Comfort zone stay or leave? Sunday August 20, 2017
My neighbour was telling us how good she felt venturing out of her comfort zone, travelling for a few days by herself to a big city to go to visit an art gallery. She rarely goes away by herself as it makes her anxious so she was so pleased that she made the effort and had a good time.
A friend who heard this story, said to me later that she often hears and reads the term 'comfort zone' and how it appears we are constantly pressured to move out of our 'comfort zone.' She then confessed, against popular thought, that she likes the term comfort zone and has no wish to leave it.
She explained it took her a long time and many years of depression and sickness and struggle to reach a Comfort Zone. She wondered when did 'comfort' become a negative word?
I agree that Comfort is good, and feels warm, snuggly and healing.
While it is a great place to be in when the depression, insecurity, self doubts hits hard, it can be a place of retreat, where just being may be the best thing one can do at that time.
That does not mean that I always want to stay in that safe place. There are times for me when I need to experience something different. I know I always have soft place to land.
I wonder if part of liking ourselves is knowing when it is okay to be in our comfort zone, and to have the strength and ability to experience a new activity.
For some, staying in the comfort zone may mean that they are preventing themselves from growing or experiencing life. Maybe we can still do that from our comfort zone.
There is no point in pushing yourself out of your comfort zone to do public speaking, dancing or mountain climbing if you have no interest in those activities.
Once we feel better we can venture to try things which fit with our values or we would like to try.
So, are you someone who feels he/she has struggled so hard to have a comfort zone that leaving it is not an option?
Do you want to give three cheers for your comfort zone and say don't pressure me to leave as I took so long to get here?
What you have done when you moved out of your comfort zone and how did it feel?
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