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Do or Don't? Monday July 13, 2015

Sometimes life can be simpler.

Most of us run a balance sheet that details what we do have and what we don't have. One of the great things we usually have is 'choice'. On any specific day, we can choose which accounts to present to our conscious awareness. Then, whatever we pay attention to tends to expand in our awareness. And, along with that awareness come all the emotions associated with those thoughts.

So, today, I can choose to concentrate on what I don't have... (and I'm not even going to drag the tone down with the long list of what my moany-mind can generate when I compare what I don't have with what I suppose others do have. It's an energy sucking exercise!)

Of course, today, I'm suggesting we concentrate on what we do have. And I'm going to go further and suggest we write it down. For reasons that are becoming clearer to psychologists (such as the areas of the brain that light up when we write), it seems writing stuff down is much more effective than thinking about matters or even talking through things.

What DO I have (as an example to get us started)?

1) New friends through Moodscope - friends that understand me and whom I understand and appreciate;
2) A way of measuring my shifts in mindset - as many times as I choose to take the test - enabling me to spot trends and helping buddies support me (and vice versa);
3) A track record of surviving every challenge I've faced over the years;
4) A comfortable place to sleep each night;
5) A love of learning that has enabled me to continue to grow throughout life;
6) A love of Nature that has kept me delighted with the shift of the Seasons;
7) The ability to touch-type (a learned ability!) that enables me to think quickly on my finger-tips;
8) A passion for making a difference that has kept me motivated and engaged for the vast majority of my life;
9) The ability to read and a love of books;
10) Access to whole new worlds of experience through the Internet.

Feeling better already!

So what's on your list?

How quickly can you generate a list of 10 things you DO have?

A Moodscope member.

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Hopeful One Mon, Jul 13th 2015 @ 8:39am

Hi Lex- a great post.And yes I managed to write down 10 things of things I have. As I was doing that I became aware of my NUTS ( Negative unconscious thoughts) which seemed to be useless, undermining and unhelpful. By bringing them in this awarenes I was able to by pass them before they could be establised and ruin my effort. Did anybody else experience the same?

Julia Mon, Jul 13th 2015 @ 8:46am

Hi Lex. I bought Richard Wiseman's book, 59 Seconds on your recommendation. So far I love it and did his writing exercise over one week. It hardly took any time (59 seconds each day!) but the benefit to me has been enormous. So thank you! Books, riding my bike, Moodscope, my list is similar to yours and is growing in my mind as I write. Great blog for a Monday, great blog for any day.

Anonymous Mon, Jul 13th 2015 @ 10:34am

Lex, i'm so glad you have always had a 'passion to make a difference' because you've certainly made a difference in my quest for wholeness....and i know i'm not alone in saying that. Your emphasis lately on choice...and your comment about 'creating' rather than 'finding' yourself...have been so good (just a few amongst many). And today you've written the most positive blog with a vitally important focus. Thank you, thank you again for all! susan xx

Anonymous Mon, Jul 13th 2015 @ 10:40am

Hi Hopeful, i love this NUTS thing! Gives 'nutsy' a whole new meaning! And yes, becoming aware of the nuts and choosing to ignore them is key. I wonder what happens in that space between the two? Thank you. susan xx

The Entertrainer Mon, Jul 13th 2015 @ 10:48am

Dearest Susan,
Thank you so much for this encouragement.
That 'creating' rather than 'finding' myself has really set me free, so I'm glad it's working for you too.
I think I'll go and buy the plaque I saw it on as a 'thank you' to the artist.
My sincere hope is that your list of 10 haves today will really lift your heart.

The Entertrainer Mon, Jul 13th 2015 @ 10:50am

Dearest Julia,
Isn't it great when we take a piece of action that pays off.
Richard Wiseman does what he says on his surname!
My guest this morning on the breakfast show was talking about how he loves to cycle in the countryside around here... at night!
I had a vision of him under the Milky Way!
Have a great day,

The Entertrainer Mon, Jul 13th 2015 @ 10:53am

I'm just NUTS about it too!

