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It's a crying Shame. Thursday February 5, 2015

As someone who left a Chief Executive role in local government due to, for me, such a lack of public service, for political and self service – and now working with values and trust in organisations, plus many comments on Moodscope about the challenges of modern day work, I was reflecting on the rigidity of organisations and their effect on society and wrote the following...

So many people dealing in pain,
Looking for respite before going insane.
So many hurting inside their head,
Sticking to values - their organisation dead?

So where do we find comfort,
In such trying times?
Where do we find solace,
That makes the world rhyme?
Where do we find compassion,
For a real human sign?
Where do we find peace,
In this life of thine? (and mine)

Are we the victims of comfort,
Got no one else to blame.
We're just the victims of comfort,
Connoisseurs of pain.

It's easier to set the process,
Than trust the employed staff.
It's easier to neuter passion,
Than create joy and share a laugh.

Organisations that talk of values,
But they're simply on the wall.
Behaviours that never fit them,
They're not really there at all.

Human-beings within them,
That have a process to do.
Human-doings that seem to run them,
You just cannot be you!

You then have a choice,
To fit in or lose.
The income you 'value',
But which values do you choose?

Is it money or morals,
As you move through life?
Is it head or heart,
Before you find strife?
Are we the victims of comfort,
Got no one else to blame.
We're just the victims of comfort,
Connoisseurs of pain.

Comfort used to be the pride in ourselves,
Now do we 'value' what we possess.
So Organisations now measure,
More time and process.
What about our human coherence,
Or are we in a mess.

I'd like to see a change,
I know it can be done.
I've seen it so often,
When trust has begun.

Organisations are the victims of comfort,
Got no one else to blame.
They're just the victims of comfort,
Crying shame.

Maybe you are in a situation where you feel your values are at odds with what is around you. Where can you find inner solace and draw strength from those you trust?

Les
A Moodscope member.


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Anonymous Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 7:14am

It's amazing that someone like Les, capable of observing so clearly the contradictions and hypocrisy of working near the top of a big organisation such as a County Council (I was an elected CountyCouncillor for four years, and often observed the differences between ("County Council Speak") "Values", and what we were financially and organisationally forced to do), can write such awful doggerel! Say it in prose, Les!

Rupert Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 8:25am

I agree with what you say Les - every day I feel a smaller part of a big organisation that seems to be run from somewhere which has no idea of what people actually do on the ground. Rupert

Julia Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 8:46am

Feeling desperately unhappy at work, is a very important subject and as Les says at the beginning of his blog today, it seems to affect many people who contribute to Moodscope. What strikes me as significant is that those Moodscopers who are in difficult work situations and want to find a solution are the nicest of people. I think this fact says so much about the subject. I may be generalising here but why is it that it's the sensitive, kind,well meaning, intelligent, deep thinking members of the work force, who find the work environment so unhealthy? I am so pleased you chose to tackle this subject Les. Thank you.

Julia Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 8:52am

I have just read the quote at the end of today's email. Good one!
"Even if you are on the right track you’ll get run over if you just sit there.” Peter Marshall.

Julia Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 9:49am

I am sure Les is more than capable of defending his poetry.(I had to look up the word doggerel! It's a word I know of but see it used rarely nowadays) If you look back over Les' blogs for Moodscope, you will see that he writes eloquently in both prose and poetry. You are so right, Les observes life and the hypocrisy of working near the top of an organisation so clearly.

