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Decisions! Decisions! Part 1: The Big Ones. Thursday February 15, 2018

I have a friend who loves the phrase "I used to be decisive but now I'm not so sure". But that is actually me. Or maybe I didn't used to be decisive. I can't decide on that either.

Regardless, these days I struggle with decisions; putting too much pressure on choosing the "perfect" option as though my entire wellbeing depends upon it. This is one of two blog posts sharing newfound perspectives on decision making.

First up: The Big Ones.

Right now I'm facing a mass of big decisions: children's education, whether to move house, whether I go back to work, and if so what my career might be. They're huge, life changing decisions and are so entwined that I can't tease them apart to see the wood from the trees. And of course trying to find that "perfect" solution was increasing my anxiety and unbalancing my perilous mental state.

But during one long winded discussion about it, I had an epiphany: it's simply not possible to plan out the next 5 years, let alone 10-20 years. There are too many unknowns. Unexpected opportunities may arise. So much could change. The realisation came like a clearing in the forest; a calm glade with a shaft of sunshine lighting the way. So I made one decision; the best decision I could make for the next year. And after that I will see.

Instantly the other decisions melted away; replaced by a huge sense of relief. Making a short term decision felt "right", comfortable and not too daunting. So next time I start to lose my way and get bogged down with The Big Ones, I'll pause, focus on choosing what works for now, and leave the adventures of the future as an exciting surprise.

Perhaps this might help others too?

With definite love

Shizzle
A Moodscope member.

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