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I'm a bit of a Chill Bill. Whilst I'd love those words to represent a cool, sophisticated, confident Tuesday June 23, 2015

I'm a bit of a Chill Bill. Whilst I'd love those words to represent a cool, sophisticated, confident, carefree being, I mean that I feel the cold.

Today I had on my t-shirt, my fleece and my little puffy jacket on the school run (as opposed to the big puffy which reaches well below bottom length). There were people wearing sandals with bare legs. I had to make myself leave my scarf at home whilst others were being right out there and brave and exposing skin to air! I put the experience into my file marked 'Moments of Awe'.

I drove to my first stop of the day and had the little lightbulb flash. I was wearing a jacket, on a warm day, inside a car with windows up and would bake myself purple through window-tanning if given half a chance. I was trapped in a bad habit. There is only one way to deal with bad habits.

See the habit.
See the new habit.
Do the new habit.

I took off the jacket. I walked to my destination...at least two hundred metres, maybe three...wearing only the fleece. Now I can file myself into 'Moments of Awe'.

Unless you are a nun, please take a little look at your habits, good and bad, and keep only the good. Some habits are easy to drop (like the above) and some take years to change slowly, bit by bit. Even if you side-step now and then, just keep returning and walking towards your change. It will come.

Love from

The room above the garage.
A Moodscope member.


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Hopeful One Tue, Jun 23rd 2015 @ 7:29am

Hi RATG- good to hear from you.Have you had your thyroid function checked? That's what a GP would do if you came to him with that complaint/habit.

Rupert Tue, Jun 23rd 2015 @ 8:22am

I like it! I have just brought a new Thunderbirds inspired mug to work today to use in place of my battered old thing but even though I have it here I am facing resistance to getting it out and using it! I always wonder how much of htis behaviour is normal human process and how much is induced by the condition. I wiuld be interested to hear others thoughts. Rupert

Anonymous Tue, Jun 23rd 2015 @ 9:08am

Good morning Hopeful One, I do like your name...have I already said that? It always brings me a sense of calm to my chaos! I am convinced I have a thyroid something. It was tested some years back and I was told it was working as it should. Few years later it came up again in conversation and I was still convinced so went private for a second opinion and more information. Results were good again. But my temperature gauge and my unending tiredness disagree. My healthy lifestyle doesn't tally with how bad I can feel. That said, my stress levels are possibly a little to blame!! Love ratg x.

Elizabeth Tue, Jun 23rd 2015 @ 9:17am

Hello everyone, good luck in changing habits :)

Anonymous Tue, Jun 23rd 2015 @ 9:18am

Yes Rupert! That would be me. I'll be the one who would hide a new pair of shoes, try to dirty them up a little and deny they were new rather than have attention. I think it's 50-50. Maybe having those types of feelings mean 'we' are the kind of people prone to depression. That said...everything becomes hard with depression shadowing us and it appears in all kinds of ways. Have you had a cuppa out of the mug yet? You could start with using it for water rather than face the gathering by the kettle! Go Thunderbird! I'm humming the theme... Love ratg x.

Anonymous Tue, Jun 23rd 2015 @ 9:19am

Mental picture of us all dressed as nuns today ;-) Love ratg x.

Mary Blackhurst Hill Tue, Jun 23rd 2015 @ 9:36am

Oh, the pleasures of a new mug..... Rupert, we often feel the same about our new or good clothes; that they are too nice to wear. Other cultures do not share this British habit. Some time ago I was visiting my colleague who works in Brussels. She had recently taken on a South American business partner and was attempting to explain this (uniquely British) phenomenon. "Oh, will *you* explain to her?" she asked. So I did my best. Gabriella was clearly perplexed. "But no - it is true," said my colleague, in her delightfully accented voice, "When the British die, they leave a lot of good clothes!" I'll just leave that one with you shall I? And I feel a blog coming on...

Mary Blackhurst Hill Tue, Jun 23rd 2015 @ 9:38am

Well, I would dress as a nun, but I don't do black and white and I would NEVER be seen in public without my lipstick! (If I ever am, then I am deep, but deep, in that depression!) Nice one, RATG!

Julia Tue, Jun 23rd 2015 @ 9:40am

Morning ratg. I am going to choose one (of millions) of my bad habits today, see it, see a new one and do the new habit. I haven't decided yet which one but think it could well be, changing the instant feeling of "yuk I haven't slept yet again feeling" on waking. I could say instead "Yay! I feel great" It seems doable now but not so sure it will tomorrow. Maybe I should try another one.Mmmm you got me thinking or as Mick Hucknall sang Something got me started.. Thanks ratg for a great blog and suggestion.

Julia Tue, Jun 23rd 2015 @ 9:41am

I look ill without lipstick. My desert island essential.

Rupert Tue, Jun 23rd 2015 @ 10:17am

It is still in its box - I feel I have missed the moment today since I am now embroiled in the ghastly detail and stresses of the day which seem to have a paralysing effect! Just so you know the mug is a picture of Parker saying "Tea M'Lady" but that may not mean much to the uninitiated..