Anonymous Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 9:59am

Congratulations Les on your poetry ,I too saw the hypocrisy and double-standards in a project in which i was a volunteer for 3 years and turned down a permanent post for the same reasons.well done

Anonymous Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 10:06am

Good for you, Anonymous 9.59. So many of us carry on working with dreadful people in dreadful organisations, which eventually break us down. I'm glad you didn't stay with them. Karen :)

Anonymous Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 10:17am

That seems a bit mean-spirited of you, Anon 7.14. Having been an elected county councillor for four years, you should have an understanding of what Les means in his poetry...doesn't matter how he writes it. He is trying to convey what happens to people at work when many people show no compassion to their fellow workers. Having worked in a council office as well as for the old DHSS, I fully understand. Bad experiences are often had because some people seem to enjoy seeing others treated badly...perhaps some schadenfreude?
Karen

Anonymous Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 10:23am

Thank you Les. Glad you brought this up! I am so glad I no longer work in that sort of environment. My lovely daughter now works in a company where, until a few weeks ago, no one on reception smiled or spoke to the people coming in! She couldlnt understand it...she not only smiles at people, she tries to engage in a little chat...to make them feel welcome, and thankfully it's working...the others are starting to do it too! It costs nothing to smile at someone and maybe offer a 'hello'...it might even make someone's day! Karen :)

Anonymous Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 11:16am

It is the pure simplicity of Les's doggerel that makes the thoughts effective. It obviously hit a nerve with you, too, Anonymous, or you wouldn't have responded. And I'm sure there's also lots of prose on the subject that you can sink your teeth into. This is one of the most serious issues in our world today. susanxx

Anonymous Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 11:54am

Hello Anonymous 7.14.

I am wondering whether you are a relatively new Moodscoper?

If so, welcome to this wonderful community of lovely people who share very personal experiences of tough times in order to help others going through similar bleak periods. We none of us claim to be experts but operate very much as a "self-help" support community. Those of us who post and blog often do so from a place of darkness. So we are all to be congratulated for being able to articulate openly and honestly our thoughts and feelings. Les' poetry comes from the heart, and as such touches the hearts of so many (see the responses to his previous poems).

I am saddened by your comment which I feel would be more valid elsewhere as literary criticism.

I do hope that you will find the support you are looking for here.

Wishing you peace of mind and heart
Frankie

Julia Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 1:19pm

Your daughter sounds lovely Karen. She must be like her Mum! For me a smile and a quick chat says it all. Thanks to you, Karen, dear Frankie and Susan for your comments above. I had to go out after I wrote my bit and I must say I worried I had got it all wrong so you can imagine the relief (and love!!) that filled me when I came back and read your replies. You each brought a smile to my face when reading!

Anonymous Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 2:07pm

Smiling back, Julia! I thought your response was very good. Frankie xx

Anonymous Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 2:34pm

Dear Les,

I really agree with everything you say. I am an employee of a Local Authority and as you say, values and beliefs are constantly words on paper, never implemented.

It is all about office politics, trust, a value that should be built day by day to create and reinforce relationships is so hard to find in those places.
I would like to see a change too and I agree that change can happen if people who share same values like trust, open communication, support each other stand up and say" It is time to change the culture here".

I have made the first step to shake and change the "confort culture" and few people are following, see what happens!

Eliz Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 4:50pm

Fabulous Frankie
Xx

Eliz Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 4:51pm

So moving and true Julia, reassuring too, thankyou

Eliz Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 5:05pm

Les, you say in your 10th verse starting with " I'd like to see a change.......
I would very much like to know how you think it can be done? You say you have seen evidence of it being done before.
Would love to know more from you.
Also why why why does it have to be like this in the working environment?
I see it in social occasions too, and everywhere really. I am sure my depression stems from a lack of warmth in society. When people are kind to me, and compassionate which they are sometimes, I get some relief. This includes people in this mood scoping group, you know who you are.

Mary Blackhurst Hill Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 5:26pm

Indeed, Les. Very wise. I too have worked in organisations where lip service was paid to morals, values and ethics. I am fortunate indeed now to work within a company that walks the talk completely all the time. The difference is utterly astounding.

Anonymous Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 7:28pm

Need meat? Butcher will provide. Need bread? Baker will provide. Need prose? Library will provide. Need support? Moodscope will provide. Waving to all, love ratg x.

Anonymous Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 8:01pm

Ooo, I like being called "fabulous" - thank-you!
Frankie

Les Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 8:19pm

I like writing in rhyme,
With people it seems to chime.
It opens the mind,
To many things unkind.

