

Soulmansblue Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 10:24pm

Hi Susan, thanks for the link ECT yes, but EFT no so I'll take a look. Yes life can through some strange curves our way. I believe as you said to help us to grow. I believe that this journey that I'm on has helped me. I'm far more compassionate than I was in my youth and think more of others than myself when of old it was the other way. So there is hope for me yet to be an okay guy.

Norman Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 9:02am

Ah! Cricket! All those lovely metaphors! At present the new ball (year) is whizzing past me and I can't get a bat on it yet.

Sadly I never got into my dad's twin loves of horse-racing and keeping pigeons. Perhaps they weren't meant to be shared, he was a very private man in some respects.

Joke time:
Q: Do you know the difference between conversation and intercourse?
A: No
Q: Great! Let's talk!

Norman Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 9:02am

Ah! Cricket! All those lovely metaphors! At present the new ball (year) is whizzing past me and I can't get a bat on it yet.

Sadly I never got into my dad's twin loves of horse-racing and keeping pigeons. Perhaps they weren't meant to be shared, he was a very private man in some respects.

Joke time:
Q: Do you know the difference between conversation and intercourse?
A: No
Q: Great! Let's talk!

danielle Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 9:20am

Hi Jennifer, what a lovely blog and how lovely that you now have a shared interest with your dad. I found this with cycling as my OH is cycling mad. I remember watching road races and the tour de france and not knowing the complexity of it, he explained over many races how it all works with the team riding for one rider, the domestiques fetching the water etc, and just how complex it is, it is not as simple as the first across the line. So interesting when you take time to explore. What i love most about taking time to explore someone elses interests is the passion which usually shows itself. It could be a colleague who appears quiet, or a neighbour you dont usually speak to, or even like yourself, a parent or friend - and you find a hidden facet and passion you never knew existed and often see them in a new and deeper light. it is magical xxx

susan Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 9:29am

Such a sweet and gentle blog, Jennifer. And very calming. And I really like the question you pose at the end. Will definitely think on it, thank you. xx

Jennifer Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 9:45am

Hi everyone, thanks for taking time to post some thoughts. Enjoyed them. I'm working today so won't have time to reply individually but will try again later if I can. I nearly didn't write it Soulmansblue (precisely because it featured cricket!!) but glad I did. J xxx

Frankie Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 10:41am

Morning Jennifer; simply lovely - thank-you; lots to think about ... Frankie

The Gardener Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 11:44am

First thanks to Danielle for thinking my fund of stories are worthy of memoirs. Publishers are not interested in a slightly eccentric woman with a fund of whacky stories unless she's famous (or better, these days, infamous). I have written two historical novels on this area - self published - gone down very well with all who have read them. Have approached, carefully via Writers and Artists Year Book suitable publishers - universal reply - no new authors, no historical novels. How on earth did our great writers get started? It is said that Henry Miller had 50 refusals for his first book (quite right too!). The subject in hand today, cricket. Eldest grand-son is currently in South Africa for the Test Matches - proving less boring than any cricket I have the misfortune to watch. Loads of quite sensible friends addicts - like Jennifer's father. 'Whose interest could you take more interest in? Pure curiosity this a.m I suddenly thought of a charismatic Italian lawyer whose organisation I interpreted for in the 70's. Wondered if he was still alive. Good old Google - not only is he still alive but pages of photos! Now, do I re-contact ? Those times were full of drama. We were invited to a conference in Rome (Communists). At the end I was asked my opinion. 'If you lot worked as hard as you talked you could improve the Italian economy'. So he packed us off to the Po valley, where the weather was so grim nothing to do but work. Then he took us to meet a young farmer who had 'gained' from Communist policies - hills behind Rome. Certainly he had a new car and La Mamma had a kitchen and an inside toilet! I said how good the regime was for farmers. The 'big man' was out of hearing. 'Farming? Ha. We go and dig up Etruscan treasures (forbidden) at night and flog them to the American tourists!' I could write pages on Italian swindles - but they are SO charming with it. So, Jennifer, would you advise me to take more interest in this guy's history to enliven my day? Thanks for excellent blog - my Dad and I did everything together - he was bi-polar, difficult and NEVER dull.

danielle Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 1:47pm

TG this is a shame and does make me wonder how people ever get published. Also makes me wonder how some of the drivel i have read also gets published! I am easily pleased in books but have read some with glowing reviews which have been awful! Alas, we can appreciate your wonderful stories here and feel priviledged to be the ones to hear them. You sound as though your life has been full of adventures and remind me of someone I stayed with in Kenya. He was my an old boyfriends uncle who lived half the time in the uk and half the time in kenya, he and his wife had a manufacturing business and would swop between the two, the odd thing being one would be in one country and one in the other, they rarely saw each other! (each to their own) but he was FULL of adventurous stories of times he had bought a cheap jeep and driven the whole way through africa, through tribes in the congo and other various adventures. Please keep them coming Gardener :)xxx

Soulmansblue Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 10:32pm

Hi Gardener, What about self-publishing? That's how I did it when I did mine and then I found I had a publisher trying to get me to pay for them to publish it and publicize it all over the world as both a book and an ebook. I didn't as they couldn't publish my book as I wanted and they were way too expensive. You could write it for the likes of the Kindle and iPad and sell it on Amazon. You get to keep most of the money which is great. When you get published through the normal channels you don't get that much unless you sell a million. Anyway just an idea! My book is called 'A LIFETIME IN DEPRESSION' and I'm currently updating it and at the same time creating a version for Kindle and iPad. Hope you succeed.

Soulmansblue Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 10:32pm

Hi Gardener, What about self-publishing? That's how I did it when I did mine and then I found I had a publisher trying to get me to pay for them to publish it and publicize it all over the world as both a book and an ebook. I didn't as they couldn't publish my book as I wanted and they were way too expensive. You could write it for the likes of the Kindle and iPad and sell it on Amazon. You get to keep most of the money which is great. When you get published through the normal channels you don't get that much unless you sell a million. Anyway just an idea! My book is called 'A LIFETIME IN DEPRESSION' and I'm currently updating it and at the same time creating a version for Kindle and iPad. Hope you succeed.

Hitchhiker Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 7:22pm

Tried to comment earlier, but guess I did not complete the send! O well! Just want to say I enjoyed this Jennifer! I watched/talked about golf with my dear Dad - we often didn't have a lot else to discuss! But the connecting is what matters and I miss him and his golf dearly! Thanks for the reminder. So glad to have this forum to connect in as well! Great to see you here today Soulmansblue!!! I went back and read your reply from yesterday - it brought tears to my eyes. Connect. Feel safe. That's what matters! And so, write on! Gardener, you and all the other regulars add smiles and tears to my day! Thanks and cheers!

Jennifer Thu, Jan 7th 2016 @ 10:17pm

Thanks again to everyone who took time to comment to my blog today. So glad it resonated with you xxx

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