Leah Mon, Jul 13th 2015 @ 11:04am

I am going to buy the 59 seconds book on yours and Julia's recommnedations!
Thanks for your blog. I am also reading a book that suggests writing lists whenever you have to wait somewhere , so will add this to my list of lists. I suppose it is similiar to the gratitude journals that were popular a few years ago. What I found helpful with these gratitude or what I have lists, is to write them in a book and date them. It has been interesting for me to see what I was writing ten years ago.
Once again thanks for a blog that makes me think.

Anonymous Mon, Jul 13th 2015 @ 11:32am

Mmm...Milky Way.....chocolate and NUTS!!! Lolilol!
There's a midnight starry walk coming up for our local hospice...I'm thinking of joining! Karen x

The Entertrainer Mon, Jul 13th 2015 @ 11:35am

And Dearest Hopeful One,
Now that I can respond in more detail, I'm wondering if your Negative Unconscious Thoughts coming to light like this is actually really helpful. I'm with Susan on this. While they remain unconscious, I'm sure they can do a lot of damage. Becoming aware of them and then choosing to think a different way seems very healthy to me.

Anonymous Mon, Jul 13th 2015 @ 11:35am

Hi Alex,
I wholeheartedly agree with everyone so far! A super blog with so much encouragement to all but not a huge task that can makes us feel overwhelmed. Bright and cheery does it for me today to lift the gloom of the weather! (Raining in Cambridgeshire!) thank you so much, Lex. Karen x

The Entertrainer Mon, Jul 13th 2015 @ 11:37am

He Snickers.... tee hee ha haa!
Of course, you might see Mars.
That's be a Bounty wouldn't it.
So if you get caught Twix two choices... I'd choose the chocolate as the best Topic of focus...

Anonymous Mon, Jul 13th 2015 @ 11:38am

...the trouble with these nuts is they are teeny tiny and can pop up when you least expect them to and cause the biggest amount of to catch them before they take hold is, like HO says, key to a happier and healthier day. Karen x

Anonymous Mon, Jul 13th 2015 @ 11:40am

You do realise you are spoiling my diet here???!!!!
Weigh-in day tomorrow as well!...and all I can think of is chocolate bars!
I am a bear of liddie brain and a bit of a Cadbury fruit and nut as well!

The Entertrainer Mon, Jul 13th 2015 @ 11:45am

My friend called today, "Manky Monday"! It's very grey and drizzly weather wise but I am buoyed up by today's kind comments. Also, of course, I wrote my list when I sent the blog into Caroline... so I get to write another list today!

C A Morgan Mon, Jul 13th 2015 @ 12:53pm

Great reminder to pause and reflect on what we do have and can enjoy. I can pinch a few of your so yours to start me off - love of learning, ability to read & enjoy books, worlds of experience of the internet - as they are definitely in my top 10 so it won't take me long to finish my list.

One of my top 10 that I enjoyed yesterday is the simple pleasure that fresh bedding always gives me!

Thanks Lex

The Entertrainer Mon, Jul 13th 2015 @ 1:47pm

Hi C A Morgan,
Yes! Yes!! Yes!!! to fresh bedding - way up there with "a good shower" and "good coffee". I've found a blend that really works for me now, and everything else is compared against that benchmark.

Anonymous Mon, Jul 13th 2015 @ 2:06pm

Hello Hopeful One, I've been struggling with my nuts since I read Lex's blog first thing! I knew I was a man. Thank you for giving me a name for my struggle. I can begin to draw up armour for it now. Love ratg xx.

Anonymous Mon, Jul 13th 2015 @ 2:10pm

Hello Msr, I made a feeble mental list of two before my nuts crushed me! Clearly I need to find a beautiful piece of paper and a pen and apply myself properly!!!! I'm distracted today and so I know I can do better. And I thank you for challenging my fuddled muddle :-) love ratg x.