Unlike prose,
Which is I suppose.
Used to cover emotion,
In many a political potion. ;-)

Different people, different ways,
Variations in what we say.
Give people continual grace,
Either way is no disgrace.

Les Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 8:28pm

1) It doesn't have to be like that.
2) Any organisation on the Sunday Times Top 100 Companies To Work For - that earn 12.5% more year on year than their FTSE 100 counterparts!!!! W L Gore being the best since 2004 check out their web site. 4 values - 27 countries - 10,000 Associates - no one can tell anyone else what to do - no titles - no job descriptions - all about trust.
3) Most organisations promote based on competence - the good ones employ and promote based on character.
4) Most CEOs are appointed on competence (IQ) and fired on character (EQ).

Law of the School (clever / short term / process / management / reactive / authority power / scarcity mentality / 'either or' / win-lose / IQ)

Law of the Harvest (wise / sustainable / people / leadership / proactive / personal power / abundance mentality / 'both and' / win-win / EQ)

Les Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 8:30pm

Cooooooooooool

Eliz Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 9:14pm

so clever
xx

Eliz Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 9:22pm

Thank you. Very interesting. So refreshing also. You cheer me up by giving me this evidence that there is some enlightenment out there.

Eliz Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 9:24pm

Great Mary, you too give me hope. Can you say which company you work for?

Eliz Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 9:26pm

Excellent ratg!
xx

Les Thu, Feb 5th 2015 @ 10:08pm

Fab stuff..........

The only person you can change in the world is 'yourself'....

"You have to be the change you want to see in the world." Gandhi

If you change and show leadership....others may change. They won't if you don't.....

How can you 'reward' people that change?

What gets rewarded gets repeated.......

Julia Fri, Feb 6th 2015 @ 8:52am

Hi Les
I love 4) So true. Also I would add cynically that most CEO's are promoted and given higher bonuses on INcompetence. (I know your stats are based on fact, mine based on cynicism)

Anonymous Fri, Feb 6th 2015 @ 9:28am

You are a sdar of the highest order, Les. Well done and so quick! Karen :)

Anonymous Fri, Feb 6th 2015 @ 9:33am

I think there are many of us Moodscopers who are kind, very thoughtful and that's what we want in return. I don't want this to sound like our own fan club but thank you and Frankie too...comments like yours help so many people and hopefully the kindness we all show and share helps us too. And most days, like I try to be - my daughter is lovely...no angel, but lovely! Karen x

Anonymous Fri, Feb 6th 2015 @ 9:41am

'What gets rewarded, gets repeated'. That in itself becomes the reward for the giver, unless it is bad behaviour!!! How often have I seen misbehaving children get the attention they crave, creating a vicious circle! The well-behaved child gets 'lost' in the crowd. So if we can ignore the bad behaviour of both child and the adults we often have to work with, and seek out the others and reward them with our trust and attention maybe the badly behaved may want to join 'our gang'. Here's hoping...this has been a very interesting blog Les thank you, Karen :)

Anonymous Fri, Feb 6th 2015 @ 9:45am

Ah dear ratg...you never disappoint either!
Aren't we lucky to have so many clever peeps here on Moodscope. Karen x

Anonymous Fri, Feb 6th 2015 @ 2:08pm

Hi Eliz, can you be the start of something good where you work?

Anonymous Sat, Feb 7th 2015 @ 6:38am

Hi, I find poetry extremely hard to process, so I usually have to skip the poem blogs and go straight to the comments. I don't mind them though as I can see how much they do for everyone else, and I can usually catch the drift from the responses. As an artist I have learned that I can't expect everyone to love what I produce, so I have developed a thick skin to negativity about my work, but my friends defend me if attacked just like you have above. I just thought this was a great response to a slightly uncaring comment, well done guys.

Eliz Sun, Feb 8th 2015 @ 9:46pm

Hi Anonymous at 2:08pm feb 6th. Thankyou for your uplifting and encouraging question. It adds credence to what we are talking about, and the fact you asked me means something.

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