Anonymous Tue, Jun 23rd 2015 @ 11:40am

I just wanted to add about habits more widely and about how much of our behaviours generally are habitual from the very moment we get up....the side of the bed we jump/crawl(!)out off, where in the cupboard we grab our mug/cup/cereal box from in a morning, where we sit to breakfast, the arm we put first into said fleece,the hand we drink our tea with,the finger we scratch our head with etc etc!!!! of course a lot of this is necessary to get us through our day in a timely and probably safe manner. But maybe today you could waken your senses and flex those neurons further by mixing things up a bit....store things in a different place, turn the light on with your other hand. Just little changes in routine compared with the more 'personal' bad habits perhaps. A little tip passed to me from a sparkly eyed and alert 80 year old. Jen xxx

Karen Tue, Jun 23rd 2015 @ 12:12pm

'Thank you, Parker, just milk in mine!' Oh Rupert, it's not too late...get the mug out now...it's nearly yunch time! Go celebrate with a coffee, tea, hot choccit or even Earl Grey...to match Parker and M'lady's style!!! Go, run to the kettle...now!
Rupert says, 'Yes, M'lady!'

Anonymous Tue, Jun 23rd 2015 @ 12:15pm

I picture you Mary, as one of the nuns in the Whoopee Goldberg film, with sparkly bits and lipstick!!! Lol!
Karen x

Anonymous Tue, Jun 23rd 2015 @ 12:19pm

Hi Julia, sometimes I try and pretend something to just get 'over' the problem and it doesn't always work as I know I am lying to myself! Perhaps if you say, 'well, I didn't sleep completely well, but a few (hours???)..is better than the other night when I was awake more than asleep!!' Spinning the habit of not enough sleep into a little more positive. Karen x

Anonymous Tue, Jun 23rd 2015 @ 12:21pm

Aw, what a wonderful sparkly-eyed 80 year old he/she is...wise words! They do say we should mix things up and perhaps try brushing our teeth with the brush in the other hand..! K x

Jac Tue, Jun 23rd 2015 @ 12:28pm

This was very timely for me. A good tip......now where on earth to start......!!! Little by little I think. I will start spotting procrastination as it rears it's head and go for action instead! Thank you RATG, Jac

Anonymous Tue, Jun 23rd 2015 @ 12:29pm

RATG - you are awesome - you stepped out of a habit and definitively your comfort zone! I did it too this morning but have only just seen your blog.
I decided I'd put a dress on today and turn up for my hair appointment looking quite nice for a change, instead of t shirt and jeans. I sat and froze and shivered as it is brr cold in Cambridgeshire today!!! Lol! Home now, cuppa tea in spotty mug (wish I had a Thunderbirds mug!) and have got dressed appropriately! Now in t shirt, sweatshirt, trousers and socks.....have had ears lowered and sparkly bits coloured in and am.toastywarm.com

Jac Tue, Jun 23rd 2015 @ 1:28pm

Nice one toasty warm x

Anonymous Tue, Jun 23rd 2015 @ 5:49pm

Oh this is so true Rupert, and Mary;
Rupert, for me I think it would be an underlying feeling of "I am not worth this" which prevents me from enjoying things I have bought (still tripping over a bag with a beautiful new skirt in, that I haven't looked at since I bought - and I am too ashamed to admit just how long that is ... even amongst all you lovely accepting, non-judging Moodscopers!)
Not sure that it's about attracting attention though RATG;

Great blog RATG - thank-you.

I once did a piece of "silly" research; I wanted to see how easy it would be to change a habit - so I swapped hands for brushing my teeth; I thought it would take a week, maybe two; it actually took me six weeks! Maybe I am just a slow learner ...
Frankie

Rupert Tue, Jun 23rd 2015 @ 6:23pm

Update. The mug still hasnt seen the light of day although I have enjoyed reading your comments! I will make it my mission to use it when I get in tomorrow. Maybe it is because it seemed like a good idea at the time but I cant face having to explain it in a jokey way for what will probably be the whole day! Rupert

Anonymous Tue, Jun 23rd 2015 @ 9:06pm

Ah just go for it! My husband takes the biggest mug he can find and its a Welsh one...which often causes sheep jokes for hours on end! Karen x

Anonymous Tue, Jun 23rd 2015 @ 9:47pm

Rupert,
just say
1. "because I like it"
and if necessary,
add
2. "do you have a problem with that?"
The second is more assertive (if not aggressive) and should stop people in their tracks.
After all, you have the right to your own opinions, likes, dislikes etc.
Good luck!
(and perhaps let us know how you get on!)
Frankie

Hopeful One Wed, Jun 24th 2015 @ 6:40pm

Hi RATG- one can be hypothyroid with seemingly normal value thyroid function texts unless a whole panel of texts is completed. Even then a case exists for a ' therapeutic trial, where one takes thyroxine to see if it makes any difference. There is more information on this on hypothyroidmom.com. Look it up and maybe convince your GP to do all the tests for thyroid function as hypothyroidmom suggests.

Anonymous Wed, Jun 24th 2015 @ 7:34pm

Thank you everyone, i enjoyed hearing all the comments and look forward to seeing if Parker can enter society and come out of his box! I tried commenting last night but had many problems. Anyway, here now. Love ratg x.

Anonymous Wed, Jun 24th 2015 @ 7:36pm

Loving the dress up! I love occasionally getting dressed up but i also love undoing it and letting myself breath :-) love ratg x.

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