The Entertrainer Mon, Jul 13th 2015 @ 2:51pm

Sending a Lexi Cuddle into your Fuddled Muddle!

The Entertrainer Mon, Jul 13th 2015 @ 4:06pm

You're welcome, Leah...
...and you may recall several contributors to the Moodscope blogs have also mentioned GTD (Getting Things Done) by David Allen. Alongside the therapeutic and reflective power of lists and writing, he adds another dimension. It seems that when we have started something or know we need to start something, we open a psychological loop that needs to be closed. Writing lists of things that need to get done can help reduce the pressure these loops can put us under. Seems that the writing is a promise to ourselves that the task will be dealt with, and so our working memory doesn't have to keep reminding us.
Your point about dating your lists and writing them in a book where you can find them again and review them is genius - that would be such a powerful reflective tool for me - thank you.

Hopeful One Mon, Jul 13th 2015 @ 4:27pm

Hi Guys - thanks for your take. Was it not Freud who summed up psychoanalysis by saying that its whole purpose was to make the 'unconscious conscious ' as he believed that the majority of our psychological problems resided in the unconscious ?.Seems like Lex's exercise inadvertently achieved that in my case !

Mary Blackhurst Hill Mon, Jul 13th 2015 @ 8:10pm

With you on the beautiful paper and beautiful pen RATG! Ooh, ooh, let me share just a little with you please..... Well, my life purpose (look if you're the kind of person who groans at the very thought of someone having a life purpose just stop reading now - OK? Just stop. Move along. Nothing to see here. Pauses. Whispers "have they gone yet? Are we safe?") Well, my life purpose is to create beauty and generate joy while having fun. Sounds good, doesn't it? And totally fits in with my job as an image consultant and my passion as a writer of romantic fiction. Any joy you get from the Moodscope blogs helps too - so do let me know, OK? Well, just this last week I had one of those lightbulb moments where I realised that I need to do it for me too! (Duh. Facepalm.) So I'm decluttering and beautifying my work space so that it's an area of joy and calm and peace and harmony. Oh, and butterflies. I like butterflies. So yes, Lex. I will write my list. I have ordered that book of which you speak. Thank you not only for your blog above, but all the lovely comments it has triggered. Love you as always.

The Entertrainer Mon, Jul 13th 2015 @ 8:55pm

Yes, Dearest Mary, a good day today...
We Moodscopers have considered, we have smiled, and written, and counted our blessings.
And I certainly needed to today!!!

Di Murphey Tue, Jul 14th 2015 @ 1:20am

Dearest Entertrainer ~
I am late responding yet I had to tell you I used your post as a strategy for making a dear friend laugh. She is in the end stage of lung cancer and is with Hospice Care.

We concentrated really hard. She got to number twelve of the blessings she could think to list and she began to smile, then chuckle, and then we both experienced fall-down gut-wrenching belly laughs.

To think, as she lay dying, she could be thankful. Thank you, my friend.

leah Tue, Jul 14th 2015 @ 3:33am

What a wonderful friend you have and are. I was laughing and crying as I read your comment.
Thank you

The Entertrainer Tue, Jul 14th 2015 @ 5:02pm

Oh Di,
I'm with Leah on this one - you've made me laugh and cry.
You're amazing and so it your friend.
Sending much love

DawnC.Ritchie Wed, Jul 15th 2015 @ 2:47pm

I too love the 'create yourself' instead of find yourself. If I am needing to 'find' myself, I am already unhappy with myself, so instead of concentrating on the negative of what I am unhappy about, I'm going to get myself down to the craft shop and create my future, all the while smiling and being happy! Then I will forget all about the bits I'm not happy with. I can see a perfectly happy future in doing this :D
Thank you so very much Lexi.
Dawn x

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